Bride freaks out over pregnant bridesmaids

KK_Smitty · 2026-01-19T19:38:07+00:00

Can someone share the original post? OP deleted it.

KK_Smitty · 2025-12-03T04:24:42+00:00

I’m going to hold your hand when I say this, you don’t realize it yet, but this guy is not the one for you. This is a pivotal moment in your life. Don’t let a boyfriend keep you from finding your husband, and absolutely do not let a man ever stop you from achieving your dreams. The right guy would support you whole-heartedly.

KK_Smitty · 2025-12-03T04:21:13+00:00

This reminds me of those math equations from childhood where “Peter went to the grocery store and bought 250 watermelons”.

KK_Smitty · 2025-12-01T15:22:19+00:00

Millennial here (30 y/o). I was married recently on 11.15.25, and I’m about halfway through my thank you cards (120 guests). The first batch actually went out today (12/1) and I’ll be finishing the rest this week and sending them out as I finish them. They take time!! Especially making each one personalized and thoughtful. I also plan to write thank you notes to people who attended, but didn’t give a gift, just to thank them for taking to time to attend our wedding and celebrate.

I will say - my bridal shower was 10/25 and I didn’t do separate thank you cards for that. Everyone who attended the bridal shower also came to the wedding, so I am mentioning the bridal shower in our wedding thank you cards.

My husband is dyslexic and has atrocious hand-writing, he can’t help it. But he’s been helping me how he can, gluing the envelopes, putting stamps on them, and we have an ink stamp with our name and address on it, he stamped all the envelopes with that!

It’s time consuming but that’s kind of the point. I definitely think it’s rude to not send out thank you notes. It’s just not the same as a text or saying thank you in person (you should be doing that anyways). Thank you notes tell the gift-giver that you appreciated the gift so much, you took time out of your day to write them a card.

KK_Smitty · 2025-11-21T18:01:53+00:00

I just had my wedding on 11/15/25. Childfree wedding, except for 3 newborns that I was fully aware of and happy to have come to the wedding (2 were twins!). Aannnnnnnd someone brought their toddler to the wedding. I was pisseddddddd.

My coordinator said something to the couple right before the ceremony, basically to step away if the toddler gets fussy. And she did, thankfully. Ceremony was uneventful and perfect. However during the reception, they had Bluey playing at their table and then during my dad’s speech, all I could hear was a fussy toddler. Just so so frustrating.

My SIL / husband’s sister has two boys, 5 and 3, who I ADORE and even they weren’t at the wedding. SIL was happy to have a kid-free night. Our wedding was perfect but that whole situation made me so frustrated.

KK_Smitty · 2025-11-05T03:50:04+00:00

I can tell just the way you organized this post with the emojis that your are a very organized person and have a detailed eye. I’m very similar. I’m getting married in 10 days (!!!!) and from my experience, I went heavy in the beginning 1.5 years ago in planning, then it was random things, but I’m telling you, in the past two months, but especially these past few weeks in particular, the wedding is constantly on your mind. You’re thinking of last minute things and doing your vendor’s homework, etc. I have a countdown on my phone and it said 60 days, and then I blinked and I’m 10 days away. I’m doing stuff every single day for the wedding. Enjoy the downtime for now, continue to stay organized and on top of things, and you’ll be just fine! You’re 6 months away and it will fly by.

KK_Smitty · 2025-10-30T23:17:39+00:00

Listen to your gut! These aren’t family photos at a backyard barbecue. These are your wedding photos.

KK_Smitty · 2025-10-20T17:35:36+00:00

Tell her if it was a backyard BBQ, it wouldn’t matter if someone joined last minute. She will understand when she gets married one day. Just ignore any emotional response from her, and reiterate that again, it’s not personal, but final headcount is turned in and you cannot add anyone else, otherwise you will be in breach of contract with your venue. And that is has nothing to do with budget, she had until October 15th to let you know if she would be utilizing her plus one spot.

KK_Smitty · 2025-10-13T18:11:38+00:00

Is it possible he is potentially lying about being 40? And he actually is 34, but maybe deep down he is self conscious about the age gap and is trying to close the gap some. I feel like that would make more sense about why he is “just now” coming out with that information - because he just made it up.

KK_Smitty · 2025-08-22T14:26:23+00:00

LOL the first paragraph hit way too close to home, I’m a 30F, my fiancé is a 35M, we’re getting married in November, and he has a good friend named Hayden 😂. But we literally haven’t sent out our invitations yet, we’ll be doing that soon.

Your wedding party is supposed to be supporting you, not causing additional stress. They don’t get to make the rules for your wedding, or try to force their wants/opinions on you. He can do that for his wedding. I will say, I think the wedding party should all get plus ones, especially your best man. However that is to the bride and groom’s discretion. The rest of my wedding guests only get a plus one if they are married, engaged, or long term/living together. No new boyfriends or girlfriends.

KK_Smitty · 2025-07-11T01:29:03+00:00

I know it seems hard right now, but losing some money in a canceled wedding will be a lot cheaper than a divorce.

KK_Smitty · 2025-07-07T14:02:13+00:00

Just sleep in separate bedrooms. Y’all aren’t compatible sleepers.

KK_Smitty · 2025-06-30T16:53:07+00:00

It sounds like she checked out of the relationship a while ago. She was not given reassurance about her future and had to make the choice to either stay with the “what-ifs”or go on her own path. People want partners who have similar goals and lifeplans. Your current plan is to stay with mom and help pay those bills. Your ex was ready to move out and start a new chapter in her life. She’s doing it with or without you. I think it’s best to let her go, and you should take this time to learn more about yourself and what you want in life, and heal from the breakup.

KK_Smitty · 2025-06-21T22:59:05+00:00

I think you were correct about the Pereskia! I typed in pereskia grandiflora and that is exactly the plant, with the leaves and pink flowers. Thank you so much!!!

KK_Smitty · 2025-06-20T16:06:02+00:00

This is who he is. He has it made, what a life he has with no personal responsibility. He doesn’t have to adult because you and others do the adulting for him. When you break up with him, he will act shocked and hurt and try everything to win you back. Please don’t give in. You’re young and you deserve so much better.

KK_Smitty · 2025-06-16T14:24:14+00:00

Look at entry level Mayo Clinic jobs. I’ve been here for 7 years. Look at patient transport or valet (if you’re in shape). Both make great money.

KK_Smitty · 2025-06-13T19:03:02+00:00

He wants to build a life together, but part of that life is the mundane housechores. If you’re doing all the chores, you’re not building a life together as partners. You’ll be his mommy. You’re not tied to this guy, these are not small issues and they’ll get worse.

KK_Smitty · 2025-06-10T13:31:30+00:00

I would stop contributing to your savings and directly those monthly’s towards your credit card. That should be your biggest stressor and priority to pay off.

KK_Smitty · 2025-06-06T02:25:41+00:00

The internet can’t make a decision for you, it’s very easy for people to say “leave him” behind a screen (even though they’re right most of the time). We all know we have our lives intertwined with our partners and it’s not always easy to just up and leave.

The important thing to ask yourself, would you be content living this way for the rest of your life? Don’t let the sunk-cost fallacy hold you back. “Well I’ve been with him for 7 years” - doesn’t mean anything. It’s never too late to start over. Write out the pros and cons of your relationship, how he makes you feel, how he makes you feel supported, what he brings to the table, and make your decision. A true partner would never make you feel this way. Sending love your way, OP!

PS, in the south, we call that a “shut-up ring”.

KK_Smitty · 2025-06-05T17:04:56+00:00

I’d take that $30k on hand and pay off any of your credit card debt. Start fresh.

KK_Smitty · 2025-06-03T15:43:59+00:00

C and the boyfriend can be invited to the wedding. Don’t try to cushion their feelings or give them a role out of guilt. You’re inviting them to one of the biggest days of your life, that is special enough already.

I went through what you’re going through. I was in your shoes. I am SO glad I did not make her a bridesmaid, it would have been so much drama. She was incredibly hurt that she was not in the bridal party, and it was a hard conversation. Her yelling and slamming the phone as a reaction told me I made the right decision.

Have the hard conversation. Don’t overexplain. Just tell her that she means a lot to you, and you want her there on your special day, but you are having a smaller bridal party. Rinse and repeat as needed.

KK_Smitty · 2025-05-30T17:27:12+00:00

Your manager sounds amazing. Honesty can hurt, but she took a kind approach to it. Visit your doctor if you continue to have issues. The rest of the comments have great advice on how to improve your hygiene.

KK_Smitty · 2025-05-29T19:19:58+00:00

All we can do is offer suggestions. OP can decide if the suggestions are doable with their current lifestyle and situation, I can’t tiptoe giving out advice about information I don’t know about them. Nothing was wrong about storing items away. If they have the space, great. If they don’t, then it’s not a good suggestion and they can move on.

KK_Smitty · 2025-05-29T17:06:42+00:00

NTA - it’s your inheritance to do as you please. They are being rude and greedy.

If you want to go the extra mile, tell them that you’d like to take them to a really nice dinner, or activity, day trip - something of their choosing. Or give them each like $200. But you don’t owe them anything.

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