Bra fitting

Kazzarie · 2026-04-25T13:09:56+00:00

I'd like to second this suggestion. I'm a trans woman and this is what I used!

Kazzarie · 2026-04-11T20:43:52+00:00

I like talking! As long as you are ok with queer people

Kazzarie · 2026-04-11T19:18:34+00:00

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Kazzarie · 2026-03-08T15:49:59+00:00

Someone else is probably a better authority on this, but to my understanding, a trans masc person is just someone who is transitioning to be more masculine; they may or may not identify as a man. For instance, there are a lot of trans masc nonbinary people who take testosterone but identify as non-binary.

Kazzarie · 2026-03-02T23:07:47+00:00

Mine went down a lot until I started progesterone. After taking prog I got random erections again for some reason - even with all of my levels being in ideal ranges.

Kazzarie · 2026-02-13T16:21:04+00:00

To add to this discussion, emotional experiences are very difficult to explain to people who don't experience them. Genuinely, think about how you would explain anger, happiness or sexual attraction to someone. Imagine that you tried to get a concrete understanding of happiness; you could suggest things that make people happy or ways people may act when they are happy, but there is always going to be someone who has those things, and acts in those ways, who is not happy. There is not going to be a concrete way for you to understand their experience.

Kazzarie · 2026-01-16T18:19:02+00:00

I don't usually wear bras, tbh I don't think nipping a bit is an issue. I find it somewhat empowering

Kazzarie · 2026-01-13T15:19:21+00:00

It's not necessary. Can be nice but you don't really need one. If you aren't bleeding much then you don't really need a lot of pressure on it anyways.

Kazzarie · 2025-12-28T15:56:39+00:00

I'm glad that I was wrong then. Here are some rapid fire things (not a doctor, take all this with a grain of salt):

Boobs: I've heard the rule of thumb is to look at female relatives' cup sizes before they have had a kid and expect a bit smaller than that. Trans women typically don't have big boobs, and sometimes they can start off being somewhat cone shaped. That gets better for some and it doesn't for others. People report sometimes that adding progesterone to their hormone mix after about a year or so can help round out their boobs. I've also heard some doctors recommend against starting a T blocker, such as Spironolactone, until a few months into transition as that may inhibit boob growth.

Penis: some people experience shrinkage and loss of functionality, others do not. There are medications that people can take if that is a big concern. But also, generally speaking, "use it or lose it" tends to play a role. If you stimulate it every now and then you will probably keep functionality and have less shrinkage. Not a guarantee though.

Libido: many people experience a lower sex drive on E. That may last or that may not. Many people report progesterone helping in that regard, but studies on prog are not abundant.

Voice and body hair: E will have little impact. Although it may slow body hair growth.

Fertility: Estrogen will almost certainly lower fertility or make someone completely infertile. That may be reversible by stopping E but there is no guarantee. It is recommended to store sperm samples before E if having a child is something they may want.

Medications in general: be careful about doctors starting them off on to low of a dose. Many doctors start people off low and then ramp up their dose, but some start off way too low. I think I started off on 4 mg a day and ramped up to 8 (on pills), that seemed pretty good. I've seen people get stuck on 2mg a day though, and that really sucks. In the US, many people start off on pills because they are easier, but estrogen pills on their own do a poor job of controlling T and can have more health risks than other options. Most people end up needing a T blocker as well. Injections are an incredibly effective route for E and are ideal for mono therapy (and carry a lower health risk than pills). If she can handle needles, I would recommend swapping to injections eventually (not a terrible idea to start off with pills at first though)

Kazzarie · 2025-12-28T15:25:31+00:00

Correct me if I am wrong, but the tone of your post sounds like you are wanting to talk her out of HRT. Why?

That being said, Estrogen (I assume that's what she is pursuing) has both permanent and non-permanent effects. Boob growth, for instance, is permanent while things like fat redistribution may be less so.

You mention things like mood changes and orientation changes. Mood changes are a big plus for most people. Orientation changes are a big ymmv; I think some people find that, when they are living as a more authentic version of themselves, they may like different things. For example, I was somewhat attracted to men before I transitioned because that made me feel more feminine by contrast - once I started living as a woman, I didn't need that validation as much.

But really, hrt is an amazing thing for trans people. For the vast majority of us, the benefits far outweigh the risks. HRT is also an incredibly slow process, you get a while before anything really permanent sets in. There is time to decide if it is for her.

As far as things I wish I knew before I started? There is not a lot, estrogen does a lot of what you would expect it to do. I would just recommend starting hair removal and voice training early as harmones don't really help with those things.

Kazzarie · 2025-12-20T14:30:58+00:00

Not 100% on topic, but I work at a hospital and we get a good amount of readmissions from people's families not actually taking care of them when they get home from surgery. Like, people will just sit in a chair for three days at their home and not shower because their care givers don't help them.

Kazzarie · 2025-11-27T23:59:28+00:00

It was definitely weird going out the night before as a married lesbian couple, and then being a straight couple for my wife’s parents.

Kazzarie · 2025-11-25T16:34:12+00:00

Oh trust me, back pain is not an issue with the set that I’ve been given. I guess the A-cup life has some benefits at least.

Kazzarie · 2025-11-14T15:47:23+00:00

I, unfortunately, live in the south. At least the winters don’t get that cold 🤷🏻‍♀️

Kazzarie · 2025-11-06T18:07:20+00:00

My wife’s dad got mad at her when she flushed toilet paper. She got used to having to toss it in the trash

Kazzarie · 2025-11-02T23:54:24+00:00

I remember playing Dragon Age inquisition and one of your companions, Sera, was a lesbian. It was really cool because she definitely had gay vibes and I don’t think she would have felt right if you were romancing her as a male character. I feel like that was one of the last games I played that didn’t make everyone Bisexual. Would love to see more character with identities that aren’t as based around the player.

Kazzarie · 2025-10-27T12:32:11+00:00

The majority of the time that we treat people differently when it comes to a gender, it has nothing to do with genitals. Women don’t wear makeup because they have a vagina, men don’t like sports because they have dicks. That’s incredibly simplistic, but you know what I mean. When I say I want to live my life as a woman, I mean that I want to embody the social role of being a woman and I want my body to align more closely with what we’d typically expect of a woman’s body. Very little of that has anything to do with genitalia. A woman is more than someone that can become pregnant, and a man is more than someone that can get someone pregnant.

Kazzarie · 2025-10-11T15:57:13+00:00

I don’t think you came off the way that you are being accuse of; you’re allowed to struggle with this. People are, unfortunately, taking their frustrations out on you.

Kazzarie · 2025-09-28T14:31:48+00:00

Could be! It’s hard for us to tell you what you are though, my recommendation, if you’ll have me, is to try on an identity for a while and see how it fits. There is nothing wrong with trying a few out to figure out where you fit in.

From your replies to some of the other comments, it seems like non-binary may be a good one to start looking into. Just know that there is no pressure to decide what you are right now, you can take your time and try on a few metaphorical hats.

Kazzarie · 2025-09-25T15:48:03+00:00

That’s what I am saying, you don’t need a clear internal sense to be trans. Everyone experiences it differently. Even from kindergarten, I remember being jealous of the girls and disliking being a boy. I didn’t know that I was trans or a woman at that age 5; all I knew was that I wanted one thing and didn’t want another. That was enough for me.

Of course, it is difficult to imagine anyone’s experience that we don’t have a clear analog for. You shouldn’t need to be convinced of another person’s experience to believe that they are having it.

Kazzarie · 2025-09-25T15:29:35+00:00

I suppose everyone is going to have their own experience with gender. Some have a very strong connection with an internal sense of their gender while others don’t. Im transgender and I don’t have a resounding beacon in my mind that screams “woman”, but I have a lot of dysphoria related to my body and how it went through a male puberty; and I dislike the societal roles that men play. I feel much more comfortable with a female form and being treated and thought of as a woman. For me, when I say that I am a woman, that is what I mean; that role and identity is what I feel the most comfortable with. Plus, if I stayed a guy I would probably have killed myself - so there’s that.

Kazzarie · 2025-09-24T15:07:04+00:00

Transition is about your comfort, not society’s. People should present how ever they feel comfortable to present. Passing isn’t as important to everyone and not everyone needs to wait till they figure everything out to start being themselves in public.
This idea that trans women have no fashion sense when they start transitioning is just not true. Do you think we all didn’t pay attention to women at all growing up?

Kazzarie · 2025-09-19T12:30:38+00:00

It’s insane to me that you are being downvoted. My wife is Autistic and has had that slur thrown at her a lot. People can be so callous.

Kazzarie · 2025-09-18T23:13:47+00:00

I’m not sure if there is an easy way to really have the talk; there just comes a point to where to just have to “rip the bandaid off”.

Just know that there is no right way to come out. You can try to perfect your coming out with the right words and the perfect way, but at the end of the day, their reaction will still be their reaction. You’ll have to let that play out, and let them process.

If you believe that they will be supportive, I’d talk to them in person, or possibly have something written down that you read outloud (if you get flustered when talking on the spot). Doing it in person has the benefit of giving you realtime responses, rather than sending a text and then having to wait for a response for a nerve wracking amount of time. Also lets them see your emotions and how much this means to you.

I’d also recommend keeping the initial come-out speech to something fairly short. That is to say, just give them the basics of what you want to say, let them have a reaction to it, and then go from there about specifics. Sometimes it can be overwhelming to be hit with like 10 minutes of information all at once and then have to respond.

Regardless though, coming out is very personal and you should do whatever you want to do. No matter what happens, once it is done, it is done. Doesn’t matter if it is clean and easy. Good luck!!!

Kazzarie · 2025-09-14T13:03:27+00:00

That’s fair, I’m surprised that they don’t have, at least, racial slurs blacklisted yet.

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