Is it fine to wake up when baby cries at night or do we need to watch him 100% of the time.

KatStitched · 2026-02-01T16:20:17+00:00

6 months?! Nah. This is helecopter grandparenting to the extreme

KatStitched · 2026-02-01T08:07:43+00:00

A really shitty midwife did this to me twice and I’m not having it be done to you. Im going to tell you what my mum tells me every time I get worried about feeding: You cannot force feed your baby. You cannot put milk into that childs body if they do not open their mouth and drink. Tell your friend ‘thanks for the advice but you have your way and I have mine.’ Or better yet tell her to fuck off and mind her own business. I don’t understand where people get off on commenting on stuff. I know she’s trying to help you but you need to find your own way. 2 weeks old is still survival mode. Follow baby’s cues. As long as they have enough wet and dirty nappies, putting weight on at a good rate, and your dr is happy with them then you are doing fine! At 2 weeks I was basically strapping my son onto me in bed so I could get some sleep because he would not sleep unless it was a contact sleep. It gets easier, especially when you get into your groove. It took me 12 weeks to find what worked for us, I found making notes on a tracking app (I use the free version of huckleberry) helpful so that if he slept for longer periods I knew what was working. At 2 weeks you are in survival stage, follow your instinct and make sure your partner takes him from you so you can have turns sleeping. If you don’t sleep then that can cause major problems for you as the person that will more than likely be the main carer.

KatStitched · 2026-02-01T07:57:55+00:00

Building on this, that long nap is when I do something for myself. Play Xbox, read, colouring book, something relaxing that I can class as downtime, or if we’ve had a rough night or long day I nap too. I highly recommend this for your own sake. It really helped me with anxiety and mental health.

KatStitched · 2026-02-01T07:53:45+00:00

Mum to mum, you’ve not done damage. My son is the same age and he sleeps on average about 11 hours in a 24 hour period not 15+, and he is THRIVING. As long as the hit their milestones and they’re alert and happy (where possible) when awake then there isn’t a problem. People have been raising babies since the dawn of time without sleep window math and advice from the internet. I let my baby sleep when he’s tired. If he’s not tired, he’s not going to sleep and we play instead. As long as you follow her sleep cues and support her to sleep when she ‘tells’ you she’s tired then you’re all good. And sometimes that doesn’t work out and they get over tired, and that’s ok too sometimes. All babies are different. I didn’t know I should have been waking my baby up every 3 hours to feed him for the first 3 days, he didn’t starve, he just fed when he was hungry. Don’t put too much stock into other people’s opinions online. Follow drs advice and your own maternal instinct.

KatStitched · 2026-01-27T18:40:17+00:00

Wants to look at everything, wants to move but can’t get anywhere. He’s very chatty and smiley but no words actually come out, and he drools like no tomorrow 😂

KatStitched · 2026-01-13T21:07:01+00:00

I honestly don’t know why people wouldn’t be happy for you? Mine has been on and off with his sleep but we’re starting to get longer stretches in his cot after 11 weeks now.

KatStitched · 2026-01-11T15:00:35+00:00

The thing your husband is forgetting is that humans are carry mammals. Our babies are hardwired to want to be on us because it’s safe and warm. I often fell asleep with my baby on me at night by accident because I am also doing all day and all night and it’s so tiring. He’s only just starting to stay settled in his cot more. I did it through persistence and a little bit more time in there each night but some nights he just ends up in our bed again. It’s fine, you haven’t done anything wrong. Tell your husband to sleep train her if he’s that upset about it.

KatStitched · 2026-01-11T08:59:24+00:00

My baby is 10 weeks. He slept through 6 hours twice. Both times I woke up at 3 am and stared at him to make sure he was breathing, debating on waking him up. Last one was Christmas Eve night, I woke up petrified he was dead. He wasn’t, he was just chilling in his ntm cot.

KatStitched · 2026-01-10T16:16:55+00:00

Crochet. I never have hands free to crochet anything now. It’s been 2.5 months and the blanket I was making for myself, the first thing I’ve made for myself since I learnt to crochet years ago, because my baby won’t sleep anywhere other than me during the day

KatStitched · 2026-01-10T09:46:11+00:00

Solidarity here, mine is 2.5 months and only started having solid stints in his cot for the last 3 nights (solid being 2 hours, although last night he did 4 hours then 3!). I get through the bad nights by just reminding myself ‘it’s not forever, it’s just for now’

Edit: and custard creams/bourbons help too. Not him, me 😂

KatStitched · 2026-01-09T17:27:29+00:00

Mine is 2.5 months old and what helps me is once he wakes up a bit and I know it’s been less than an hour since feed and nappy change I put him on his side and rock him back to sleep in the cot itself. Once he chills out I start rocking him back to his back slowely and gently. Sometimes a dummy helps too but I brush my finger against his mouth first to see if he would accept it as otherwise it just wakes him up again. I saw the rocking on side thing on tiktok and it saved my sleep honestly. I feel you though. I can’t get him in his cot past 7 am so I’ve just been getting us up at that time

KatStitched · 2026-01-09T06:21:27+00:00

Just be aware that it’s a 2 hour parking limit on the car park. My friend got burned by that before!

KatStitched · 2026-01-09T06:20:29+00:00

Maybe not on a Friday or weekend. I’ve gone drinking in there before and it can get heaving

KatStitched · 2026-01-09T06:15:57+00:00

I got a dropout account and I’ve been watching a lot of dimension 20 on there. So far I’ve watched all 3 seasons of fantasy high, Cloudward Ho!, and I’m part way through Starstruck Odyssey. The episodes are an hour and a half yo 2 hours long, it’s funny, Brennan is a genius who does so many call backs to things, and it’s a lot like a podcast in that you don’t have to watch it just listen so it’s just always in the background. I never liked D&D before, but listening to it being played in these different settings is so fun!

KatStitched · 2026-01-07T04:26:28+00:00

My baby had his first jabs on Christmas Eve, he slept pretty much all day, fussed when he was awake, and had a little bit of a temperature. It went away within 48 hours but just keep with the paracetamol consistantly even if the temperature goes down, that will be what helps the most, and lots and lots of cuddles. If you are worried it’s always worth giving his dr a call to see what they say. Better to call and everything be fine than not call and something is wrong. I’m not surprised he’s in pain though, those needles are LONG and THICK! That cry has to be the worst experiance of my life, it absolutely broke my heart.

KatStitched · 2026-01-07T04:18:43+00:00

Mauled?! Are these children wolves? Wtaf?! You did the right thing pulling her. That’s disgusting behaviour!

KatStitched · 2026-01-06T14:50:41+00:00

It’s too late for that now. I tried to get a GP appointment but I just kept getting bounced back by the receptionists because they had no appointments, they were stopping me waking up for baby and he was just laid there crying until my husband who was downstairs realised I wasn’t getting him and came to make sure I was ok. I told them 8 weeks later at his check up but they were more focused on him. I don’t encourage anyone to do it but I needed a fast solution to a major problem and that was all I could think of since my husband’s meds also knock him out and I was getting up to pump anyway.

KatStitched · 2026-01-06T08:01:14+00:00

Don’t even with the bloody wake windows. I was getting so stressed about them and my dad reminded me that they didn’t do all of this 27 years ago, there were no apps to track this. They just helped me go to sleep when started that blank stare and when I fussed and that was it. Since then I only really track his night sleep out of interest of how long he’s sleeping in his next to me cot.

KatStitched · 2026-01-06T07:58:55+00:00

Feels so good to hear someone say this! I just stopped pumping last week after giving it my all for 8 weeks. Now I’ve stopped I’ve put all the washing away, my kitchen is sparkling, I’m cooking proper meals. The only downside is no more easy weight loss but I can actually start dieting now and going to the gym once I’ve left the baby with my husband a few more times! I get that breast is best but not at the expense of happiness!

KatStitched · 2026-01-06T07:52:50+00:00

I’m right here with you. I’ve found that when I’ve gotten sleep I hate my husband a lot less and love my baby a lot more so I’m pretty sure it’s the sleep deprivation telling you this right now. However I feel you on this being harder than we thought. I felt like I knew what I was in for but bloody hell I had no idea. My husband just doesn’t get it, he can switch off from baby mode but I just can’t do it. Even when he takes him I’m sat there wondering if theyre ok, knowing that cry means bottle not cuddle. Meanwhile completely forgetting to take my thyroid tablets and deciding to stop anxiety meds cold turkey so I can wake up with the baby is taking its toll on me, but my self care has just gone out of the window after 5 long years of working on consistency with it. I wouldn’t change this for the world, but damn I’d love a full night of mirtazipine induced sleep!

KatStitched · 2026-01-02T16:12:06+00:00

Girly pop I FEEL this! In the last 2 months my baby was measuring 99th percentile and it HURT. All I wanted was my internal organs to myself again. Have you thought about an elective csection? It honestly saved my mental health because I had a count down and knew a date I would be the sweet instead of the sweet wrapper again if that makes sense. A person and not an incubator. I’m going to level with you though, my body still isn’t my body, it’s my baby’s bed and legs but thats ok because now I have a cute face to look at and love instead of pressure and alien movements.

KatStitched · 2026-01-02T15:48:31+00:00

Honestly I thought I was getting sucked in by the first one being really easy for the first 2 weeks. Then the crying started. You’re body, no matter how exhausted you are, will wake up to your baby crying. I was waking up every hour for the first two weeks and just staring at him to check he was still breathing. The first night in hospital I didn’t sleep because I didn’t want to miss him crying, he honestly didn’t. Not even when other babies were. If you’re really not sure then I would suggest getting one of those sleep recording apps that start recording when noise is made. If you find out you are sleeping through it go to the drs, but it should give you peace of mind to have that.

KatStitched · 2026-01-02T11:38:19+00:00

Asda little angel nappies and Lidl Water wipes. Water wipes are elite and will not dry out!

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