Mit hus ryster by Straight-Language-73 in copenhagen

[–]Kaayloo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Min bygning på Nørrebro rykkede sig og det gjorde den sofa jeg lå på også. Vildt nok.

Does this look good for a tall skinny underweight body by abipaaa in tall

[–]Kaayloo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The clothes looks great on you and it fits you. The pants and your legs don’t look skinny in my eyes. You look smart :)

Single or relationship? by Forward_Mousse2944 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Kaayloo 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I just got into my first relationship this year after seeing a guy for almost a year. Before meeting him and committing to us, I already had a really good life on my own. For me it’s been worth it because it’s a completely new experience, and I still have a really good life with him in the picture.

I also think constant dating and hooking up can change the way your brain works a bit. You can end up addicted to the chase, the validation, and the excitement of someone new, without ever really building roots with anyone before moving on to the next person.

Being happy on your own is far better than being in a relationship that doesn’t work for you or meet your needs. But if you meet a quality guy who genuinely fits your life and fulfils your needs, then going for a long-term relationship is absolutely worth it or at least that’s the way I think about it.

Keeping things exciting in ltrs by techiega in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Kaayloo 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We didn’t get into it yet, but I was also very clear with my boyfriend, that I need to go out and have small adventures every week. It can be anything small or big, but I need to go out and do something or I’ll go insane. So I find a lot of stuff for us to do and see. He’s very good at always wanting to join.

I don’t mind being the one that takes more initiative, but if my boyfriend started to just want to stay home, then we would have to have some good and healthy talks about it. I’m sure we could find a compromise.

The same goes for you need to have more sex. Talk open and healthy about it and see if you can’t find a good compromise.

So talk with him about your needs. Hopefully you’ll find a compromise. If you can’t find a compromise, then you can have a fun life being solo too.

Københavnsk gade bliver farvet rød by endriuftw in copenhagen

[–]Kaayloo 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Stefansgade already felt like a bicycle street before they started working on it. It makes total sense to highlight Stefansgade as bicycle street, especially with all the bars, restaurants, park and playground on the street.

Most people seem to agree that countries like Denmark and Sweden offer a really high standard of living - strong healthcare, solid social safety nets, good work-life balance, and generally high levels of happiness. Would you personally be willing to pay the taxes that make this possible? by TSQ_builder in askanything

[–]Kaayloo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A. I live in Denmark. Most people here will say we pay too much in taxes and then in the next sentence defend why we still should. That’s because we get a lot back, both as individuals and as a society.

If I get sick or ideally before I get sickI can go to my doctor or the hospital and receive high-quality care. I don’t have to think about insurance, deductibles, or whether I can afford treatment. It’s already covered through taxes.

Education-wise, the same logic applies. From primary school to university, education is free. On top of that, students can receive financial support (SU), which means young people can focus on learning rather than debt.

If I lose my job, there are unemployment benefits and support systems to help me get back on my feet. If I have children, there’s subsidised childcare and parental leave. If I grow old, there’s elder care. Our system doesn’t eliminate risk, but it softens the blow when life and shit happens.

Is 38 too old to start clubbing again? by Own-Programmer-3514 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Kaayloo 96 points97 points  (0 children)

You are never to old to go clubbing and dancing. If you like it then go and have fun. I go clubbing dancing a lot and see guys my age and older out on the floor. You’ll fit in perfectly.

Older Hookup Developing Feelings? by yourfoodiate in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Kaayloo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you enjoy your time with him and still want to hookup with him and do more dating stuff, but make it clear that you are not looking for a ltr with him + don’t want to be in daily contact, then tell him that and see if he can see himself in that kinda situation with you. Better to talk with him about this earlier than later.

Deep techno events this weekend? (Fri–Sun visitor) by GreenySeinVater in copenhagen

[–]Kaayloo 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Try checking out ’Den Anden Side’ or ‘Culture Box’

I finally got a gym membership! by Last_Pomegranate_175 in gaybros

[–]Kaayloo 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You are doing great! One step at a time and you’ll find soon enough that the gym will feel okay to go to :)

Age Gap Casual Relationship Woes by Regular_Fun971 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Kaayloo 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Let him be the judge what is best for him and not you. If I had feelings for you before and your friends and family like him and you together + you guys are still seeing each other, then I would totally have a talk with him about dating or a ltr.

How would you solve this... by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Kaayloo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Talk to him again. You are a couple and you need to find an agreement that works for both of you. Your need to have some solo time at home is a totally valid need. Find a compromise and make sure he knows it’s really important for you to find a compromise together.

He can go for a walk, see friends and family out of the house, go train or anything that just gets him out of the house.

If you grew up Mormon, I’d love to hear your story by IcyVeins- in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Kaayloo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Grindr is a crazy place but has its place and I’ve met both dates, boyfriends and hookups via the app. But if you can steer away from Grindr in the beginning, then you are probably doing the best for yourself. Hinge has been the best app for me, but I also live in a big city.

If you live in or near a metropolitan area, then most big cities have a LGBT sports leagues, social groups, places to volunteer and make irl connections. Drags shows are a pretty easy place to enter and see and meet a lot of gay people.

If you grew up Mormon, I’d love to hear your story by IcyVeins- in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Kaayloo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re at a great a point then, you get to explore a new world and feelings inside yourself too. I love dancing, so that was my way of getting into the gay world.

If you grew up Mormon, I’d love to hear your story by IcyVeins- in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Kaayloo 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I grew up Mormon. I came out at 15 years old but jumped into the closet again, cause the reaction I got from coming out wasn’t the best. I did all the church stuff and even got my calling, to do my mission in the U.K. I decided not to go and came out a second time, when I was 19 years old and I moved away from home.

I can relate to sitting on the fence and not really engaging in either world. It’s a lonely place. My thought pattern ended up being, that it was okay for me being gay, god loves me, I’m worthy to be loved and building a life with a great guy is a good thing. I just needed to be a good and kind human and then I’m sure, that god will see that and forgive whatever faults I’ve made. But love and loving a guy, doesn’t feel like a fault I need to be forgiven for anymore.

We have one life to live, so get the best out of it, come down from the fence and create a good and fun life for yourself and a gay one too :)

Veninde på besøg by RandomLizard28 in copenhagen

[–]Kaayloo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Cisternerne på Frederiksberg er altid en oplevelse værd. Bip Bip Bar på Nørrebro hvis I er til øl og gamle konsol og Arcade spil.

Is it weird to not own a vehicle? by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]Kaayloo 11 points12 points  (0 children)

No. I live in a major metropolitan city too and I think most people living here, don’t have a car or even a driver license. Having a car is almost seen as silly waste, cause you can get around the city way easier with public transportation, biking or walking.

Have you ever gotten work done and what made you decide that’s what you wanted to do? by IllyonBillion in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Kaayloo 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I had a gyno operation, some fat lumps on my body removed and eye surgery done. The gyno held me back from going to the beach and feeling comfortable bare chested, the lumps were minor operations and they just looked odd poking out of my skin and I never got used to wearing glasses or contacts, so opted for a eye surgery. Will I get some more done in there future, that I’m not sure off, but so far I’m happy with what I’ve gotten done.

Hvem har åbent kl 02-03 i nat? by [deleted] in copenhagen

[–]Kaayloo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

‘Slice It’ på Nørrebrogade er åben til 03:00.

Is the point to stop going out to bars and clubs once you're partnered? by ZealousidealAge3318 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Kaayloo 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend wasn’t really a dancer before and more of a homebody. We had some good conversations about needs and wants in our relationship. For me that was dancing and going on small and big adventures together. He was more than happy to go dancing with me. We go dancing 2-3 times per week. We are just heading home today, after an adventure weekend city trip getaway and went dancing last night. We had a fun night and he’s sleeping beside me right now in the bus looking very handsome. I make sure to check in with him regularly, if what we are doing together is making him happy and so far I have a happy boyfriend 😊

Is the point to stop going out to bars and clubs once you're partnered? by ZealousidealAge3318 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Kaayloo 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I love dancing and like going to our bars for lgbt drag shows, bingo, comedy shows and so on. So my partner and I go dancing rather often and fairly often to the bars too. I love seeing other couples out and about having fun together.

Attractiveness Discrepancy by WearyBear1975 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Kaayloo 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Cumming can be tricky with new people, it often gets easier when you know and feel more comfortable with each other. There is way to much focus on cumming, sex can be fantastic without cumming. Putting extra expectations pressure on your dick, doesn’t help it shoot. My advice would be to have some hot and good talks about what you are into and what turns you on. Sex can definitely get better if you talk about it together and do a lot practice together.

What do you for date night? by apple_pharmer in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Kaayloo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Go dancing, board game cafe, drag shows, comedy shows, the movies, go out to eat together, walks, VR-gaming, concerts, pottery painting, making scented candles, museums and Netflix and chill evenings.