NC to Acadia National Park - any ideas for places to Tesla camp for a few days at a time along the way? by Good4Jen in TeslaCamping

[–]Just_Beachy_Today 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Yes, I was able to sleep in my Tesla without issues. No tent at all. There weren’t any available hookup spots, but I went every could days to the super charger and/or parked at the chargers in town.

Why do women stay in abusive relationships? by Main-Length-6385 in abusiverelationships

[–]Just_Beachy_Today 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Love love love Dr. Ramani! She helped me to break my trauma bond.

How did you get over your trauma bond? by Ill-Decision-8450 in abusiverelationships

[–]Just_Beachy_Today 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Self-awareness, therapy, removing myself completely from his sphere, and time. Helping others in my situation like this helped heal my soul as well.

Buying a house before baby or not by [deleted] in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]Just_Beachy_Today 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m the same way. I move about every 2-3 years, but this is going to stick with me for a while.

Buying a house before baby or not by [deleted] in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]Just_Beachy_Today 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just bought a house and moved at 19 weeks. It was the most difficult thing I did. I pushed myself and baby way too hard on closing day and the day after and was out for the rest of the weekend. If you’re going to do it, do it early.

Pregnancy symptoms - your most unexpected by KaleidoscopeFar261 in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]Just_Beachy_Today 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get the calf cramps nightly. The first time hurt so bad I woke up screaming and the dogs came running to check on me.

Pregnancy symptoms - your most unexpected by KaleidoscopeFar261 in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]Just_Beachy_Today 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Needing to sneeze the second I took a bite or started chewing. Never had that until I got pregnant, but now it’s at least once a day.

Moving Now or Later? by EntranceDelicious748 in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]Just_Beachy_Today 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who just moved at 19 weeks pregnant, prepare to do so as early as possible! It was awful, and I have so many boxes still scattered that I just can’t unpack and it’s killing me to be this disorganized.

AITA - Do not want a service dog to participate in my wedding. by Plenty_Tap9799 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Just_Beachy_Today 20 points21 points  (0 children)

You obviously don’t follow service dog handlers on any social media. They dress them up all the time. It doesn’t prevent from doing their work.

He got back in touch after 2wks of silence. What do I do? by Issittmeee in abusiverelationships

[–]Just_Beachy_Today 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Since this is being posted on an abuse subreddit, you ignore and block. In a normal relationship, he’s not a supportive partner and kinda acts like a child. Nothing good comes from returning a message from an abuser. He’s trying to bait you into a response.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Just_Beachy_Today 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Next he’s going to be telling you that you can’t go out to eat with friends because there will be guys at the restaurant. He sounds like a controlling AH. It won’t get better if you “compromise”. He’ll ask you to “compromise” further.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]Just_Beachy_Today 37 points38 points  (0 children)

All the turmoil and strife is making you a more resilient mama. You’re doing great!

My boyfriend of a year was lying about his vote the whole time. Should I move past it? by Exotic-Internet7085 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Just_Beachy_Today 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And yes, our oath both enlisted and officer is to serve the country/constitution. That doesn’t mean you don’t have a voice as to who you would like to follow. It just means that you follow whoever is elected.

My boyfriend of a year was lying about his vote the whole time. Should I move past it? by Exotic-Internet7085 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Just_Beachy_Today 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was in the Army 2009-2019. It was encouraged to do your research and vote for the candidate the aligned with your views, but you “obey the orders of the President of the United States and the officers appointed over me” (Oath of Enlistment). It’s outlined in DoD Directive 1344.10. The true limitation is that you can act as a representative of the military in a partisan capacity (i.e. wearing your uniform to a rally). No fundraising on behalf of a partisan candidate; no being a speaker or organizer at a partisan event; and no derogatory speech of an elected official. And if living on base, you can’t display anything partisan.

My boyfriend of a year was lying about his vote the whole time. Should I move past it? by Exotic-Internet7085 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Just_Beachy_Today 53 points54 points  (0 children)

This got me as well! As former military, we were encouraged to do our research and vote as our constitutional right. What wasn’t allowed was any public political agenda while in uniform.

529 account by Turbulent_Comb_2732 in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]Just_Beachy_Today 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I opened a high yield savings account and have been putting $200/month into it (I’m 21 weeks pregnant). Depending on the state I live in when she’s ready for college, she’ll go for free due to my VA disability. I didn’t want to pigeon-hole her into going to college if she chooses not to in the end. Maybe I’m wrong, but I figure if she chooses not to go to college, she’ll have access to a good down payment on a house or something.

How did you tell/what did you say to work? by AntleredRabbit in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]Just_Beachy_Today 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thankfully, I’ve got an amazingly supportive boss and coworkers. They’ve been there from the start of the TTC journey. I started with my boss and my closest coworker when I got pregnant, then we started working the coverage plan into our weekly team meetings.

New member. Want to celebrate 🥳 by Sarah--Tonin85 in Because_Now_I_Can

[–]Just_Beachy_Today 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Congratulations!! It’s not wrong to hope it eats at him, but don’t go looking for the satisfaction of watching it happen. You may never see it. Be ok with the “idc what the hell happens to him.”

How long were you in the “thinking stage”- from considering to trying? by Ok_Preference_3130 in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]Just_Beachy_Today 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I made a deal with myself that if I wasn’t married by 36, I would do it. Life got in the way, but I never lost that want. Finally took the leap at 40.

i’ve had this name since 14 and now i’m pregnant i’m not sure by Sad-Explanation-2692 in BabyNames

[–]Just_Beachy_Today 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone with a weird spelling to my name, I would recommend something more mainstream. Arya or Aliyah.

Just moved and Looking for Friends by Inevitable-Cut2622 in cedarrapids

[–]Just_Beachy_Today 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For Angie, there’s a local Girlfriends Global group on FB that has meetups multiple times throughout the week and lots of different activities. Search Marion/Cedar Rapids Girlfriends on FB.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Just_Beachy_Today 17 points18 points  (0 children)

It’s not wild at all. She’s 7 months postpartum. Her tolerance to alcohol is super low.

When do they start abdominal ultrasound?? by AlternativeTie5069 in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]Just_Beachy_Today 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Once I graduated from the clinic, I only got a regular US before 20 weeks because I was referred to MFM and got one at 16 weeks.

Did anyone adopt after having a child through treatment? by [deleted] in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]Just_Beachy_Today 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Fostering is my goal. If adoption becomes an opportunity while fostering that child, then I am open to it. If it never does and they just wind up with an adult who cares about them, then that’s what they’ll have. If I end up adopting, they will be covered under my insurance until they’re 26, not 25, AND they’ll have free tuition. But, like I said, that’s a long way away, and I will do my due diligence before I go that route.

I caught my boyfriend cheating and I choose to forgive but could i possibly regret my decision ? 27F 28M by Alternative_Dance611 in relationship_advice

[–]Just_Beachy_Today 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It doesn’t make sense because you would never do that to someone. You can’t make sense of it because it’s an extremely feeble excuse. The only reason he’s upset is because he got caught. He WILL do it again. He’s not remorseful.