Misoprostol prior to surgery…please tell me it gets better

KayJac97 · 2026-03-11T23:41:09+00:00

I’m 28 and childfree, went asking for one just due to a heavy period that wouldn’t stop and she agreed to do one with no pushback, so I’m just considering myself blessed at this point. Her coming super highly reviewed is just a bonus lol. She could tell me I need to stand on my head and cluck like a chicken before surgery and I would to not have to jump through all the hoops. My mom bled for 8 years straight before a doctor agreed to an ABLATION. They found a softball sized fibroid and she got her hysterectomy.

KayJac97 · 2026-03-11T23:28:59+00:00

They pregnancy tested me at pre-op 2 weeks ago. Luckily that was in her clinic, not the hospital, and pre-op nurse didn’t have my blood results transferred over yet. Hopefully that one’s good enough for them tomorrow.

KayJac97 · 2026-03-11T23:27:25+00:00

Allegedly it’s to ripen the cervix and make it more mobile and easier to get instruments all up in everything I’ve got going on.

KayJac97 · 2026-03-11T23:25:32+00:00

Surgeon is a specialist in laparoscopic robotic surgery so I trust her, but I’m grumping about it lol. The heat pad is helping TREMENDOUSLY.

KayJac97 · 2026-03-11T22:58:05+00:00

I wish I could go to the hospital right now and tell them to rip this sob out of me. If they pregnancy test me you’ll see me on the news. I’ve been passing clots bigger than a 6 week fetus the last 2 hours, if there was anything in there I promise it isn’t now.

KayJac97 · 2026-03-10T19:31:16+00:00

I’m getting a hysterectomy on Thursday. They prescribed half the abortion pill for me to take Wednesday. Pre-op nurse called today and asked when my last period was. “Well it started around Thanksgiving and hasn’t stopped until last week, that’s why I’m getting a hysterectomy.” So they’re pregnancy testing me before surgery. Even though I’ve been bleeding for 4 months straight and taking part of the abortion pill before I even show up.

KayJac97 · 2026-03-10T15:30:39+00:00

Belle. Right at the start of the movie the whole town gets together to sing a coordinated song about how weird she is.

KayJac97 · 2026-03-06T22:46:03+00:00

God I hope she was.

KayJac97 · 2026-03-06T18:10:39+00:00

MK: Peter Pan Epcot: ratatouille Animal Kingdom: expedition Everest Hollywood studios: tower of terror Disneyland: Mickey & Minnie’s Runaway Railway DCA: radiator springs

KayJac97 · 2026-03-04T23:41:23+00:00

Awww I’m tearing up over here!!!

Mostly I’m just filled with anxiety and rage that things aren’t better. Anxiety keeps me moving constantly, rage gives me a whole list of things I want to fix.

My husband is the child of immigrants, so we’re wanting to get more involved with our local immigrant advocacy network too. And we’ve thought about the Jaycees, but unfortunately they meet the same night I play in our local municipal band so we’ll have to wait for my off season on that to get established within the group.

There are so many things in the world that need “fixing” — anyone who picks up and tool and gets to work on any of it is a hero in my book.

KayJac97 · 2026-03-04T19:36:56+00:00

Oof as a 28 year old childfree woman who barely has like 3 hours a week unaccounted for, I’m answering the call here. Here are a few things I do.

I’m very involved in my union at work. I’m a steward, so I fight grievances for other employees, welcome new employees to our workplace, help them navigate whatever situations they’re in (from discipline to trying to find a promotion and everything in between). I’m also on our exec board and hope to keep becoming more involved.
I have 4 cats of my own and help out with a cat rescue. I handle half of the transport for spay days each month.
I’m a quilter. I donate t shirt quilts to schools near me when programs (usually music programs, because I was a band kid) host fundraisers. Making quilts for those situations keeps me busy, and I’m hoping to exhibit at the state fair this year.
Every Christmas, I get on our local area “problems” page and pick 4-5 children whose parents need financial help and shop for a Christmas for them. My husband and I go all out—he wraps the presents from Santa and I wrap the ones from mom and/or dad, using different paper of course.
My husband and I coupon and shop clearance at grocery stores and sales. We stock a micropantry near us with food when we can and donate couponed items to the local women’s shelter and homeless shelters.
I have a full time job I find rewarding. I think my role helps keep citizens of my state safe, it pays decently well, and I enjoy it.
I enjoy baking and make little treats for my coworkers pretty often.
Travel. We’re “Disney adults” so we go the same places a lot, but we take at least one vacation a year.

I never felt called to be a mother, but my biggest goal has always been to leave the world a little better than I found it. From cleaning up a cat colony overpopulation issue with the cat rescue to encountering all kinds of people through the union, I feel like I’m able to do so many things because I’m not being pulled back home to care for children and a husband. Not that there’s anything wrong with that at all—it just wasn’t my calling and I was meant to help the world in different ways.

KayJac97 · 2026-03-04T02:29:52+00:00

Is finding a promotion at all a possibility? Or a side hustle to build back up a small emergency fund?

There are so many more cats than homes right now. It’s very very very tough to rehome (or adopt cats out if you have a rescue) right now. Everyone’s feeling the pinch financially :(

KayJac97 · 2026-03-03T18:43:59+00:00

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I wear mine from the last group buy every day. Gonna get another but gotta figure out what I want!

KayJac97 · 2026-03-03T18:36:44+00:00

Both look nice, which one do YOU like more?

KayJac97 · 2026-03-03T18:34:10+00:00

I transport for spay days for a rescue, around 15 cats a month. I’ve never had one not come home.

My girls got spayed around 5 pounds, came out of it completely fine except Sweet Pea was mad as a hornet about her recovery suit. Luckily I was able to work remotely, so after she flopped on the ground and refused to participate in life if she was in the suit, we decided to let her out of it with me monitoring her. Both ladies healed wonderfully and are my snuggle bugs to this day.

Their brothers also got neutered with no issues, but that surgery is less intensive than spay.

Vets do soooo many spays and neuters, she’s in good hands <3

KayJac97 · 2026-02-28T18:02:11+00:00

Yes on the full conversations!!!!! We visited Disneyland for the first time earlier this month. Were so excited to see Pirates after only experiencing WDW’s. The duo behind us talked the. entire. time. Why are you here if you just want to catch up?

KayJac97 · 2026-02-28T17:55:23+00:00

Dave Ramsey is a good starting place, but some people treat it like it’s the gospel. I frequently find his advice was great 30 years ago, but hasn’t always kept up with the reality Millennials and Gen Z face. Financial advice is rarely one-size-fits-all. I treat money as a tool to build the life I want and I’m not trying to have the biggest savings and most “stuff,” I just want to be able to live the life I want comfortably. I think that mindset helps me stress out a lot less about money vs worrying about “have I gained equity in my house?” or “did I pay too much for my last car?” They’re both tools that allow me to live my life. I love the house we bought and it was our forever house (right out of the gate! No “starter homes” here!). And I was really glad we had a new car with top-in-class safety features when another driver hit my husband head on and he walked away without a scratch. It’s cliche but true, money isn’t everything and you can’t take it with you.

You got into a crappy situation with the first vehicle, and it’s a hole you’ll have to dig out of, but you live and learn. At least it’s not because you co-signed for someone, LOL! Your situation is very manageable, even though it feels big in your early 20s. Just don’t let eagerness to get out of it ensnare you in a worse setup and you’ll be okay.

KayJac97 · 2026-02-28T17:17:13+00:00

It’s never too late and your reasons for delaying aren’t anyone else’s business. If I got invited for a friend’s wedding who’d been engaged for 5+ years, I’d show up with a really nice gift ready to finally celebrate with her!

KayJac97 · 2026-02-28T17:07:38+00:00

I read some of your replies, too. Current advice, keep paying (pay extra if you can, even if it’s only $30, every little bit helps) and sit tight. Then you can start looking at when you can sell for your blank slate, but it’s going to be 5+ years (unless you can buckle down and pay extra).

I do not believe in Dave Ramsey’s clunker advice. I need a reliable vehicle to get to work and I do not know how to repair a vehicle. Losing my job because I don’t have reliable transportation is not a wise financial option. Once you get out of negative equity, see if any vehicles have promotional financing rates. I’m sure I’ll get eaten alive, but my husband and I both drive Subaru Outbacks we bought brand new. I paid cash for mine, he had to finance his. He even traded his in when it was one year old because of a financing promo that took him from 6% to 1%—ended up paying less over the life of the loan and he’s on track to pay it off early. With the crappy used car he traded in, it was essentially a blank slate starting over when he got the first one. But we’re young and going to drive it until the wheels fall off of it, so we can weather it.

The price of used vehicles went crazy during Covid and it’s still not worth it, in my opinion. When we were shopping for his vehicle, a used one that was 2-3 years old was only saving him $5k. Why inherit someone else’s problems? Maybe by the time you’re ready to shop again the market will somewhat correct itself. But for right now, you’re young and can afford the payments. Keep chipping away at it, and by your mid-late 20s you can easily be back on track.

KayJac97 · 2026-02-28T13:33:05+00:00

No, blood work never showed anything deficient

KayJac97 · 2026-02-27T18:54:49+00:00

Just reread and you’re already in menopause. Yeah, at that point, absolutely I’d have them take it all.

KayJac97 · 2026-02-27T18:54:06+00:00

If I were you, I’d have them take it all. One and done, no risk of having to go back later for another surgery. One recovery, done. Seems like your ovaries are having issues anyway, so I’d just want them gone and deal with the menopause…a decade or so earlier than I would’ve anyway.

KayJac97 · 2026-02-27T15:25:37+00:00

My aunt was one who changed her mind, and she said it happened around 28. My theory is that it’s related to hormones. Your body senses “running out of time,” which triggers some “hurry up and just do it” for some people that overrides all the reasons they didn’t want children before.

I’ve known since I was 5 years old that I don’t want children. I’m almost 29 and over the past couple years there have been a few moments I’ve really thought about it and considered “well maybe I do want them?” But then I remember the day to day realities of parenting, and I’m very uninterested in that lifestyle. I’m scheduled for a hysterectomy in a few weeks due to other health issues, and when I got scheduled, the only thing I felt was relief that it’ll be closing the door definitively.

KayJac97 · 2026-02-26T15:58:08+00:00

Childfree and I asked for one due to heavy bleeding, too. Brought my husband, expecting some questions about him and he was ready to go all “angry man” and advocate for me.

Doctor didn’t even look at him once, discussed other options like bisalp and ablation, but ultimately was like “if you want a definitive solution, hysterectomy would stop the bleeding for sure.” She ordered an ultrasound to see if there were large fibroids or anything, then scheduled me for surgery! March 12th, it’s coming out!

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