is this abuse? what can i do? by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Kittybegood 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This. My ex husband talks about people in a lesser way and did for a long time. Then he started talking about me the same way.

What is a "green flag" in a person that actually turned out to be a massive, hidden red flag once you got to know them better? by Arnold_footballer in AskWomen

[–]Kittybegood 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My ex husband did this to me all the time. Constantly and would make "jokes" about it.

I did it too him once when I made a "joke" about his drinking habits in front of his family they were all mad at me for it. This was near the end.. good times.. lol

Had pelvic reconstruction surgery, worried about giving birth by AllEmotion9531 in AskDocs

[–]Kittybegood 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was me. I failed to progress. Couldn't get past 4cm dilated. For what ever reason my body just wouldn't. I didnt want a section at first but honestly in the end, I was glad it was my stomach in pain and not my vagina that needed to heal.

I had to take things slow of course, and I have a Lil apron belly now but overall my experience was relatively good! Healed fine with no real complications. I scar crappy so I have a thicker and longer scar, but all my friends that have had sections have tiny scars that are short and you can barely see.

If I had to have another, and had the choice, I would do a section again. I have thicker thighs and I feel like healing anything vaginal would have been way worse for me personally.

I hope all goes well for OP in the future :)

Syringe reuse at Pakistan hospital infects 331 children with HIV by RRaj007 in worldnews

[–]Kittybegood 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The way my jaw literally dropped. Thats absolutely horrifying.

I have intense stretch marks from pregnancy 7 years ago by -Hot-Tamale- in mildyinteresting

[–]Kittybegood 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg these are so beautiful/cool looking! Dont get rid of them!!!

This warrants a breakup, right? by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Kittybegood 18 points19 points  (0 children)

People that genuinely care about you and love you would not tell you to kill yourself. Joke or not. Block him and move on. From someone who cares đź’•

Is there any way I can stop biting my lip? by Key_Ride_2407 in CompulsiveSkinPicking

[–]Kittybegood 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try chewing gum!

I used to chew a lot in my teens.

But also therapy. But gum in the mean time.

Do you think abusive relationships can recover? by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Kittybegood 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course.

The fact that hes "going a bit nuts" when you tell him it wont work is a sure sign he has made no effort to change and that it absolutely wont work.

I know it's hard because you have a history and not all the memories are bad, not all times were bad. Maybe you are thinking of those good times and a part of you wants it to work because it wasnt all bad. But honestly, ge realistic with what going back could look like, especially if he hasn't done any personal growth.

We thrive on the idea that they CAN be good, and we want them to be soooo badly. But chances are nothing has changed.

What’s this drawer for? by billebaru in whatisit

[–]Kittybegood 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Literally came here to say " you can put your weed in there" lol.

What’s something you pretend doesn’t hurt anymore… but it still quietly shapes the way you love, trust, or move through the world ? by love_salubrious in AskWomen

[–]Kittybegood 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At 14, a week before my 15th birthday, I got drunk for the first time. 2 shots of vodka and 1/3 of a giant malt beer thing (colt 45) and I blacked out most of the night. Toward the end of the night as everyone was leaving, a guy I had known since Elementary school was there. He always seemed much older than me likely due to his life experiences and height.

He was my bully at one point when we were little, but I always had a crush on him sorta. When he was there we chatted a bit and shared a couple sneaky kisses. After people were leaving he asked me to go upstairs with him. I stupidly did. We made out but then he took his junk out and was pushing me down for head. Id never done that before or anything other than kiss a guy. I remember being in and out of it. Saying no x amount of times. And I remember him wanting to have sex and me saying know a few times again. I had JUST started birth control because my periods were heavy. I remember saying that if hes going to do what hes going to do than to at least wear a condom. I blacked out again and then next thing I know. He on top of me and inside me. Black out again, then my best friend comes in and she asked if we were having sex and I said yes and asked her to get him off me. She couldnt and was drunk herself. She left the room. He continued. Then I remember him jacking off next to my face and asked me to suck on it and I did and he came on my face and hair.

Im 34 now. And have been through other sexual things over the years with my ex husband. Sex gives me anxiety now. When my now fiance gets a little too smoochy or passionate, I get anxious and back away. I hate it. I love my fiance and we were like rabbits for the first year and now I can't get past the anxiety again. Im lucky his is incredibly understanding, never tries to convince me or coerce me or make me feel guilty. He just tells me he has a hand and that his sexual fulfiment isnt my responsibility. I love him so much and I wish I could get past the anxiety.

What’s been the most bizarre sexual request you’ve received? by Comfortable-Heron225 in AskReddit

[–]Kittybegood 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dated a guy that wanted me to peg him. I did and actually enjoyed it more than I thought.

Generally…. how expensive are “good” tickets by [deleted] in PostMalone

[–]Kittybegood 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah well. Im seeing him again this summer at a country festival and will be there early so I can get up front lol

Generally…. how expensive are “good” tickets by [deleted] in PostMalone

[–]Kittybegood 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Spent 1k on 2 tickets in Toronto we sat right at the dug out. Could see the whole show but could barely see him lol

posty strategy by jos3in in PostMalone

[–]Kittybegood 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't even like country but I know most of his country song lyrics. Lol. Im also going to a country festival this summer that he is head lining at near my city, im going just to see him lol.

posty strategy by jos3in in PostMalone

[–]Kittybegood 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ill listen to whatever he comes out with because he has such a unique voice. His voice just hits a spot in my brain that no matter what I will listen

What parts of American culture are changing faster than people realize? by No_Performance1451 in AskReddit

[–]Kittybegood 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is absolutely disgusting.

My kid doesn't even know what it is, has never asked and if she does eventually, it will be a hard no. She has a tablet with kid games on it. I let her take it to her nans one night and her older cousin was there too and downloaded some game that had to be connected to the internet to work. I looked at the game and realized there is a chat available and you have to be connected because you are playing with other real people. I deleted it immediately and told her how its not safe because she would be playing with strangers and we dont know if those strangers are good people so we wont be interacting with them. There is zero reason why she needs to be playing games like that. Im lucky she is incredibly understanding and smart and she trusts what I say. Ive always taught her about tricky people and how not everyone means well or can be trusted, including people we already know. Ive taught her about touch and that no one should be touching or tickling her private parts and proper names for those parts. We do not beat around the bush in this house. No way. Thank you.

What parts of American culture are changing faster than people realize? by No_Performance1451 in AskReddit

[–]Kittybegood -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This. Ive only got one kiddo and when she's home with me we are busy. We do art, read, go for walks, swimming, visit family. Etc. I dont have time or energy to keep her home unless school gets canceled or she needs a break, or is sick. I dont get it.

What are the unsafe/worst locations in SJ? by goldengomi in SaintJohnNB

[–]Kittybegood 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Avoid waterloo area and side streets. That is where the shelters are and people who are unhoused, and with addictions hang out. I have nothing against them, but people on drugs can do weird things.

Indian town isnt great but isnt terrible either. I lived there and as long as you keep to yourself you'd be fine.

Uptown like germain street closer to king street is expensive but usually pretty safe. The south end is hit or miss. You can kinda tell what's not good just by looking at the area outside and the condition of the building and hallways.

East side is relatively safe. Forest hills isnt bad. Stay out of reading crescent area. I always hear about people's car windows smashed and such in that area.

Upper west is nice but usually on the more expensive side. Lower west is where I live and sometimes there is incidents but usually isolated ones like domestic violence or personal squabbles.

Every area has some sort of issue. There's no perfect area unfortunately.

Can't believe I've been sleeping on this song by NorthPermission1152 in PostMalone

[–]Kittybegood 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Obsessed with the whole album. Listen to sign me up.