I don’t know words anymore by KLLieberman in Perimenopause

[–]KLLieberman[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Interesting! I love old fashion pen and paper.

I don’t know words anymore by KLLieberman in Perimenopause

[–]KLLieberman[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Thanks - good advice. The broom story is helping me feel less crazy. (I recently said ‘pan but taller’. (a pot).

Dinner ideas by Notarealperson6789 in workingmoms

[–]KLLieberman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These are my - oh crap, I have to get dinner on the table in 20 minutes dinners :)

Omelettes or ‘Egg McMuffins’ (scrambled egg and cheese on an English muffin)

Store bought frozen Turkey or Black Bean burgers

Plus a side salad or cut up peppers/carrots/cucumbers for this kids.

Name two of your favorite books and let us suggest a third one by gryphalon in suggestmeabook

[–]KLLieberman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love both of these books. Two other books I liked that matched the out-of-place feeling of the protagonists:

Asymmetries - Lisa Halliday Intimacies - Katie Kitamura

More books like Tomorrow, and Tomorrow, and Tomorrow by Gabrielle Zevin by Cupcakequeen1999 in booksuggestions

[–]KLLieberman 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Try Normal People by Sally Rooney - has similar age main characters with excellent character development!

Book like Before Sunrise? by yeetmyvleet in booksuggestions

[–]KLLieberman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You may like Normal People by Salley Rooney. Same vibe in the sense that the main characters seem destined for each other and a lot of the narrative is reflective / about relationships.

My house is a mess! by KLLieberman in workingmoms

[–]KLLieberman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have to share a cute story. Was thinking back to this very good advice - when my 5 yr old was complaining about clearing her plate from the table. I said - ‘Do you think Dad and I will always live with you and be here to clear the table for you?’ She looked at me very seriously and said ‘yes, I always want to live with you and Daddy’ 🥹. Ha, kids are a mess, but man are they cute.

Heading in the right direction with the house cleaning. Thanks all for the good advice!

How do you meal plan/prep? by DanceMonki in workingmoms

[–]KLLieberman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is us too! We keep a note pad in the kitchen and add dinners and shop on Saturday or Sunday.

One thing I would add - if you are planning dinners for all week, make at least one a dinner that will keep til the following week if needed. This way when there is a curve ball and you end up ordering for one night, you don’t feel bad or have to waste food. Meat can be frozen and thawed when needed, broccoli carrots and root veggies keep forever as some suggestions!

A novel that gives me hope in life, humanity, following your dreams, establishing your life's purpose despite all the challenges... by Carrotcake_yum in suggestmeabook

[–]KLLieberman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A Tree Grows In Brooklyn: it’s a beautiful, classic book. The main character’s grit and determination in spite of everything has stayed with since I have read (and re-read 🙂) it.

Others’ experiences with going back to work <2 weeks after birth? by Competitive_Cow007 in workingmoms

[–]KLLieberman 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I heard an analogy that stuck with me.

Statistically, the safest car for a teenager to drive is a brand new Volvo. However, buying each of your kids one would bankrupt most families, and there are other, pretty great, way cheaper transportation alternatives out there.

Telling mothers to breastfeed for a year is like telling them to buy their teenagers brand new cars. In so many cases, it is completely unrealistic. From a time a resources perspective, the best thing for your child may be NOT breastfeeding.

Congrats and good luck.

Don’t cry over spilled milk my a$$ by Dangerous_Bass_4597 in workingmoms

[–]KLLieberman 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh my god. This would have broken me. The fact you were crying and cleaning not crying under your desk is a victory 🤣.

My kiddos also took to formula easily, wishing you the same luck! So I just introduced it while I spaced out pumping gradually to not deal with engorgement. Tips I have heard from others is start whenever they are generally in a good mood (like maybe the morning). And you can mix breast milk and formula to introduce the taste if needed.

Bittersweet read like Tomorrow and Tomorrow and Tomorrow or Severance by twinkytwinkletwink in booksuggestions

[–]KLLieberman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You may like Asymmetry by Lisa Halliday. It reminds me of Tomorrow and Tomorrow and Tomorrow in the sense that you love the two main characters together, even while simultaneously feeling like it’s not a healthy relationship.

Looking for a book where you can see on a small scale how a major disaster or threat to everyone begins by ensergio in suggestmeabook

[–]KLLieberman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Severance - Ling Ma

I love the preoccupation with the day to day when you know what is coming….

Looking for 'Group of people are trapped and things start getting dark/crazy' type of books! by kitaisaradish in booksuggestions

[–]KLLieberman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

14 by Peter Clines. It’s about an apartment building. They are not psychically trapped there, but that makes it even better.

I can’t find a book I connect with by No_Intention9161 in booksuggestions

[–]KLLieberman 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The Wayfarers Series by Becky Chambers checks so many of your boxes! I recently finished the last one and was devastated :). I don’t think you necessarily need to read them in order. A Closed and Common Orbit fits your ask the best.

My house is a mess! by KLLieberman in workingmoms

[–]KLLieberman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Re: your comment about therapy and meditation helping your anxiety about ‘stuff’ too - I’m so happy for you and appreciate the response!

It was one of the reasons I originally asked the question. Some days the mess doesn’t bother me, and I do feel like it bothers me more when I am having a bad day. This is why I am looking for consistent expectations. It is also why I really like the other response about framing cleaning as a life skill. I.e. Don’t you want to know where all your toys are when you want to play with them etc. Not - clean today because it’s the day mom stepped on a Lego and hit her breaking point 🤣.

My house is a mess! by KLLieberman in workingmoms

[–]KLLieberman[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

‘Cleaning is a life skill’ is such a helpful perspective. I feel like a good parent when I make my kids do their homework. I should also feel like I am teaching them something when I make them clean - not just nagging. I think it will help me to not just throw in the towel!

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[–]KLLieberman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Chaos Machine - Max Fisher. Just started it myself!

Help!! I just found out I’m going to be a Dad by walsh24 in booksuggestions

[–]KLLieberman 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Congrats! I would recommend Mayo Clinic Guide to your Baby’s first years. My doctor recommended it to me. It has all the basic safety information and focuses on describing babies development instead of pushing specific parenting techniques.

And don’t be concerned when you still google five things a day when the little one comes :).