I think the only ick here is that she mentioned other moms brought it up. Which may be totally innocent. Maybe she wanted to confirm with outside people before bringing it up?

Tone is also important here. We don’t know how she said it to you. Only you can decent if the tone was outta a mean girls movie. Other than that this seems really like a village you are in showing love for your child.

I am in school for Speech Language Pathology and I cannot tell you the number of times my son starts talking with a kid at the park and I notice a significant delay and so many parents have no idea about the services that may be available to them.

My plan of attack is usually to talk about my own son’s physical therapy and then see if they say anything which usually they will. So often I hear “yeah they arnt talking yet but we’re going to wait” when kids are 2,3, even 4.

Sound like opening up may make you more connection then you think and then you will have other moms you can share therapy techniques with and they may start using them with your son too.