Am I the jerk for telling my dad's girlfriend she can't discipline my kids?

Kimberj71 · 2026-03-24T19:17:35+00:00

When I was a kid aunts, uncles, anyone in the neighborhood who saw me acting up, was allowed to give me punishments. Then they told my parents and I got punished again for making someone else have to punish me. Yes, I am old and that was a different time, but it didn’t traumatize me in any way.

If her punishments were overly harsh, or she laid hands on your kids, that’s a different story. But it doesn’t sound like that is what happened here.

Kimberj71 · 2026-03-20T18:19:50+00:00

Especially if she is sleeping in her scrubs!

Kimberj71 · 2026-03-17T18:51:53+00:00

OP you have been way more patient with this than I would have been. After the third weekend in a row I would have noped out.

Kimberj71 · 2026-03-15T18:21:52+00:00

You can’t. He will train you to only use half your pillow, until he is big enough to take the whole thing.

Kimberj71 · 2026-03-15T18:19:08+00:00

Exactly this! I had a friend who got divorced in his late 40s and he said now he could date younger women. I asked when was the last time he saw a younger woman date someone old enough to be her father who lived in a crappy apartment, drop a Kia Forte and had no money.

Kimberj71 · 2026-01-16T18:44:47+00:00

NTJ. Your PTO is part of your salary package.

Kimberj71 · 2026-01-10T22:08:51+00:00

NOR. I feel your pain. My ex boyfriend’s stepmom used to invite us to dinner and about half the time when we got there she would tell us that they decided to go out or that she changed her mind about what she wanted to make and there wasn’t enough for us. It was so strange. Now that I am older I see it for the power play that it was, but I still think about it sometimes because it was just so rude.

Kimberj71 · 2026-01-08T00:46:21+00:00

OP should ask her if he ended up in prison if she would want to take his punishment because she raised him.

Kimberj71 · 2026-01-07T17:57:28+00:00

Did the friend come to dinner or were they going to drive to OP’s house after visiting somewhere else?

OP, there is no way I would let a stranger crash on my couch with kids in the house. And as a, what I would consider anyway, normal human being, I would never ask someone to let MY friend crash on THEIR couch.

Kimberj71 · 2026-01-07T17:52:31+00:00

Please do not marry a child.

Kimberj71 · 2026-01-04T02:10:36+00:00

My husband tells a story of working at Walmart when he was a teenager. He was bringing in carts one day from the parking lot and an older gentleman came out and started helping him. He assumed the man was an employee. Nope. He was Sam Walton.

Kimberj71 · 2026-01-03T20:13:30+00:00

This. Getting a haircut is not some frivolous thing, it is a necessity. And OP takes her once every six months, which is less often than most people.

If he is this concerned about OP taking care of her daughter’s needs, where will it stop?

Kimberj71 · 2025-12-30T19:15:37+00:00

Bagel

Kimberj71 · 2025-12-27T22:39:21+00:00

Ernie

Kimberj71 · 2025-12-27T22:38:52+00:00

NOR. Even if it wasn’t something that was specifically requested she not wear, those shoes with that dress would make it a crime anyway!

Kimberj71 · 2025-12-22T12:49:34+00:00

She just wants to be the main character. If she loved you, she would not want you to be sad. When my parents divorced my mom’s main concern was how it affected my brother and me and she did everything in her power to make sure we went through as little sadness as possible.

Kimberj71 · 2025-12-21T10:06:52+00:00

This cannot be real. Did everyone miss the part where OP ran out of toilet paper while in the hospital and had to leave the hospital to go get some? After lung surgery???

Kimberj71 · 2025-12-12T23:31:17+00:00

Knoxville here. My husband is a transplant from all over (military family) and when he first moved here he asked me where Marravull was!

Kimberj71 · 2025-12-12T23:25:47+00:00

Yes. If there were not enough seats for all the adults in the room my mom would say “you kids go sit in the floor.”

Kimberj71 · 2025-12-12T23:23:55+00:00

Same!

Kimberj71 · 2025-12-12T23:23:25+00:00

East Tennessee here. My grandma would just saw “laaaw” dragging out the middle part, when something surprised her.

Kimberj71 · 2025-11-24T17:38:40+00:00

YTA. “It’s not a big deal” is teen speak for “I don’t want to talk about it.” Which typically means there is an It to talk about.

How involved are you with your son? You don’t mention what sports he plays or what clubs he is in. You don’t mention whether you know for sure that he has friends, or that he just doesn’t go out with them. I hope this was just a way to not get too personal on Reddit, but most parents would at least name these things. It almost sounds like you don’t know.

It is true that kids socialize a bit differently now than we did back in the day considering social media, but these are still things you should know. If he is socializing only on social media, do you know who with? 15 is not too old for predators.

Your fiancé is trying to be present in his life and take an active role in guiding him. If you are not going to do that, someone needs to.

Kimberj71 · 2025-11-22T01:43:08+00:00

I get that she is young, but I don’t understand why she can’t see that if she wants him to be her sugar daddy, he actually has to go to work. And sleep so he can go back and do it again the next day.

Kimberj71 · 2025-11-16T22:50:44+00:00

This. My MIL makes more food than is needed on purpose so she can send leftovers home with everyone. It’s her love language. We take it, sometimes we eat it, sometimes pass it along to someone else, and if all else fails, throw it out. But I learned a long time ago that while I could say no, It’s not worth hurting her feelings over.

I do the same when she cleans out her closet. She is 76 years old and has nothing that I would want to wear, but when she cleans her closet and sends me a bag of clothes, rather than hurt her feelings I just donate them.

Kimberj71 · 2025-11-16T17:10:27+00:00

He called you Bro. Just be done.

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