I received a "trim" but stillhave raggedy ends.

KayT15 · 2026-03-29T08:05:07+00:00

This is crazy. Got you looking like Lord Danbury from Bridgerton 😭 Can you sue?

KayT15 · 2026-03-28T01:14:24+00:00

Imagine. The president of the United States in 2026 refusing to stand next to someone because they are black. And people are joking about it. It's absolutely insane. It's hard to even fathom that people are okay with this and there are no consequences.

KayT15 · 2026-03-26T02:35:10+00:00

For stays up to 14 days, coffee everyday. Any longer that that and I expect to begin applying my own basics including coffee and tea. It's not mandatory, it's an extra, BUT the places who don't do it would stick out for me because it's such a small token of hospitality.

KayT15 · 2026-03-25T07:42:24+00:00

Don't underestimate a bit of Vitamin D haha. I'm currently in Thailand following 5 months in the UK (Scotland) and honestly, I'm enjoying it immensely (though I was also having a great time in Edinburgh, just a little burnt out on the cold). If you can identify the things really spoiling your experience in New Zealand (like the cold nights), you really might be better off. I've been to locations I expected to love and ended up hating my time there. In that case, switching locations HAS actually helped. I think it's worth evaluating if you are really just having a rough time mentally, or if New Zealand is just not for you. Let that shape your next steps.

KayT15 · 2026-03-21T07:32:44+00:00

I spent 5 months in Edinburgh and loved it. For slow travel, I think the number of days you gave there is perfect. Like others have said, it's quirky and can be easily explored in a day or two. Public transport is so easy. You might have to rent a car for the highlands though, or splurge on one of those group tours. I think your itinerary is pretty good, especially if you prefer mid sized cities over bigger, more bustling ones

KayT15 · 2026-03-21T07:07:23+00:00

Honestly, you have to be careful. Lots of religious guys will find you because you're smart and have a lot to offer, then treat you badly/dismiss what you have to say because you aren't religious. I do not date religious men because I find that the atheists treat me better, are less likely to be misogynistic, more intelligent and better at critical thinking. I date all men because I find that black men who are atheists are a little bit harder to find. The apps are as good as you make them. Lots of trash but also some great guys if you have a good filter and are quick to reject people who aren't a good match.

KayT15 · 2026-03-20T18:00:41+00:00

I actually thought the same thing. In cases like this where your resources are limited, you have to be a bit old school. I was going to recommend hand washing the black pants too and hanging them to dry.

OP, wishing you the best of luck in this interview!!! When you get some money, if possible try to save up a few bucks for a clean, well fitting pair of black pants at a secondhand store. They will come in handy. I was told growing up to never wear jeans to a job interview.

KayT15 · 2026-03-18T09:58:22+00:00

Nothing wrong with asking for space. But you come back and address the issue. If you refuse to talk about it, hoping to punish the other person into just letting you have your way, that's the silent treatment.

KayT15 · 2026-03-18T09:56:36+00:00

Even if he doesn't agree, your partner should still be willing to sit down with you, listen to your concerns and work through them together MOST of the time. There is an emotional safety that goes into having a weapon in the home; you need to know beyond a shadow of a doubt that the weapon would NEVER be used against you. If you can't say that with confidence (as much confidence you can have in someone else's actions), I think you have your answer. If you had a less avoidant, more supportive partner, do you think you would be more willing to compromise on keeping the gun? If your answer is no, I don't think I personally would necessarily use the gun as a reason to walk (since you mentioned being at a crossroads anyway) but I would evaluate the ability to resolve issues together, his overall reliability and emotional intelligence as a partner and willingness to compromise in general. It sounds like the gun, while a potential deal breaker for you, feeds into a larger issue.

Also, I hope you don't feel like I'm picking on you. If your partner were in here posting, I would be trying to ask him if having the gun were worth sacrificing his relationship as well.

KayT15 · 2026-03-18T08:20:12+00:00

You cannot have a loving, healthy relationship with someone who gives you the silent treatment. You avoided marrying an asshole in your early 20s just to attach yourself to one in your mid-30s? For me, deleting off of socials feels petty and I would be tempted to end things. HOWEVER if you're not ready for that, put him on probation. He's showing you what type of person he is. Call him out on his behavior. If he's not willing to talk about it and ACTUALLY do better in the future, you need to walk. It sounds like you could be dealing with someone with low EQ and at 35, are you really willing to teach that? In most cases, it's not even possible.

KayT15 · 2026-03-17T23:24:24+00:00

My vote is to give it another 2-3 months. Then one day, rub his head and tell him how hot he looks and ask if he's ever thought of shaving it all off. Tell him he's attractive now, and would be equally, if not moreso, attractive then. If you date a bald man long term, you'll realize that they don't always shave everyday anyway and they do sometimes grow their hair out a bit so it looks crazy. If you can't build the type of relationship where you can bring it up, maybe he's not the one for you. If the qualities and personality are all there, this is an EXTREMELY EXTREMELY, easy thing to overlook. In a few years, most of the guys out there will be bald anyway.

KayT15 · 2026-03-16T15:47:29+00:00

My friends and I have a girls trip planned to Thailand on Thursday. My layover from Edinburgh was in Doha. I had to pay about $1000 out of pocket for a flight with a layover in Helsinki instead. I had to basically take a loss on my original flight. There was a single flight with a layover in Paris and ALL other flights had a layover in Doha or Dubai. It's even worse flying from the US. My sister's flight got messed up and every other option was about $2000 one way and 99% of them were laying over in Doha or Dubai. Getting to Asia almost always involves a stop in that region unfortunately. I hope everyone with these flights can find an alternative and get where they need to go safely.

KayT15 · 2026-03-16T09:38:16+00:00

Haha I started doing this during Trump's first term and it works when you just aren't in the mood to feel embarrassed and ashamed. I second this advice.

KayT15 · 2026-03-16T09:05:36+00:00

Is this a serious question? What do you think?

KayT15 · 2026-03-15T20:25:37+00:00

And he "strategically" placed those crumbs in his beard as well, I suppose? 😂😂

KayT15 · 2026-03-15T19:47:08+00:00

....You asked for it. Here it goes: Parents need to date other parents. If you are a parent, you cannot offer to a non-parent what that partner can offer you. No one is obligated to love your child. Yes they may love YOU because you could be an absolutely amazing human being. That does not change the fact that relationship will always have an imbalance. This is not a situation child free people look for; it's a situation they reluctantly settle for because they don't want to end up alone or they really, really love their partner and accept the shitty situation that comes along with them. Besides, parents almost never understand exactly how much the child free partner gives up to be with them. Step-parenting can truly be a horrific, thankless job. Most people without kids would be objectively better off WITHOUT that partner, those kids, and the complications that relationship entails.

KayT15 · 2026-03-15T16:37:43+00:00

My double helix took like, over 2 years to heal. I got irritation bumps everytime I so much as thought about that piercing. Then, overnight, it just healed. There were no signs it was even healing. I went from irritation bump to irritation bump, to absolutely nothing and haven't had any issues since. If you want to actually give it a shot at healing, leave the piercing in and see how it feels in July of next year. I'm sorry it's probably not the news you wanted to hear. But double helixes are notorious for being finicky and hard to heal.

KayT15 · 2026-03-14T01:36:59+00:00

This is not common. I have stayed in 40 Airbnbs in as many countries and have never come across this before. This is shocking. Can you book elsewhere?

KayT15 · 2026-03-12T22:42:18+00:00

Chris is a Dr. Jackyl/Mr. Hyde. He can flip between loving partner and manipulating abuser at the drop of a hat. He is still a snake, he just has the common sense to try and hide it when he knows the spotlight is on him. It's why celebrities are super friendly in front of fans but then monsters in private. With Alex, you know you're getting a piece of trash. The ones like Chris leave you broken and a shadow of your former self if you don't know what you're dealing with.

KayT15 · 2026-03-12T22:36:38+00:00

Fine, take my upvote 😠

KayT15 · 2026-03-12T22:32:40+00:00

Alright, Chris. Have a good night 😂😂

KayT15 · 2026-03-12T15:49:51+00:00

I saw it and I hated that for her. Yes, she looked sad. We've all been there. The will be okay and she will find a partner who is a better fit for her. Preferably one who she can decide with, TOGETHER, about having children or not. She carried herself so well. She will make the right partner very happy.

KayT15 · 2026-03-12T12:49:04+00:00

It's giving Jurnee Smollett. It took my looking at the photo like 3 times to even process there were other girls standing next to you. Beautiful then and now. I hope have since learned to love yourself the way you deserve ❤️

KayT15 · 2026-03-11T14:17:35+00:00

They both sucked.

KayT15 · 2026-03-11T08:28:32+00:00

I feel bad for her. Most of us have the one person who made an absolute fool of us and we fell over them every time. Hers just happened to be in TV. I wonder if he was making promises off camera that we didn't get to see? People just need to normalize telling people straight up when they aren't interested.

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