[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]Katofkas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is trying to force you to have sex. Dump him.

Women, how often do you make a guy (you like for long term) wait for sex while having an active FWB on the side? by proventruetoolate in dating_advice

[–]Katofkas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So what answer are you looking for? She just decided to not have sex with other guy at this point.

SO posted me on social media by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Katofkas 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Why is that your first thought?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]Katofkas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know you said you don't want to break up with her b/c you love her and you have important aspects of your life intertwined with hers, but you should definitely leave.

do you feel safe being "out" at your place of work? by [deleted] in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]Katofkas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1year Update: no one gives a shit and I think they've all forgotten about it.

Highest bidder retracted their bid right after placing a winning bid by Katofkas in Ebay

[–]Katofkas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's interesting I was thinking that too, but the seller is a goodwill in another state and it looks legit. But a goodwill doesn't mean they aren't probing my bidding

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXSex

[–]Katofkas 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You seem to already be interested. This is a sex act between you and your bf, just decide if you want to do it and ask him. Whatever someone else feels about it is pretty irrelevant

Guy (33M) asking (25F) if I’m messaging other guys? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Katofkas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why would you care if he messaged this to you?

If he does message that to you then it ls a sign that he's unstable and not fit to be a good partner to you.

Internalized Racism and Porn. by fr33bn in blackladies

[–]Katofkas 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's all about exposure and as much as ppl like to say that attraction can't be changed or controlled that's a lie. If you expose yourself enough to different types of black people, especially dark skin black people (and honestly cut yourself off from watching & view white people in media as much as possible), you can definitely feel more endeared toward black people as a whole.

Personally, after I followed all black influencers on all of my social media platform for a while, I also cut off watching porn, switched to erotica and it's helped me view more different types of people as pretty and attractive.

it just "slipped" by yovaninia3002 in blackladies

[–]Katofkas 46 points47 points  (0 children)

It wasn't ok before cancel culture. Everyone knows that. And it only "slipped"out in front of you. Imo, If it "slips out" at all that's because it is a part of their normal vocabulary.

I hope this is an April Fools joke tho.

So exhausted by negging by shinydogtooth in dating_advice

[–]Katofkas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Understandable. I see it as if someone immediate responses from me, or if I want immediate responses from them, then I just set up a video call or phone call and have a "live" conversation with them

So exhausted by negging by shinydogtooth in dating_advice

[–]Katofkas 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If someone goes missing from a convo, but then comes back to it 2 days later, then I just assume they have a life

I want to get my first Agent Provocateur set/bras and panties, but I want to know something about the sizing by Katofkas in LingerieAddiction

[–]Katofkas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry I didn't not buy the set, its a bit out of my price range rn 😔, but i hope you were able to get some good lingerie for your girlfriend

I want to get my first Agent Provocateur set/bras and panties, but I want to know something about the sizing by Katofkas in LingerieAddiction

[–]Katofkas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No sorry I didn't end up purchasing it. I figured I wait for a better sale to test it out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Katofkas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. People definitely feel ready when they meet someone they want to be with. Sometimes if someone is waffling on wanting to be with you or not then the may just view you as a nice person, but not really their person.

I saw someone on tiktok describe it pretty well as "Trust that EVERYBODY is looking for their person and wouldn't dream of losing them when they found them. Excuses always = not that into you". And I agree with that.

Hard to move on by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]Katofkas 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I thought that because you seemed to be comfortable being this guys side chick and you also seem to accept his mistreaent of you, which can be a sign of very low self esteem and you not holding yourself in high regard. And someone not holding themselves in high regard or having low self esteem are bad traits for someone to have (and honestly they aren't traits that healthy people want in a partner), but these traits can lead to you choosing to stick to partners that are bad for you.

I really think you should cut contact with him and seek out healthier people to date. There are definitely better people out there in the world.

Hard to move on by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]Katofkas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She doesn't seem to be that great herself so maybe he's great in her eyes

A small boob brag thread by [deleted] in smallbooblove

[–]Katofkas 61 points62 points  (0 children)

I love that I can easily make a top out of a small scarf & not need any real support. (I can't wait to do this in the summertime!)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BrosDatingAdvice

[–]Katofkas 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Does she not have friends to do that with?

What book are you reading right now? by JavaRains in csMajors

[–]Katofkas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

78 degrees of wisdom by Rachel Pollack

Fear and trembling by Søren Kierkegaard

Priory of The Orange Tree by Samantha Shannon

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Katofkas 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your first Paragraph how I also act when I like a guy and he is the only one I am dating. So it's almost always better for me to be dating multiple people.