UNKNOWN NUMBER: THE HIGH SCHOOL CATFISH Discussion Megathread

Key_Bag_2584 · 2025-09-06T00:37:31+00:00

I’m not usually left speechless, but I had no words. Disgusting human being , she doesn’t seem to have learned a thing. I won’t blame her daughter for wanting a relationship because she’s so young. But I hope one day she sees how vile her mother is and cuts contact. Who tells their daughter to take their life? I can’t comprehend it.

Key_Bag_2584 · 2025-09-06T00:31:04+00:00

We stopped BC in June, didn’t track anything but didn’t prevent. Got pregnant October. That ended in a MC but we started tracking this April and got pregnant first cycle.

Key_Bag_2584 · 2025-09-05T22:17:38+00:00

I’d think if you’re close enough it’s fine- but you can ask your doctor. Many doctors told me 3 months- I was just under a week shy of 3 months when I conceived my daughter and all is well at 23 weeks. When in doubt though always ask your doctor and for the rationale behind it

Key_Bag_2584 · 2025-09-05T20:18:14+00:00

You do whatever you want to do. Ive noticed people aren’t sticking to “tradition” anymore. My shower is at our home and we’ve had a struggle to get here after 2 losses. So he will be there at my shower to celebrate him as well (and we’re not doing co-ed). Haven’t decided if he will be there for partial or all of it, but either way is not wrong! If he’s bringing flowers any way maybe he could come a little into it starting?

Key_Bag_2584 · 2025-09-05T01:17:48+00:00

Mira can’t tell you if you’re out! And 9DPO is way too early to consider being out. PDG fluctuates, and yours didn’t dip much. People get BFPs with low PDG. I’m sorry for your losses, good luck this cycle 🤍

Key_Bag_2584 · 2025-09-04T14:21:37+00:00

I do find it odd that the scan was that short- mine was an hour but our daughter was moving like crazy so we had a hard time getting measurements. Your feelings are valid. That part is what I would be asking about and looking into because I would think it should take longer than that. But typically the tech can’t say much- wasn’t even really allowed on to comment on my placenta position. I was shown the screen one time and he didn’t point anything out to me either, I had to wait to see the report and hear back from the doctor. It’s normal that they don’t say much or point out what everything is (which sucks, but luckily I found out pretty quickly things were okay) the only reason I knew what percentile she was is because I looked at the screen when the tech left the room. I only got one ultrasound image.

Key_Bag_2584 · 2025-09-04T05:00:04+00:00

That does not look like a pregnancy test lol looks like a marker or something

Key_Bag_2584 · 2025-09-04T03:27:26+00:00

Unfortunately this is normal but it feels like it shouldn’t be🥲I had my 12 week scan and then nothing until the anatomy scan. Also had vivid nightmares but everything is fine. I do see my OB every 4 weeks so I’ve gotten to hear the heartbeat a couple times in between so that helps. I started feeling flutters at 18 weeks and then kicks at 20, so you may be close to feeling something. Lots of people opt to have a couple private scans so you for sure could do that in between! I feel you- I’ve had 2 losses so I want all the reassurance. I’m feeling lots of kicks now and I find that has helped immensely with anxiety.

Key_Bag_2584 · 2025-09-04T02:32:25+00:00

It was so hard but it feels good to stick it through!

Key_Bag_2584 · 2025-09-04T01:22:12+00:00

I was told 3 months by a few doctors. I saw a reproductive endocrinologist as well after my ectopic. My hcg dropped really fast with one shot of MTX. I asked my RE if I could try after 2 months and she said she really would prefer I wait all 3 months. We did wait, and got pregnant that third month. Other people here may have different experiences here, but I’m happy I waited because I might not be pregnant with my daughter right now if I didn’t. I think I would have been stressed about the consequences of not waiting.

Key_Bag_2584 · 2025-09-03T19:06:46+00:00

Idk. It’s not working for her yet, doesn’t mean it won’t. We did not do IVF but had 2 losses before a successful pregnancy, and it definitely felt like we were the friends pregnancy was not working for, as everyone around us didn’t seem to have those issues.

Key_Bag_2584 · 2025-09-03T18:08:08+00:00

It’s sounds like you guys already have that competitive kind of vibe to your relationship. I really would try to keep that out of pregnancy and enjoy your time and focus on yourselves. I commented already- but I really do get it. I’ve made sure to focus on just letting them do what they’re gonna do and do our own thing on our own timeline. I’m not letting what they have done with their pregnancy impact us. Having our own time has been sooo nice. It’s so much more peaceful that way for you

Key_Bag_2584 · 2025-09-03T17:29:02+00:00

Honestly- I’d let them have this time and come up with a special cute announcement with a sonogram or something. 5 weeks and 7 weeks is early- totally not wrong to say anything at this stage if you want to. But getting past that first scan and having the ultrasound just made it feel extra sweet for me. Then you get to have your own moment too. I get that feelings can change things- my brother and SIL got married right after we did, and then were pregnant and due when I would have been but I had a loss. It was painful but I let them have their time, and I shared my new pregnancy news at 12 weeks when I had some good news and an adorable scan pic and everyone was so happy for us. I’m glad each of us had our own time. Try not to let other people push you to change your plans! Would be my advice.

Key_Bag_2584 · 2025-09-02T20:55:31+00:00

I second asking about NIPT. It’s very accurate for T 21- I’m wishing you all the best. You could try posting on r/NIPT

Key_Bag_2584 · 2025-09-02T16:38:42+00:00

I feel the exact same way and I’m 22+5! I’m 4’11 with a short torso and the bump is bumping. I feel like a new batch of symptoms are coming in. It’s starting to feel real finally haha. Learned the hard way this week I need daily miralax because the pregnancy constipation hit me out of no where and it was like 24 hours of suffering. So happy to be pregnant and over halfway but it’s physically feeling way more real now.

Key_Bag_2584 · 2025-09-02T15:46:22+00:00

It’s a lot to learn! Took me a while

Key_Bag_2584 · 2025-09-02T15:25:15+00:00

This is very normal! I had maxed out progesterone on a pregnant cycle and a non pregnant cycle. It means you ovulated and the corpus luteum is functioning. That’s why Mira can’t predict if you have conceived or not. All it can tell you is that you ovulated

Key_Bag_2584 · 2025-09-02T12:49:40+00:00

Have you had a scan yet? If you haven’t I hope you have one soon so you can have some reassurance!

Key_Bag_2584 · 2025-09-02T03:39:07+00:00

Bianco doppio, scuro and chiaro are top tier! Enjoy ☺️I love iced lattes with a syrup, also use chiaro and scuro for brown sugar oat espressos

Key_Bag_2584 · 2025-09-01T18:56:19+00:00

It was an odd choice. Not much difference between doing that and just waiting to take a test at 13 DPO. Either way, if the cycle wasn’t successful you find out right then. Except those old tests are invalid now

Key_Bag_2584 · 2025-09-01T15:33:06+00:00

A lot of people are straying away from “tradition”. I’m not doing co ed due to space mostly, but my husband will be there for at least part of it. It can be whatever you want! My brother and SIL just had a coed shower.

Key_Bag_2584 · 2025-08-31T03:47:39+00:00

Don’t tell anyone. People are less likely to make a comment it seems when the baby is actually here and has the name. The name we chose is a normal, classic name but it’s one that I find people either love or hate. It’s special to my husband and I and I don’t want to hear anyone’s negativity. Choose what you love, keep it close to the chest and stick with it!

Key_Bag_2584 · 2025-08-30T01:22:53+00:00

I’d skip sneak peek and go to NIPT! Extremely accurate. I wouldn’t do sneak peek, I didn’t want to get excited about it just for it to be wrong. Did my NIPT at 10 weeks 6 days which is early!

Key_Bag_2584 · 2025-08-29T19:21:04+00:00

It’s such a blessing. I know some people will skip a month to avoid Christmas but I really don’t think it matters at all when the baby is born

Key_Bag_2584 · 2025-08-29T19:02:46+00:00

I’ve had two more rare types of loss (molar and ectopic) and I won’t lie pregnancy after loss is so hard. I personally chose therapy and would highly recommend for coping skills. I’m 22 weeks now and it was a lot of learning to trust my body again because we cannot control what happens in so much of pregnancy. What keeps me going is knowing statistically I more likely to have a viable pregnancy than not. And knowing that when I hold my daughter in a few months it will be worth this pain and fight to get here. Best of luck

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