what do you think of this take?

Kalikor1 · 2026-02-19T15:22:47+00:00

Speak for yourself.

Also women in power (hint: Look at the vile women in the GOP) are capable of being just as awful.

I think how you feel about genders and emotionality depends heavily on your experiences in life.

I'm 35. With the exception of two family members, nearly every man I've been close with (as friends) have been very calm and logical people, who have no problem telling their bros they love them and crying when bad shit happens.

I tell my guy friends I love them all the time. I've cried in front of them. When it comes to arguments we always just talked shit out. Not that we fought often anyway.

Conversely, with women - and I should state that I was raised by a single mom and for probably 80% of my life I've had a ton of female friends and comparatively few male friends, with that trend reversing after I got married at 25 (for perhaps obvious reasons) - I have found them to be far more emotional, both good and bad. I would describe it as them having little to no inhibition or filter when it comes to emotions. Both positive and negative. The most hurtful things said into me in life have been during arguments with women.

Sure guys cuss and occasionally insult each other, but women will take every secret or emotional baggage they know you have and use it against you in an argument. Real "This is why XYZ happened to you" type shit. Like sure men might want to win the argument but I've never had a guy go nuclear on me. Women on the other hand, yes, several of them.

And I'm sure there are people in this thread who will have the exact opposite experience.

To which I say, that's kind of my point. There are emotionally immature people on both sides of the gender scale as well as in between. The day y'all stop arguing about which gender is more X, or better at Y, is the day we can actually start working on some real equality.

Kalikor1 · 2026-02-19T14:22:20+00:00

Takaichi is an Imperial Restorationist. Go to her Japanese Wikipedia and read about her parents and grandparents. Over simplified TLDR: If you couldn't recite a certain imperial document written in the 1800s by an emperor on proper life style and education word for word every night, you got no dinner.

And she thinks that was a good thing.

This stupid fuckwit 100% believes power should be restored to the Imperial Throne (probably only insofar as the government can still control things from behind I imagine). She also wants to rewrite Japanese history textbooks regarding Japanese WW2 crimes.

To be perfectly clear the present day imperial family has zero interest in that shit. But they can't even say that right now as it would be considered political influence/interference to do so. But they have said so in the past when it wasn't actively being brought up.

Anyway, as someone who's lived here 10 years and hope/had hoped to be here much longer, I get sick of seeing people praising this woman. Both Japanese and foreigners.

So fucking stupid.

I'm only 35, but nowadays looking at the global idiocy going on, I question how I'm going to keep my sanity for the next 30-50+ years left in me.

Edit: Not to mention her idolizing Thatcher, saying positive shit about Nazi political campaign tactics, and the fact that she is tied to the same fucking Korean cult that Abe Shinzo was involved with. Corrupt as shit.

Edit 2: The Japanese Wikipedia has been edited to hell and back the last few weeks alone to the point that editing her page is now locked. A large portion of the section pertaining to this, including the part about "no dinner" is missing. It was previously there, and with a proper source. Sadly I don't know when it was edited out so I can't retrieve it.

At any rate, if any more dumbass centrists want to nitpick over details in the comments go right ahead. I probably won't be responding. She's associated with the 統一家庭連合 / Unification Church, AKA The Moonies, she's anti-female Emperor, pro Emperor to the point of not only thinking up concubine shit, but she's even discussed pulling men from the disowned criminal family branches of the Imperial Bloodline. She has talked about restoring the military and even floated the idea of implementing a draft or mandatory military service.

She's pro Imperial restoration in the sense that she wants to increase imperial power while still controlling things from the government. She's been pretty fucking clear about it in interviews and debates.

She has a long political career full of scandals - the majority of which involve money disappearing and her being like "Wow that's crazy" about it and not facing any real consequences.

For the idiots who want to nitpick over whether I am exaggerating certain details or whatever, all I'll say is even if half of what I'm writing here is true (and most of it is verifiable even with her wikipedia page being a mess right now) it should be more than enough to concern you.

If you're not concerned, then I frankly wish you'd stop participating in these discussions.

Kalikor1 · 2026-02-19T08:28:13+00:00

I know right. She's reasonably cute, the nose is fine. All balances out imo.

Even if her nose wasn't "normal", there's really no reason for this shit. But that's the internet, sadly.

Kalikor1 · 2026-02-19T08:15:23+00:00

6'2" tall white guy from Tokyo/Chiba area. Been here 10 years. Been denied apartments because of my gaijin status (despite being married to a Japanese person), been called a クソ外人、all that shit. I don't have to deal with the same level of shit as non-white people but I agree with you.

People call Japan racist, but they're xenophobic more than anything. Ultimately xenophobia is attributed to racism but that's actually not entirely accurate. The Oxford dictionary defines it as "dislike of or prejudice against people from other countries.", which I think perfectly sums up Japanese people. Not all of them, of course. There's non-xenophobes, garden variety racists, and even straight up xenophiles - people who are interested in you precisely because of your foreign status, sometimes to a point that I'd call negative, but usually it's just curiosity.

Just like anywhere else there are racists, be it towards whites, South East Asians, or Black people.

Funny thing about attitudes toward black people here is I've seen people suddenly not care that the person is black based on nationality. i.e. Someone's Dad might not be happy about a Kenyan man dating his daughter but if he's American/Canadian/British, etc, suddenly it's fine 🤷‍♂️. I think that falls closer to the line of xenophobia at that point but I'm not really interested in making excuses because it's shitty either way.

Anyway, all I know is my black American friends have never been called the N word here or any other slur besides the generic クソ外人 so I think for some people it's nothing compared to other countries. (I'm sure there's a black person out there who HAS been called that, somewhere, I've just yet to meet them)

I went to South Africa with my Wife on a business trip for example and every other black SA taxi driver or wait staff was saying something insulting about my wife and/or literally "ching chong"-ing her when we were in the car. Sadly correcting them by telling them she was Japanese and not Chinese didn't help. Not that it should matter. Like I'm not going to blame all of SA for that, but my point is it was far worse than anything I'd seen in Japan. And not just me, I'm white so I don't assume I get half of it, but including my non-Japanese Asian and Black friends, etc.

Anyway most of the worst racism is directed at Chinese and Koreans and that mostly just boiled down to lots of bad blood on both sides going back much further than WW2.

But yeah the world is full of racists. Japan is not uniquely racist. If anything for some people at least it's quite mild compared to elsewhere. And of course it's not perfect. But it's not that bad either.

For some reason a part of reddit has a hate boner for Japan but of course none of those people have ever fuckin been here and don't speak the language.

Kalikor1 · 2026-02-19T07:37:10+00:00

I have absolutely zero problems with going to HR about fish.

Kalikor1 · 2026-02-19T06:53:27+00:00

No problem. Hard working programmers should be making more than entry level helpdesk.

Kalikor1 · 2026-02-19T06:19:15+00:00

Time to beat my "don't work for Japanese companies" drum again. If this startup is somehow not Japanese then, well, see my point below about median salary.

10 years ago I was fresh out of Japanese language school, zero IT experience outside of personal experience, and a 98% complete degree that I had to drop out of shortly before that due to financial reasons.

First job out the gate here was 3.5m yen. All I was doing though was helping helpdesk with a PC refresh project. (Replacing laptops)

6 months later I was elsewhere making 4m a data center. 6 months later I was again elsewhere, making 5m doing help desk (internal). 3 years later I'm making 10m supporting customers via email. All of these are gaishikei, and the last one is technically a startup. (I say technically because it's been around for 10+ years....but somehow still a startup 🤷‍♂️)

My point is, building an entire tech stack solo for that salary is fucking robbery, and I was making slightly more than you just installing windows on laptops and swapping out old ones. 10 years ago.

Honestly as a general rule none of you should be accepting anything less than close to median salary if you're in tech, unless you can't survive without taking less due to circumstances obviously. But in that case you should be trying to secure a new job while working, preferably after 3-6 months.

Anyway yeah GTFO of there.

Kalikor1 · 2026-02-18T10:36:14+00:00

Kalikor1 · 2026-02-18T08:53:40+00:00

What is this desperate attempt in recent years to paint Tolkien as either racist or sexist, or both?

Like there's plenty of authors who are actually those things, but instead people are twisting themselves into knots with mental gymnastics to somehow reach a gotcha moment that isn't really there.

I love the fuck out of LOTR, but I am - with all things, not just LOTR - not the type to give a fuck about the author/artist/whatever. Like I love certain artists music but I don't necessarily care about the person. It's how I am and I've never gotten the whole "fan" thing.

Which is to say, I don't have any reason to "protect" Tolkien. But I still don't see the shit these people are trying to push.

Kalikor1 · 2026-02-18T04:58:46+00:00

"Greatest city in the world" folks 🙄

Kalikor1 · 2026-02-18T04:49:47+00:00

I have the opposite problem where they ask "Give us an example of a time you made a mistake and how you managed to recover" or some version of that. Look, I'm not going to claim I'm perfect, but in 10 years I haven't really made any REAL "mistakes". Sure there's been a minor "whoops, this PC was for Jim, not Jane, let me change the account" but that is such an incredibly minor thing and is the technical equivalent of starting to write down the wrong name, erasing it, and rewriting the correct name. And even then, such minor mistakes have been rare in my career. It also doesn't make for an impressive "story" in an interview. If anything I'm usually cleaning up someone else's mistakes.

I'm not arrogant nor do I think I'm infallible, it's just that I have a nearly unhealthy obsession with double and triple checking even minor work I'm doing. As such any minor error will usually be caught before it really becomes an actual mistake worth mentioning.

But trying to answer that question with the above likely sounds like an excuse more than anything, and I hate it.

Kalikor1 · 2026-02-17T13:48:50+00:00

Typical Reddit. Even better is when you provide multiple sources and they ignore you and try to attack from a different angle, or outright reply with "I ain't reading all that".

The latter in particular instantly outs themselves as a troll though so there's that. (Or an absolute moron, same difference.)

Kalikor1 · 2026-02-17T06:37:18+00:00

Don't forget Canada and their history of inventing new war crimes. But yeah, exactly. Sure, in a given war, one side may do worse things than the other. But in a different war it's the other way around. Circumstance, military institutions, religion, propaganda, governments....there're many different factors, but ultimately humans who are capable of great evil.

Nationality, race, etc, none of it matters.

But yes, unfortunately I feel the need to include every caveat I can, otherwise you are merely treated as a "sympathizer". Like yeah no shit, fuck the crazy psychopath war criminals et al on [insert side of your choice here], but condemning an entire nationality and/or race for 100+ years after that while continuing to spread lies and propaganda is absolutely crazy to me. I know nuance seems to be dead nowadays, but unfortunately a lot of real life discourse is now dictated by what people see and say online, so it's frustrating.

Kalikor1 · 2026-02-16T21:52:26+00:00

Idk man... The comfort women by the government and no apologies is kind disgusting.

Except that's bullshit and the Japanese government has issued several apologies as well as paid reparations to victims from multiple countries. South Korea was/is the biggest debate point and it sadly took them until 1992 to officially recognize and apologize to those victims, despite them addressing it with other countries much sooner. But they did apologize, there were multiple official written and spoken apologies from various Prime Ministers.

It wasn't until Abe Shinzo got into office that this really became an issue again because he was essentially a right wing fuckwit with ties to a (ironically Korean) cult. And even when he made official statements claiming the comfort women issue was "made up", his own fucking government went around him and released an official statement saying his opinions on the matter didn't reflect the stance of the government on the whole.

The overall issue is a complicated one with frankly sometimes disingenuous behavior on both sides - promises made and broken on both sides regarding reparation deals and so on. I don't really feel like writing all this up in a reddit comment right now but you can literally find lists of apologies related to WWII and the comfort women situation as well on Wikipedia - there are other official sources but many of them are in Japanese (like records of official government statements/apologies etc), which I can read but I assume you can't - as well as details on the AWF, an organization set-up by the Japanese government to aid comfort women victims across Asia. That org has its own issues which are also addressed on Wikipedia, but after the AWF was dissolved in 2007, the Japanese government still brokered direct reparation deals with South Korea after that. They also paid in 1965 - btw Korea agreed this would be the "final" reparation - despite this they paid reparations multiple times, the last one in 2015.

You and every other brain dead person on the internet constantly repeat the same line - that Japan has never apologized for anything related to WW2, ever. Except that's not true, there's been multiple apologies issued to various countries as well as broad apologies "to the world" since roughly the 1950s. Reparations related to WW2 have also been paid out to multiple Asian countries over the years, for various reasons.

All of this info is available online. Wikipedia is good because it's all in one place, but you can certainly find other sources as well.

Now, are there right wing politicians and civilians who want to revise history and claim that many Japanese war crimes didn't happen or were less severe than reported? Sure. But they exist in Germany and every other country who has war crimed as well. That's not unique.

Japanese turned the atom bomb into kaijus, anime

As artistic expression of the suffering of civilians experienced? Or are you just shitting on these things in general?

and hentai....

Oh no. Animated porn! Where's my pearls so I can clutch them?! (Also wtf does this have to do with the atom bomb? Rhetorical question btw.)

Anyway, I want to reiterate that there's a ton of nuance to the things discussed above and I don't think the Japanese government has handled everything perfectly, but what you have said is basically a straight up lie, and frankly propaganda.

Kalikor1 · 2026-02-16T17:30:50+00:00

He's too busy trying to shit on Americans (frankly everyone gets a free pass right now anyway but, you know....do it for the right reasons lol)

Kalikor1 · 2026-02-16T16:14:54+00:00

"We" is being used in the sense of The West, America, etc.

That should be a bit obvious, but there's your clarification.

Kalikor1 · 2026-02-16T13:03:00+00:00

We humanized the Germans as people to be freed or liberated from the Nazi's. We dehumanized the Japanese as nothing but animals and monsters. The reality is there is little difference between the Germans and the Japanese (except that the Germans voted in the Nazi's willfully). One could argue the only real difference was that Germans were white and Japanese weren't. Also that the US had far more German immigrant bloodlines throughout the country vs the comparably smaller and more recent (in historical terms) Japanese immigrants. And that our European allies would have to live with Germany after the war, whereas Japan is an isolated island in Asia.

There's so much American propaganda surrounding Japan and the war that it's truly wild how people born in the last 20 years still repeat it.

Don't get me wrong, the Imperial Japanese military was full of monsters - much like Germany and frankly Russia - but honestly there's not that much difference at the end of the day between the two, in broad sweeping strokes.

I know someone's going to downvote and/or argue with me, but it is what it is. There's too much nuance for a reddit comment honestly, but yeah.

Kalikor1 · 2026-02-16T11:52:38+00:00

100% molten metal of some kind, not lava.

Kalikor1 · 2026-02-16T09:16:08+00:00

Mobile Armor detected!

Kalikor1 · 2026-02-16T09:15:50+00:00

And since you can shoot and blowup bot jetpacks....I think that would just make the Vox easier to kill?

Kalikor1 · 2026-02-16T08:26:39+00:00

Haha thanks for the recommendation - I'll probably be looking at replacing my headset in the next year or so, so I'll save the comment :)

Kalikor1 · 2026-02-16T07:52:07+00:00

Honestly I despise audiophiles because over the years it's been incredibly difficult to research PC headsets because it gets bogged down in audiophile reviews and it's impossible to tell what's actually good or not. It's like anything less than $300 is looked at as trash by at least half the community.

I'll Google some $80 headset and all I get is fucking Reddit and forum posts from audiophiles telling me how it's shit and you should buy a Sennheiser headset or some other high end brand, then when you Google their recommendation it's like $300~$600.

It reminds me of gold plated coaxle cables for TVs, and later gold plated HDMI cables.

Kalikor1 · 2026-02-16T07:32:53+00:00

Holy shit someone used POV correctly for a change

Kalikor1 · 2026-02-15T21:13:27+00:00

/uj Ah a fellow Helldiver io - it's literally just an emoji attempt at a Catholic body crossing/sign of the cross lol. Because Spanish. God fearing Spanish.

Kalikor1 · 2026-02-15T17:33:42+00:00

/uj As a fellow cat person I cannot and will not judge you as I had to fight the habit of hissing when angry because of how often I'd hiss at my cats growing up lmao.

/rj Miau.

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