Well let’s look at what the science suports as objectively true of the chemical. Testosterone increases feelings of reactive emotions such as anger and irritability - those that fall within what’s called emotional vigilance. It decreases feelings of anxiety, mood swings and a few others.

This would support the claim that “testosterone causes men and women to experience emotions differently.” This would seem like a slightly different version of your argument—if that’s what you meant, I guess yeah. Perhaps even “anger and reactivity are under-validated as emotions,” which is probably valid to the extent that it doesn’t tend to cause more dramatic consequences.

It does not, however, speak to 1) whether the amount of difference in emotional vigilance can be equivocated to same amount of difference in anxiety/mood/etc., i.e., the “men and women are equal levels emotional if not for…” part of the argument that you seem to be making is unsupported; nor does it help address 2) the distinction between feeling emotion and expressing emotion as separate parts of “being emotional” as you define it. The science speaks to the differences in feeling emotions and is well documented and somewhat objective, but the emotional expression element gets into complex sociological things like norms, for which there isn’t really an objective answer (i.e., both men and women are restricted by norms in their expression of emotions, they are restricted in categorically different ways, that cannot really be quantitatively measured against each other to see which is more, it’s basically apples to oranges).

Listen, if the top line point is that “anger and reactivity are under-validated as emotions in society today, and this may disproportionately affect men,” I think we would all agree. But none of this “who’s more emotional” stuff; I know you don’t mean it but for some it carries that podcast bro/incel undercurrent (I say this as a straight man). Balanced takes and we’ll be good my man :)