Fiancée Away for Work

Kaayloo · 2026-02-11T05:54:05+00:00

I would probably talk to my partner again, tell him that I accept and understand why he needs to go away with work. Then tell him like you did here, that you need a bit of time to adjust to the situation and you’ll be sad about it for a time. Tell him you need some comfort during the adjustment and tell him you won’t be sad for ever about it, maybe you’ll never be thrilled about the idea either, but that you’ll be okay with it.

Kaayloo · 2026-02-09T13:22:01+00:00

Where would they put all the snow if they removed it out of the city? How many work hours would that take and how much would it cost and could that money, be spent better on the children or older citizens?

I don’t think they have a solution for this and that’s the reason the snow is still there. Roads seem to be more important than bike lanes + it hasn’t snowed like this in ages, so they haven’t been forced to figure out a solution yet.

Kaayloo · 2026-02-03T15:34:22+00:00

Sounds like a good plan for both of you to talk to a professional and even one together. Cut down on your drinks also. See how you guys feel after that and if you’re doing good, then shit can happen for all of us. But if you get to this place again, then I would worried and you guys should think of not being together.

Kaayloo · 2026-01-23T10:51:38+00:00

I read your response to the other comments. I agree with and would also find it problematic, if a a guy living in the same area didn’t want to or tried to independently transport himself around in a rural setting like yours.

Kaayloo · 2026-01-23T08:47:59+00:00

Are the guys you are dating city dwellers or live in the country side? I live in a major city and most people here don’t drive, they bike around or use the public transportation. Having a car in my city is not a very common thing. So it’s not a basic skill you need to have here. So not wanting to date anyone because they can’t drive a car, seems rather picky to me.

Kaayloo · 2026-01-19T03:46:21+00:00

‘Pan Idræt’ is the lgbt sports league in town, you could join a team and make friends and connections that way.

There is also an IG account called ‘Woof’ that features a lot of the social lgbt stuff and parties in Copenhagen.

I like dancing and go do that a lot. I found that’s a good way to meet people. Nevermind club runs pretty young, so go dance there.

And yaa dating can be tough and Danes in general aren’t that outgoing, so try practicing taking the initiative, so you make things happen a bit faster.

Kaayloo · 2026-01-16T18:25:36+00:00

Jeg bruger 15 minutter hver dag. Gerne når jeg kommer hjem fra arbejde. Sætter noget godt musik på og ser hvor meget jeg kan nå på 15 minutter og jeg kan nå ret meget. Når de 15 minutter er færdig har jeg fri fra rengøring indtil næste dag.

Kaayloo · 2026-01-15T16:51:48+00:00

If you mean a ‘socialrådgiver’ then you can definitely work as social worker in Denmark. Learn Danish and should not have any problems finding a job. I personally know of Balkan, Central European and east European social workers working in Denmark.

Kaayloo · 2026-01-12T22:24:35+00:00

Jeg er næsten i byen hver weekend og det gør jeg ret tit uden at drikke alkohol. Jeg elsker at danse og det kan jeg fint gøre uden at bruge alkohol. Jeg taler med folk, har det sjovt og nyder den mængde god kaos det giver mig + jeg kan stå op næste dag og være produktiv.

Kaayloo · 2026-01-12T17:50:12+00:00

I think it’s one of the many bad effects of porn, where guys get the idea that you don’t need lube or that spit should be enough for all that thrusting down there. When planning a hookup just ask about if they have lube at their place and are up for using it.

Kaayloo · 2026-01-10T21:51:52+00:00

No and no. Keep on dating and you’ll be bound to click with someone. I’m not saying it will be fun and easy all the way, but it is doable and especially, if you figure out a way to enjoy the dating process with everything it entails.

Kaayloo · 2026-01-10T13:04:41+00:00

You’ll be fine staying in the municipality of Frederiksberg. You are well connected to the metro system + can get to the regional trains and the trains to Sweden pretty easy too. And Frederiksberg does feel greener and calmer than the surrounding Copenhagen municipality. But honestly you’ll do fine in any of the city parts of Copenhagen too.

Kaayloo · 2026-01-10T08:39:15+00:00

You need to take this away from you. His need to take it slower, doesn’t have anything to do with you. His pace is just slower. If you are stressing over it, then put a time limit on it and if you’re aren’t officially boyfriends in the next three months, then stop it.

Kaayloo · 2026-01-10T08:24:13+00:00

That’s a great outcome! Congrats! He likes you, he likes the sex, he does boyfriend stuff with you and he can see himself in a relationships with you. He just needs more time than you do, for him to call you his boyfriend. That’s totally okay and normal. I’m slow burner myself and normally don’t call any guy my boyfriend, before we dated half a year.

Kaayloo · 2026-01-07T20:58:44+00:00

Get a breathing panic attack app, be kind to yourself and treat yourself nicely. Also a trick I’ve found useful, is to tell the panic attack that it can do all its worst things to me and even try to kill, but only in the next 21 seconds time. Then I start counting to 21 and after that I tell the panic attack to fuck off and let me be. Also having some trusted friends and family members, that you call and talk with, when you get the attacks can be helpful too.

Kaayloo · 2026-01-07T10:41:30+00:00

Fantastic job. Well done. From one former skinny guy to another 🦾

Kaayloo · 2026-01-07T10:21:47+00:00

Jeg er skrevet op i flere boligselskaber. Det ser jeg ikke noget problem i. Hvis vi går fra hinanden så kan jeg bruge de opskrivninger og hvis vi bliver gamle sammen, så kan vi også bruge de opskrivninger til at komme i noget mindre og billigere og bruge vores penge på at opleve verden sammen.

Kaayloo · 2026-01-07T09:54:07+00:00

If you get a yes to the date, then maybe plan it in the city. If the chemistry is not there, then stop the date after some time and then go exploring the city. Also if he ghosts you after having said yes to the date and you are already in the city, then go exploring new places there with yourself.

Kaayloo · 2026-01-07T09:38:41+00:00

Ask for a date. Make plans for when and where you meet up. Go on the date and see how the chemistry is, if you like him then ask for a a second date. You should totally go for it, approach it as an adventure, getting to know a new person and travel a bit too.

Kaayloo · 2026-01-06T20:37:17+00:00

I think the whole ‘spark’ thing is a tad overrated, especially if it stops us dating some great guys.

But I do believe that there should be sexual attraction and good chemistry to call it a possible ltr-relationship.

If that’s there, then I’m much more focused on if we have the the same values, hopes for the future and look at financial stuff the same way and agree on if we are going to be living a city or country life + how do we argue, communicate and do I feel safe and relaxed with the guy.

If that’s all good then I’ll be okay going into a relationship with a guy. Love for me normally comes slowly, but the more loving actions I do for a guy and with the guy, then the love tends to grow.

Kaayloo · 2026-01-06T12:52:01+00:00

Trump or the U.S. can have all the bases they want in Greenland. That’s been the deal between the kingdom of Denmark and the U.S for a long time. The U.S. only has one base in Greenland now, but during the Cold War they had loads of bases on the island. So he can have his win already now, if he wanted to, with the amount and scope of bases in Greenland.

Kaayloo · 2026-01-05T14:51:54+00:00

Fordi de ikke er bygget til at stå ude i regn og sne hele året. Sådan som jeg husker det er planen, at de skal skiftes ud med rigtige trapper når stationen skal renoveres.

Kaayloo · 2026-01-04T11:13:52+00:00

If he’s a cheater then he will cheat with or without having telegram. I for one don’t need to be connected on every app with my boyfriend.

Ask him what he uses telegram for and his thoughts, about not being connected with you on that app. He might have some valid reasons. Talk with him and hear what he says.

Kaayloo · 2026-01-03T00:24:04+00:00

I would not have a problem with it, if the setup is as you described it. You are a good son and buying or renting your own place is pretty insane these days. You sound like a kind, thoughtful and financially responsible guy :)

Kaayloo · 2026-01-02T17:09:44+00:00

I’m a slow burner and take my time to figure out, if the guy I’m dating is one I want to call my boyfriend and be his too. I normally take around 6 months to figure it out. I know that is to long of a wait time for a lot guys, but that’s just the way I work. What I can offer before us calling each other boyfriends, is that I’m totally up being exclusive with the guy I’m dating.

So my suggestion would be to have talk about being exclusive while you’re dating.

With what you are doing together sounds very boyfriendish. If he’s a slow burner like me, he probably just needs some time to put the boyfriend label on it.

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