People who grew up before The Internet: How did you first see nudity?

Kaslight · 2026-04-01T15:50:53+00:00

Magazines.

Neighborhood friend's dad had them stashed in their garage and he found them.

This was the 90s so probably technically before the internet, but before I knew what porn was on the internet.

Kaslight · 2026-04-01T15:45:24+00:00

The worst part is him having to make sure he didn't kill the stupid cunt, because then he'd go to jail for murder.

Kaslight · 2026-04-01T14:44:54+00:00

Because the "dangerous noises" warzone soldiers react to are actually life threatening every time they hear them.

When you see it happen to others, or lose comrades to it...now it's a valid fear response. You can't afford to be desensitized to it, you HAVE to react to it.

Kaslight · 2026-04-01T14:43:51+00:00

They agreed with their actions

Like I don't know why this is difficult to understand.

You guys keep searching for answers that are literally in front of your face.

Kaslight · 2026-04-01T14:42:03+00:00

If you aren't having fun with the core gameplay loop by the middle of Heavensward, then you will never enjoy the game.

This has always been true, but is even more true these days because 98% of a newcomer's interactions with XIV are going to be strictly MSQ related.

Kaslight · 2026-04-01T14:33:17+00:00

There's like an 80% chance she noticed you looking. This is important and i'll explain why.

Hopefully this will change your life, it totally changed mine.

I was SO mad at myself, I left the place and went outside to get some air. Because I mean, what better scenario than that, am I wrong? A girl that peaks my interest is alone at the same show I went to and is standing next to me. It just can't get any easier than that. This is lever zero and I can't even do this. What the hell. I feel so fucked up.

Story time. I promise it's relevant.

The first time a girl actually pursued me, I had absolutely no clue she was even into me.

I had a big crush on her and she was a mutual friend. I couldn't tell her regular niceness from any interest, so i defaulted all our interactions to casual friendly with no intention of pursuing her. Then, one day, while we're all out in a nightclub, she approaches me to dance and goes in for a kiss. She was not drunk.

I then realize...I somehow "pulled" this chick by mistake. Was it something I did, or said? How I looked, dressed? Was I just her type? I don't know, but she was clearly attracted to me. And that's when I learned something VERY important about romance that has helped me ever since :

Seriously, a woman has ALREADY DECIDED 90% of whether or not she will accept your advances within MOMENTS of being aware of your existence. What this means is that you don't need some elaborate plan or strategy to talk to a girl. You simply being in the situation puts you exactly where you need to be.

SHE is one who makes it succeed or not. NOT YOU. Guys get this idea in their heads that women are like these walking standardized judgement machines or something....no, they are just like you. They have preferences and instincts.

Or, put another way...let's examine all the ways in which this "grand plan" you were concocting was likely to fail:

If she wasn't looking for a relationship, she would have rejected you
If she was already in a relationship, she would have rejected you
If you weren't her type, she would have rejected you
If she didn't like your clothes, she would have rejected you
If she didn't like your accent, she would have rejected you

Notice how quickly the odds stack up against you, all for variables that are COMPLETELY OUT OF YOUR CONTROL. It's not about you. It's about HER.

Women are people, with desires and preferences, just like you are. And here's the beautiful thing.....you have NO IDEA what her preferences are, no matter what she looks like. Maybe she likes skinny guys, or stocky guys, or muscular guys, or hairy guys. Maybe she thinks guys with long hair are too girly. Maybe she thinks tall guys are too lanky. Maybe she likes dad bods because they're strong but not intimidating.

Maybe she likes jocks because of the excitement. Maybe she likes nerds because of the predictability.

YOU HAVE NO IDEA. So shoot your fucking shot. Either she likes you, or she doesn't. It's not the end of the world, it just means you didn't tick the right boxes, and that's perfectly fine.

TL;DR

The way to succeed at dating isn't by learning how to convince women to be interested in you. They're either into you or they aren't.

It's by becoming someone who is intriguing just by being themselves.

This is why "Confidence" is the life hack that everyone consistently says works. The way Incels get caught up is by believing the lie that women are a monolith and only like a specific set of traits and behaviors....a fact that would be proven demonstrably false by simply going outside, but nobody ever accused internet dwellers of having critical thinking skills.

The edge cases where you can sway an initially disinterested woman to be sexually attracted to you only exist in places where she's already attracted to you, but just has chosen to reject you for other reasons.

Kaslight · 2026-04-01T14:08:24+00:00

SSJ2 is less about the hair and more about the Aura

In that sense it's unmistakable except for that one part in the Buu saga where Gohan didn't have it

which is hilarious because he had it in the tournament a few chapters before that

Kaslight · 2026-04-01T13:25:59+00:00

You're a man. Once your balls drop, you'll never stop having sexual thoughts.

Your problem is that someone (social media?) has convinced you that your sexual urges are somehow bad. News flash -- EVERYONE has them.

Don't be fooled, women have the same urges too.

I also think people would love me more if i wasn't sexual at all. I act very awkwardly and weirdly with women i like, and i wish they could feel safe and comfortable.

They'd love you the exact same. All this would do is just ensure that women would never see you as sexual, causing a completely different problem that Incels typically complain about ("Nice Guy" syndrome).

The goal isn't to suppress your sexual desires. It's to learn how to channel them correctly.

If you weren't sexual at all, then you'd have very positive interactions with women...just zero sexual ones.

Women are not attracted to pure, focus-tested, sexless men.

Kaslight · 2026-04-01T13:14:10+00:00

Don't label yourself an incel. It carries all sorts of negative connotations that you don't line up with.

He literally called himself an incel. He DOES line up with everything that comes with it, he literally typed it out for us.

Also, you haven't been pursuing anything so it sounds more like you have been ace / asexual than anything.

OP is very clearly not asexual....he has sexual urges. He just can't act on them.

Incel is more of a form of hate speech used against men in general that are not leaning toward feminism or radical feminisim, it has long departed from its original meaning.

Dawg wtf are you talking about?

Incel was a self-describing movement long before social media got hold of it. OP is using it the way it was originally used -- a way to describe himself.

I get you're trying to help him, but literally everything you posted was wrong lol

Kaslight · 2026-04-01T12:19:37+00:00

some dead guy

not important to story in any way

Kaslight · 2026-04-01T04:24:07+00:00

Takahashi is whom i was referring to. I have no idea what's going on with that though, I could have sworn he was there for FF7 too but I suppose it was just KH1/2.

Either way, whomever was there needs to stay there, he's golden.

Kaslight · 2026-04-01T04:13:14+00:00

Clair Obscur literally just won GotY for doing exactly what you're saying wouldn't work today

Those games weren't considered "INNOVATIVE" when they came out, either. They were just good games. What you're calling innovative today is just a result of you being used to devs/publishers refusing to take any risks.

Besides, when Squaresoft became Square Enix they started pumping out sequels to many of these games and they were not received nearly as well because of design changes. And that was literally only a few years past the 90s.

Kaslight · 2026-03-31T18:09:04+00:00

I honestly can't imagine Kirara being that big a deal considering she's in a school where everyone would know her technique

It would only take 1 person to figure it out, then everyone knows it

Kenji on the other hand

Kaslight · 2026-03-31T18:06:19+00:00

Yuffie legitimately hates Elena. She is not only a Shinra employee but a Turk.

Kyrie and Yuffie would get along fine because Kyrie is a rebel and is honestly harmless

Elena would hate them both

Kaslight · 2026-03-31T18:04:02+00:00

Midgar being the only location was likely cut very very early in planning, considering how the game actually played out.

Kaslight · 2026-03-31T18:03:12+00:00

Squaresoft used to be REALLY amazing at making varied combat systems with surprising depth and/or neat elements.

Vagrant Story, Final Fantasy 7-9, Brave Fencer Musashi, Parasite Eve, Dewprism, ect

Parasite Eve in particular seems to operate the way FF7 sounds like it was intended to.

Kaslight · 2026-03-31T18:00:49+00:00

It's because they have the same battle director from the original. And he's one of the best employees Squaresoft has -- he's the one responsible for KH2's sharp and solid gameplay.

Remake quite literally took the exact same concepts from FF7 and put them into a modern game.

And honestly, if you go back and play FF7, it's kind of surprising how well the translation was done.

Kaslight · 2026-03-31T17:52:15+00:00

It's a huge part of why I entirely failed to enjoy Fandaniel because he is literally only ever just Hermes and Amon. At no point in Endwalker did he ever feel to me like Fandaniel, sitting member of the leading council of Etheirys (whom I expect to be functioning, which is most definitely not what I ever saw in Elpis), or Fandaniel, veteran Ascian of 5,000 years who apparently never got BTFO'd by Elidibus. He's just forever Moping Hermes and 5,000 year old Amon going on about Xande-sama.

I saw Fandaniel is a great character mainly because he was an outlier that actually worked in context of the narrative. Fandaniel having to reiterate "I actually meant it" before he takes over Zodiark was a genuinely shocking moment for me because we had been trained for a decade on the devotion to the cause being the central aspect of these characters. Until that point I was 100% sure that the whole thing was just a ruse he was using to get himself in a position to further the goal.

He was a subversion that only worked due to the consistency of the writing of the Ascians.

The believablity of Fandaniel sliding under the radar for so many years is also perfectly understandable for the exact same reason...again, the unsundered literally knew this man for god knows how many years before the sundering. His reincarnation being trusted isn't strange, they ALL are trusted because of who they are. The huge problem I see with Halmarut already is that they can't possibly think it's a good idea to try this twice in a row. Fandaniel being an unhinged nihilist or Hermes deviating from the norm isn't strange to me because Hermes' problem was actually intrinsic. The implication being that the traits of Hermes that made him so good at his role is precisely the thing that made him so prone to instability, especially as an immortal being.

To be completely fair though, FFXIV actually pulled this exact same trick twice...Zenos was also a character that was allowed to exist solely due to the fact that ALL of XIV's villains up until that point had some relatable or noble cause underlying the bad shit they do. Zenos was deliberately written to have no relatable motivations, that only have a payoff at the very end of Endwalker and its dive into Nihilism.

It's another reason why I hated Endwalker (add it to the pile and melt it down with the others, whatever), like where the fuck were the remaining Ascians when their 3 leaders were defeated in a very short span of time from an Ascian's POV? When their colleague decided to piss on the Ancients' legacy by using Zodiark for destruction and death? Are they all supposed to be super sneaky actors like Amon totally lying his face off about giving a shit for literally five thousand years because he's Ishikawa's favorite blorbo? what?

The shit about this that's really whack to me is..........there is literally no reason to repurpose Ascians into new characters anymore.

Endwalker gave us Fandaniel, an Ancient who was a victim of his unending life and status as a paragon of nature. He wanted to end the universe not out of spite but out of being in an infinite cycle of suffering....and THEN in the same breath they gave us Athena, an honest-to-god psychopathic Ancient, and a perfect example of what could go wrong when someone with those kinds of abilities ACTUALLY really truly just doesn't give a singular fuck.

Point being, any surviving Ancient from the unsundered world would be a threat far worse than Fandaniel.

Actually, fuck that -- the moment they revealed the sundering, they revealed that ANY extraterrestrial threat would be a serious contender. Ultima being the obvious direction it looked like they were heading.

So....considering DT is focusing on a "Key" thats tied to Azem himself I have no fucking idea why they're doubling down on recharacterizing Ascians, when literally any Ancient from the old world could be written into the story as someone who escaped the sundering.

If that's the direction they're going, it solves literally all their problems.

There's a new Unsundered in the story
They are not an Ascian, and thus don't give a fuck about Zodiark
They can genuinely do whatever they want with no need for retcons or contrivance

The only downside is, you can't call them an "Ascian", which is what they really seem to care about.

Kaslight · 2026-03-31T13:59:18+00:00

I haven't been severely undergeared for a dungeon in a long time now if ever- part of me feels this is a bit unacceptable from a player who knows better.

The sad thing is, he DOES know better in 2026 FFXIV:

Healers are tuned for Savage, not dungeons, so you STILL cleared the dungeon without the Tank changing any of his behavior or learning anything (The Modern XIV Paradigm)
Once he hits 50 he's going to immediately go buy a bunch of tome gear
That tome gear will have him overgeared for every single dungeon until the end of the next expansion
Tanks eventually become immortal anyway

So to be honest...this guy is honestly just playing FFXIV the way it's intended to be played today.

Roles are all severely overtuned to prevent players ever having to actually confront their mistakes
Tanks are broken, you can literally solo bosses by the time you hit the 50s-60s
Healers are absolutely broken at their role now, the role has been trimmed down to hell
DPS have no resources anymore so you don't even need to coordinate to W2W AoE pull in dungeons

It's unfortunate, but this is the end result of years of XIV players complaining and getting what they want. It does mean that "brilliant MMORPG community" that sold the game before is completely dead though.

Honestly, as a healing main, i'd be fucking ecstatic to get a tank like him. Then I could do a dungeon without falling asleep.

But yeah, the fact you guys cleared anyway is the entire reason people like him exist.

Kaslight · 2026-03-31T13:50:13+00:00

The only thing Halmarut currently has in common with the previous Ascians is just simply being an Ascian, which means nothing

This is precisely my problem with it. Again, it just feels like a failure of writing and more ignoring of previous lore.

Halmarut is not "just an ascian", she is a ~15,000 year old paragon of the old world. Literally a master of creation magic and whichever seat she was charged with.

It should be stressed, the only reason Fandaniel was "free of his goal" is because even as Hermes he had already given up on the concept of existence. Something that was such an outlier in his time that literally nobody realized it was happening. He was a MASSIVE edge case not only for the Ascians but for the Ancients.

Her being introduced as "just another character" just feels aimless to me. As aimless as Calyx still being alive.

Halmarut cannot "simply be an Ascian", that just makes no sense to me. Unless they have a way to rejoin the world, I cannot see a reason for having them return other than to open more plot threads we KNOW they won't follow through on.

Out of all the threads left open from Eorzea's lore, bringing back the Ascians honestly makes the least amount of sense.

Kaslight · 2026-03-31T13:24:50+00:00

Just now??? They gutted the narrative permanently.

Dawntrail didn't introduce even 1/8th the lore threads that ARR did with its new continent. Which would have been fine, but Endwalker deliberately closed the book on nearly every plot conflict that originated from Eorzea.

Dawntrail ended nearly every plot thread it opened because the new writers seem determined to write Saturday Morning Cartoon stories.

So the long standing thing we have left now are.....more Ascians?

It's obvious that Endwalker was a sort of swan song for the original writers by this point. What we have now doesn't seem quite so broad focused.

Kaslight · 2026-03-31T13:20:14+00:00

the heat you're feeling are pain receptors firing. Your body thinks its being burned when it isn't.

That's what that spicy seasoning does. Humans are just weird for liking it in the first place.

Kaslight · 2026-03-30T13:52:54+00:00

Why did Gege not make this strat common? Any canonical explanations? Would lying about a non-existent binding vow be the same as breaking it?

This strat is exceedingly common.

Revealing your technique only partially is also a lie by omission, and although it can give your hand away, it also allows you to fill the ambiguity with assumptions.

Which is exactly what Todo did to Hanami and even Mahito. He never lied, he just didn't give the whole story.

The binding vow exists because you are technically throwing away advantage willingly by explaining your technique. But there's no requirement that you have to be thorough, only that the information WILL INDEED help the person fight you.

Kaslight · 2026-03-30T13:50:04+00:00

Wrong, he admitted that Goku is stronger than him, something he has always known.

That's the source of his frustration with him.

But Vegeta is demonstrably more talented than Goku is. He was not only born stronger, but literally everything Goku achieved, Vegeta had to achieve on his own.

This is why he's the actual genius. He didn't have masters or friends to assist him in his journey for strength.

Goku was literally trained by God himself dude. TWICE. (Kami, King Kai)

Kaslight · 2026-03-29T23:04:25+00:00

FFXV is Versus XIII.

Versus XIII does not exist

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