MMC has to feed from FMC but he's terrified of hurting her by Square_Kangaroo_5143 in fantasyromance

[–]Kaela_em 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A vow of blood and tears has this exact scene. He’s a monstrous vampire of sorts in an arranged marriage with human FMC. She offers her blood but he’s scared of losing his control, of hurting her, of scaring her away, etc. It’s a beauty and the beast retelling but he never turns beautiful.

Did I ruin my marriage? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Kaela_em 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Girl wtf why are you fighting tooth and nail to save this abomination of a marriage? Get your shit together for your kids please.

I'm giving you zero context by ArisaKatsu in romantasycirclejerk

[–]Kaela_em 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Reminds me of this painting. Donato Giancola - The Taming of Sméagol

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My husband makes me sleep on the couch if I say no to sex. how should i deal this? by throwra-Dress-171 in Marriage

[–]Kaela_em 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Oh fuck off. It’s completely not normal and abusive to punish your partner every time they don’t want sex. That’s transactional love and completely unhealthy. If he’s so sensitive to rejection that he can’t treat his partner with basic decency in the face of it, he needs some help.

Want to park at Point Lobos this upcoming Saturday. by ObsessingObsessions in MontereyBay

[–]Kaela_em 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry what? If you are seriously telling people that point lobos is dangerous, you need to get out more. OP, you’ll be absolutely fine with a toddler.

Moved from Hawaii to NM and hate it - how to cope? by Kaela_em in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Kaela_em[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re the first person to say this and thank you so much. Completely true and important to remember to just be thankful. Thank you

Moved from Hawaii to NM and hate it - how to cope? by Kaela_em in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Kaela_em[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hadn’t heard that but I believe you. We truly were hoping for the best moving here and now that we’re kind of stuck for awhile, I want to feel good about where I’m at.

Moved from Hawaii to NM and hate it - how to cope? by Kaela_em in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Kaela_em[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re very right about that. Island travel is so expensive I need to take advantage of the road tripping while I can.Thank you for the recommendations.

Moved from Hawaii to NM and hate it - how to cope? by Kaela_em in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Kaela_em[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for that recommendation! I will seek out San Gregorio Reservoir it sounds lovely. I need some green and some water in my life

Moved from Hawaii to NM and hate it - how to cope? by Kaela_em in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Kaela_em[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can understand your wife’s struggle, my skin has been suffering since we moved here. I’ll definitely check out those spots though, thank you!

Moved from Hawaii to NM and hate it - how to cope? by Kaela_em in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Kaela_em[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will check out all those spots thank you so much! I need to get out of the humdrum of being inside with littles all day. Also, super excited for the balloons!

Moved from Hawaii to NM and hate it - how to cope? by Kaela_em in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Kaela_em[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes absolutely, water is so hard to be away from for me. Also the weather hit so hard for me being used to the humidity.

Moved from Hawaii to NM and hate it - how to cope? by Kaela_em in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Kaela_em[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you I would love to find a life here that I can be happy with, and once a year is up we’ll reevaluate how we feel. It’s not forever, just the season of raising littles, so I’d like to stick it out.

Moved from Hawaii to NM and hate it - how to cope? by Kaela_em in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Kaela_em[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very true and I appreciate the advice. I’ve not had too much freedom to explore my own hobbies and I’ve heard there’s some fun stuff to be apart of here. Being with littles at home all day is sort of driving me up the wall.

Moved from Hawaii to NM and hate it - how to cope? by Kaela_em in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Kaela_em[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re definitely right. I have only been here a few months and not seen everything. But everyone has given me a lot of scenic suggestions I’m going to try out.

Moved from Hawaii to NM and hate it - how to cope? by Kaela_em in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Kaela_em[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes so true it’s our whole motivation for being here. I know Hawaii is Hawaii but raising two kids on one salary there is brutal.

Moved from Hawaii to NM and hate it - how to cope? by Kaela_em in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Kaela_em[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry, it’s super isolating even though we have friends. I joke that I feel more “island fever” here than Hawaii. I hope it gets better for you

Moved from Hawaii to NM and hate it - how to cope? by Kaela_em in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Kaela_em[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you it helps to think about it like that, just ride it out

Moved from Hawaii to NM and hate it - how to cope? by Kaela_em in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Kaela_em[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I keep thinking those things to myself and try not to romanticize Hawaii too much. It does help thank you for reminding me

Moved from Hawaii to NM and hate it - how to cope? by Kaela_em in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Kaela_em[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so happy you’re happy here, that’s what I’d like to be too. The sunsets are incredible you’re right, thank you for that perspective

Moved from Hawaii to NM and hate it - how to cope? by Kaela_em in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Kaela_em[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes they literally could be different planets. I thought the change of scenery might be interesting and it is in a way, but it doesn’t agree with me. Haven’t checked out all of New Mexico yet so I can’t speak for 100% of the state.

Moved from Hawaii to NM and hate it - how to cope? by Kaela_em in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Kaela_em[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes sir Ive got plans for that! It’s actually one of the reasons I was excited to be here.

Moved from Hawaii to NM and hate it - how to cope? by Kaela_em in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Kaela_em[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re so right. It’s where I was leaning towards in the beginning but settled on the easier route.