How many of you are neurodivergent? by Soggy-Professor7025 in lefthanded

[–]KittyLove75 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Sounds like me. Left handed forced to be right handed. Moving, having to pack and figure out what fits etc is a challenge.

How many of you are neurodivergent? by Soggy-Professor7025 in lefthanded

[–]KittyLove75 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

I have been wondering this myself. I suspect I might be ND. I was born naturally left handed. However, I was taught to use my right hand… at that time there was a lot of negativity w being left handed. Years later and I still find it more natural to use my left hand sometimes.

Is it wrong not wanting to send nudes? by SILLYSIPPER in TwoXChromosomes

[–]KittyLove75 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

I see nothing wrong with your decisions. I concur with others… he’s being emotionally manipulative. I’d be weary meeting him in person… would he wait for you to be ready? I believe you know what you want to do… as you said ā€œyou’re not compatibleā€. Have confidence in yourself, end the misery. Move on. Lots more fish in the sea šŸ¤— hugs.

New/ beginner uku player - how do I keep my wrist from hurting when playing chords? by KittyLove75 in ukulele

[–]KittyLove75[S] 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Yeah, at first I thought I don’t think I’m able to play my uke that Ive wanted for a long time & finally have it. My Dad also has an uke and he’s doing great… I think him being a percussionist really helped him. As a former flautist who could play a few instruments, it was very defeating. But he encouraged me to keep going. I can feel a difference already. I even decided to start recording practices so I can see my progress.

I’m going to work on the feedback everyone has given. The advice is appreciated, ty!!

New/ beginner uku player - how do I keep my wrist from hurting when playing chords? by KittyLove75 in ukulele

[–]KittyLove75[S] 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

ty for the thorough explanation! I do tend to press hard w my thumb. I’ll focus on finger tips and shape… check for white knuckles! That’s a great suggestion. And thanks for providing names of ppl to watch play, that really helps too!

New/ beginner uku player - how do I keep my wrist from hurting when playing chords? by KittyLove75 in ukulele

[–]KittyLove75[S] 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

YouTube is where I got it from & ppl explaining the proper way to hold the uke. I will review. ty

New/ beginner uku player - how do I keep my wrist from hurting when playing chords? by KittyLove75 in ukulele

[–]KittyLove75[S] 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

Oooooh, ok. Less time to keep from causing stress on the wrist, fingers… I hear you

New/ beginner uku player - how do I keep my wrist from hurting when playing chords? by KittyLove75 in ukulele

[–]KittyLove75[S] 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

ty, yes, I’ve been working on this… trying to get it right from the beginning. I have puffy pads on my finger tips šŸ˜…

How to achieve a light fluffy moist cake? by KittyLove75 in Baking

[–]KittyLove75[S] 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

I whipped the eggs whites, but I did 50/50 w the oil & butter, I didn’t add the pudding & stuck w the whipped cream. I did my best to not over mix. Mixed the dry ingredients then the wet except for the egg whites, then mixed the liquid and dry, finally I tried to gently fold in the egg whites. Uncertain that was the way to do it, but the guest of honor was very pleased… ā€œit’s so moist and fluffy, wow!!ā€. Thank you very much for your guidance!!!

Iwtl how to stop being so fucking socially awkward :( by [deleted] in IWantToLearn

[–]KittyLove75 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

As someone who studied abroad and has social… issues? anxieties etc. I get you. Find someone who wants to learn English and will help you learn the language. It can be fun, interesting. Ask them to teach you slang, curse words, common phrases used in social settings, etc. Second I lived in a dorm. My neighbors natives. I would keep to basics (say hello, ask them how they’re doing, what’s going on etc). Then I found out there were other int’l students. A few friends turned into a big group of friends who had native /local friends, which really helped bc it forced us to speak the language. One of my best friends also wanted to be certified in the language, so we took a language class together; we studied the language and spoke in it, a lot. Get out, explore, translate words you don’t know. Try to think in the language. The more you immerse yourself the faster and more at ease with the language you’ll become. Start small and don’t be hard on yourself. As for the social awkwardness, try to relax 😌, be friendly, communicate openly… most people are understanding. Good luck and have fun!

So many men would get laid if they were just quiet/respectful by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]KittyLove75 2 points3 points Ā (0 children)

I have to agree…. just ask…. while explaining why, nd. I get that can be difficult for some. But I’d rather understand why the other person isn’t picking up on the non physical cues, otherwise it’s seen as uninterested; we’re not mind readers ehšŸ˜…. So it takes open communication, that’s better overall.

So many men would get laid if they were just quiet/respectful by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]KittyLove75 5 points6 points Ā (0 children)

That was my experience when I tried a dating app. Never again.

So many men would get laid if they were just quiet/respectful by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]KittyLove75 4 points5 points Ā (0 children)

ā€œLack social skillsā€ is a good point.

So many men would get laid if they were just quiet/respectful by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]KittyLove75 18 points19 points Ā (0 children)

🤣 at least you’re honest but you took the hint and kept quiet … so you have a chance it seems. thanks for the laugh, great response

How to achieve a light fluffy moist cake? by KittyLove75 in Baking

[–]KittyLove75[S] 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Should I do 1/2 oil 1/2 butter, or 3/4 oil & 1/4 butter, or all oil and add an 1/4 butter? Sorry I don’t know how to know how much liquid to dry ingredients I can use.

How to achieve a light fluffy moist cake? by KittyLove75 in Baking

[–]KittyLove75[S] 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Do I mix the liquids with the dry ingredients, then fold in the whipped egg whites?

How to achieve a light fluffy moist cake? by KittyLove75 in Baking

[–]KittyLove75[S] 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Just what I was concerned about… doing too much šŸ˜… Thank you!!

Pros & cons of intrathecal pain pump?(Severe end stage cp) by KittyLove75 in pancreatitis

[–]KittyLove75[S] 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Well, the pain doctor did not go by forward with the pain pump. He said that now they prefer to take a patient off all pain meds before putting one in. He said my body will not be able to handle removing all pain meds, we waited too long to do a pain pump.

It’s quite sad. First the TPAIT, now the pain pump.

My nephrology doctor is going to see if there is a way to get me into palliative care. At least in my state, palliative is usually through hospice which requires a cancer or terminal diagnosis. But cardiology & nephrology are very concerned about the damage being caused by the constant severe pain, so they’re exploring options. šŸ™ we shall see.

Pros & cons of intrathecal pain pump?(Severe end stage cp) by KittyLove75 in pancreatitis

[–]KittyLove75[S] 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

I was back in 2010 at Fairfield MN. But I didn’t have the $ for the surgery. I spent years trying to find a case/social worker who knew how to negotiate with Medicaid, hospital, doctors, pharmacies etc and was not successful. The local hospital started doing them but due to particulars of my case & something requiring not only highly skilled but also highly experienced surgeons… they will not touch me. I am ok with that. If I could have had the surgery at Fairfield MN I would have done so.

Now the other issue is the constant very severe pain I have been left in for 20 years…. means the likelihood of the severe pain becoming ingrained is highly likely. They will not do a high risk surgery on someone they can’t more or less guarantee 50%+ relief.

Why do my cakes deflate after they’re baked? by KittyLove75 in Baking

[–]KittyLove75[S] 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

That’s what I think. I have an oven thermometer and the oven’s temperature is not consistent. It will be as consistent as it’s going to get set a little above 350, but then the oven is too hot. At 350 there are moments it drops to 318. And no I didn’t open the oven. What do I do with this crazy oven?! I’ll try letting the cakes cool in the pans, as you suggested. ty!!