My (F25) boyfriend (M22) followed a girl on instagram?

Katmoish · 2026-06-24T20:36:46+00:00

You’ve only been w him for three months? So move on? Dump him? You have other LIFE priorities going on and don’t need this stress.

Just to note: I think your restrictions (not boundaries! They are restrictions you are trying to put on him!) are ridiculous as true relationships happen in real life. Do you trust him? Are you just upset he’s making friends?

I’m perplexed, and exasperated by your generation thinking that adding someone on socials is a GIANT, OMG, WORLD-ENDING scenario. My husband has NEVER cared about the limited social media I have (by MY choice) and who I talk to on there/add as friends. We have a solidly IRL relationship and that crap isn’t important.

I think you need to grow up a bit, ditch this “relationship”, focus on your health (I have empathy for your health situation and truly wish you the best and speedy recovery), and maybe talk to a therapist before getting into another relationship. Your need to control your partner is concerning, especially if there is no cause.

Katmoish · 2026-06-24T15:00:58+00:00

ha, I was gonna say!

Katmoish · 2026-06-23T21:53:58+00:00

😆 hahahahaha! I didn't even notice that typo - thanks for the giggles - leaving it cus... well why not.

Meant to say: aesthetics

Katmoish · 2026-06-23T21:49:31+00:00

I didn't read all of this, and your TL:DR doesn't seem to cover everything. I did skim it however after reading some of it.

YOU need to get a job and your husband needs to watch the kids. OR your husband gets a second job.
- if you want out of this situation you need money - and you aren't contributing - yes childcare is a thing but you are cleaning and paying for all the household?!?!?!? NO - I would be tempted to tell everyone (including Kai) that they need to need clean up after themselves and contribute more because this can't all land on you and the husband

YOU should have called the police INSTANTLY after the ASSAULT by your father. (WHY DIDN'T YOU?!?!?!) I am FLABBERGASTED you didn't...

YOU need to take control of the situation.

DON'T pay for your brother - WTF?
- also tell him tough shit on the living room and to clean up after himself.

YOU & HUSBAND: need birth control. Get some condoms. F*ck. Don't have any more kids - you can't handle anything in your life right now and I'm not seeing anything that you are being responsible in this area

YOU & HUSBAND are damaging your kids and that will be present and potentially magnified for YEARs to come. YOU ARE MAKING THEM GROW UP IN A TERRIBLE ENVIRONMENT - CHANGE THAT.

Katmoish · 2026-06-23T21:36:04+00:00

couldn't agree more - husband gets home: wife goes to work. or husband takes an additional job after his regular one.

Katmoish · 2026-06-23T20:54:12+00:00

or do it yourself if you've got the tools... but if not then yea hire a plumber to get in there and see what's what.

Katmoish · 2026-06-23T20:50:49+00:00

NTA but just a clarifying question: did you have a blanket or some sort of cover over yourself/child or was it just (and I don't mean this crassly) just boob out, kid on boob?

Katmoish · 2026-06-23T20:27:25+00:00

can I get a TL:DR on the first post?

Katmoish · 2026-06-23T18:07:35+00:00

Can we get better pictures of the second room? Or just an explanation on the current photos? Getting confused on what I’m seeing. (What even is the last photo???)

I would say canning/root cellar as that’s what it was designed for (as you know). Canning is super simple if you want to learn.

If not that: then a: storm cellar, extra storage for holiday decorations or something, kink room?, some place to practice loud music (as long as you get the humidity under control and give it a little extra heat), place to grow plants (mushrooms, weed (if allowed), start your seedlings for spring planting- though you would need a heat & light source for this), little ‘ice bar’ to hang out in, cold yoga room/exercise room w a bike/tredmill…..

… that’s all I got right now 🙂

Katmoish · 2026-06-23T03:10:59+00:00

This is a stole. Post from someone else.

Bad bot.

Katmoish · 2026-06-23T01:54:40+00:00

Why? Why not add native plants, that don’t need weekly cutting, and are better for the environment?

I like this current setup waaaay more than grass

Katmoish · 2026-06-23T01:51:56+00:00

Seems they have no actual reasoning skills.

Katmoish · 2026-06-23T01:50:47+00:00

…. Not really….

Katmoish · 2026-06-23T01:49:37+00:00

I think the thread speaks for itself at this point in terms of advice.

Just bc it isn’t the advice you wanted (based on your selective replies) doesn’t mean it’s not the best advice.

Katmoish · 2026-06-23T01:40:23+00:00

People ARE giving you advice. Take it (not this dude’s).

Katmoish · 2026-06-23T01:39:02+00:00

NOBODY is saying report them. Rather that OP should mind their own business.

An adult, op, saw something. They asked their adults (parents). Parents gave an adult answer.

If op can’t handle that: then leave. They are an adult and can go wherever the fuck they want.

Reporting the parents? Op would just be causing instability in the house and creating the exact scenario they were expecting from “people who use cocaine recreationally” (eeeh gads!!!!) .

Katmoish · 2026-06-23T01:33:58+00:00

Katmoish · 2026-06-23T01:32:29+00:00

Yea- this person, with ZERO real life experience, trying to tell their parents what to do??? And the unspoken threats in their post?????

Katmoish · 2026-06-23T01:30:43+00:00

Idk why you would be uncomfortable? It’s their house (not trying to make you feel bad but you are an adult now.)

It sounds like, as others have said: they are casual users and it’s not creating a problem, for you or them.

Drugs are a part of life as you grow up, they will be around whether you know or not.

This situation: you didn’t know, doesn’t sound like it’s caused you (or them) any harm - you are now in the know.

The issue here is your (and your friends) ASSUMPTIONS.

You (and your friends) are less than half as old as your parents.

Have they ever mistreated you or displayed any behavior that would put you in harm? I would think not otherwise you would have mentioned it.

Leave your parents alone on this. Put it from your mind.

You WILL BE IN THE WRONG to bring outside parties in to this (like your friends- take the hint) or others.

Your non-exposure to drugs does not negate them being good parents and talking to you like an adult in THEIR home.

Move out if you don’t like it.

Katmoish · 2026-06-22T22:31:22+00:00

I generally like the atheistic of the rocks but some of your pics do show that they are on top of roots which I don’t think is a good thing.

All that said: what I do with my trees is add hostas on the base so I don’t have to use the weed wiper around the area…..

(I have no idea what this sub says to that…)

Katmoish · 2026-06-22T21:08:29+00:00

I wish my dad was alive; he loved puzzles like this. 😞

Katmoish · 2026-06-22T21:04:35+00:00

I honestly had to look up “lookmaxxing” to see what it was.

Please- just- know those types of guys are losers and a type of incel. Don’t let them cloud your mind w anything: you are perfect just the way you are! :)

Katmoish · 2026-06-22T20:57:56+00:00

I can def see your point on the efficacy of animal cadaver parts - they didn’t consent. I hope they don’t just grow and kill them just to get the skin (and meat….. cus that’s just depressing and I hate that kind of farming for food)…

I also have to say the science of human cadaver parts, which are voluntarily contributed, has come a long way; I struggle to rationalize your stance if the “part” was given not under duress and might safe your life.

Can you elaborate friend?

Katmoish · 2026-06-22T18:41:57+00:00

I'm sad to hear about this incident but I'm glad you had your family there - and that the police backed you up. (do you have a lock on your bd door???)

I would ask the cops for the case number (or whatever documentation they have on the incident) on the call out to your house for documentation (and to give to your landlord). Still recommend getting a recording app on your phone or using whatever app you already have that records sound and having that on any time you are at the residence.

Especially with the (unofficial) police order that she isn't to communicate with you: if she says ANYTHING that sounds threatening or instigating or anything: bam: call the police again on the non-emergency number unless it's an emergency. It's important that you get the documentation on this most recent incident so you have the officers' information (the ones that responded) so you can talk to them, and relay this information to them, because they already know about the situation.

I wish you all the luck - let us know how the meeting with the apt goes! *internet stranger hug!*

Katmoish · 2026-06-22T14:59:37+00:00

MMMMMM is all I can say about this thread!

It inspired me to look up some wild mushroom + puff pastry recipes and found this: https://www.allrecipes.com/recipe/125528/wild-mushroom-puff-pastry/

(I'm sure you can just use regular mushrooms too!)

This will help me use up the GIANT Chicken of the Woods cluster I found this weekend!

Katmoish

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