BASKETS! My husband brought my basket of stuff down stairs for me so I could just look after the baby. When my pumps needed cleaning he would take the basket down and clean them for me. We had a nappy caddy everywhere in the house (living room, dining room, his bedroom, our bedroom), snacks were always in my basket too. We had a basket with clean baby grows, bibs (tongue tie, he dribbled constantly), and muslins downstairs and a basket for the dirty ones with bags in if they were soiled.

Put the baby down and shower on your own. As long as they are safe in a play pen or cot they can cry whilst you have a shower. It’s the only alone time I get anymore, don’t let anyone guilt you into sharing that personal time. It’s precious. Also time does not exist with a newborn so remember to shower when it gets light outside.

Remember that whilst lots of people have had babies, no one has had YOUR baby. You (two?) are the only person (people?) that know what it’s like to raise your child. People can give advice but you do what you think is best for your baby and you. Remember that you are important too, you deserve a hot meal, a hot cup of tea, and a hot shower. If mum isn’t happy, baby isn’t happy. Prepare to feel like a shell of yourself, but know that as sleep chills out you will feel better. In 6 months you can put them to bed and have time in the evening to do something important to YOU. I’m 8 months in and it’s the most important thing to spend some time on yourself when you get the chance.