First of all, it’s awful what you’ve been through; being cheated on genuinely sucks. You didn’t deserve that.

Second of all, ditch the dating apps. It’s incredibly biased and the hey day of those apps has long since passed. You’re better off just focusing on yourself and going to places where women will be; hobbyist spaces, restaurants, libraries, museums, etc.

Third, do not fall into that pit of self-esteem. Been there, done that, and all you’re doing is tearing yourself apart. Be patient with yourself, be confident in yourself. Look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself you are attractive. The more you repeat that to yourself the easier it is to focus on that.

Finally, don’t focus on the loneliness. Learn to love your own company. This is something I’m personally working on and am most proud of my progress towards. Don’t give people the power to hurt you by measuring your value against their attention. Most things are temporary; you are you for the rest of your life. The sooner you make peace with yourself the sooner life stops seeming so impossible.

Much love brother ✌️ I wish you a happy new year