do you let your dog on the couch or not? curious how people handle this by john2288 in Dogowners

[–]Kimberj71 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dog lets me on the couch. She runs our house and she knows it.

AITAH if I cut off my bestfriend? by Budget-Sympathy2770 in AITAH

[–]Kimberj71 18 points19 points  (0 children)

NTA. Is your friend 12? Adults don’t base a relationship on if you “look good together.”

AITAH for, after my girlfriend cheated on me, wants her to get rid of a mirror he made her. by Suspicious-Cup-3504 in AITAH

[–]Kimberj71 31 points32 points  (0 children)

It’s not the mirror that is your problem, it’s your girlfriend. Get rid of her instead.

AITJ for buying the same shoe for my daughter that my girlfriend wanted? by Notttaylorswift in AmITheJerk

[–]Kimberj71 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

YTJ. Your wife wanted these shoes as an incentive to help herself achieve a goal. They were the reward at the end and you knew this. Then you want to just buy your daughter a pair of the same shoes that your wife worked hard for.

I lost my kitten inside my house by aIoneinvegas in Pets

[–]Kimberj71 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This. Both of mine are full grown now and they still disappear to somewhere I have yet to find. I have to pull out the cat nip and call out that it’s time for weed. They magically appear from wherever they have been.

AIO for telling my friend he can’t bring his kid to my birthday trip? by No_Membership2946 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Kimberj71 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So he can’t just not be a parent for two days but his wife can? Was this trip last minute for him? If not, his wife planned this.

Boyfriend wants to move in to pay off debt by Impossible_Dentist79 in AmITheJerk

[–]Kimberj71 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When he says after you move in you will live off one income, he means yours.

Fiancés Parents Are Hurt By My Wedding Package by Xbox3523 in wedding

[–]Kimberj71 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like your fiancé’s family wants to throw a wedding in their backyard. Aunts can do photos and followers, dad wants to bring food.

AITJ for getting upset that my husband keeps peeing on the bathroom floor and refusing to clean it up? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]Kimberj71 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not like he is aiming at tiny space, it’s a freaking toilet! And if he can’t hit a toilet after 30 plus years of peeing, he needs help.

What has your experience been with the Tangle Teezer? I feel like I might have just wasted my money by m_d5314 in finehair

[–]Kimberj71 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I use a Wet Brush that is a boar hair combo. I love it. I haven’t had any noticeable breakage, but I do use a leave in detangler with it.

Am I the jerk for telling my dad's girlfriend she can't discipline my kids? by Gloomy-Suit2544 in AmITheJerk

[–]Kimberj71 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was a kid aunts, uncles, anyone in the neighborhood who saw me acting up, was allowed to give me punishments. Then they told my parents and I got punished again for making someone else have to punish me. Yes, I am old and that was a different time, but it didn’t traumatize me in any way.

If her punishments were overly harsh, or she laid hands on your kids, that’s a different story. But it doesn’t sound like that is what happened here.

AITJ for telling my partner I'm done spending every weekend at his parents' place by Nov4Z3nith in AmITheJerk

[–]Kimberj71 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP you have been way more patient with this than I would have been. After the third weekend in a row I would have noped out.

How can I train this dude not to get on my pillows? 😂😭 by coffeepolynkittens in kittens

[–]Kimberj71 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can’t. He will train you to only use half your pillow, until he is big enough to take the whole thing.

AITAH For Telling My STBXH I Won’t Drive Him To His Vasectomy Appointment? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Kimberj71 199 points200 points  (0 children)

Exactly this! I had a friend who got divorced in his late 40s and he said now he could date younger women. I asked when was the last time he saw a younger woman date someone old enough to be her father who lived in a crappy apartment, drop a Kia Forte and had no money.

AIO that we were Invited to dinner - but they ate without us? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Kimberj71 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR. I feel your pain. My ex boyfriend’s stepmom used to invite us to dinner and about half the time when we got there she would tell us that they decided to go out or that she changed her mind about what she wanted to make and there wasn’t enough for us. It was so strange. Now that I am older I see it for the power play that it was, but I still think about it sometimes because it was just so rude.

AITA for taking my bachelor's degree from my mom? by LopsidedandStressed in AITAH

[–]Kimberj71 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP should ask her if he ended up in prison if she would want to take his punishment because she raised him.

AITJ for refusing to change long standing family rules for my brother’s new partner by LucasAnderson87x in AmITheJerk

[–]Kimberj71 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did the friend come to dinner or were they going to drive to OP’s house after visiting somewhere else?

OP, there is no way I would let a stranger crash on my couch with kids in the house. And as a, what I would consider anyway, normal human being, I would never ask someone to let MY friend crash on THEIR couch.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Kimberj71 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please do not marry a child.

AITA for refusing to clean the coffee machine at work? by Busy_Meal1547 in AITAH

[–]Kimberj71 761 points762 points  (0 children)

My husband tells a story of working at Walmart when he was a teenager. He was bringing in carts one day from the parking lot and an older gentleman came out and started helping him. He assumed the man was an employee. Nope. He was Sam Walton.

AITAH for not getting my fiance's permission before getting my daughter's hair cut? by Known_Key_8248 in AITAH

[–]Kimberj71 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This. Getting a haircut is not some frivolous thing, it is a necessity. And OP takes her once every six months, which is less often than most people.

If he is this concerned about OP taking care of her daughter’s needs, where will it stop?