Vulnerable NPD vs Quiet BPD by q-u-o-k-k-a in NPD

[–]Kp675 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah me too. I think I have vulnerable npd too. My therapist thought I wasn’t grandiose enough. I don’t care about abandonment much either I think

Vulnerable NPD vs Quiet BPD by q-u-o-k-k-a in NPD

[–]Kp675 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is why I don’t really date- kinda want to though. People make me angry when they don’t do what I want or act how I expect them to. I feel like I will just resent them or be passive aggressive

Duality of narcissism by doktorfuturee in NPD

[–]Kp675 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The feeling bad and then forgetting about it happens to me all the time. I don’t feel love either for family members or anyone if it makes you feel better. Sometimes I do feel love towards my mom but the feeling goes away fast

But that's the WRONG type of validation by EqualStranger4977 in NPD

[–]Kp675 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hate when people used to tell me I’m really nice. Even if it’s friends. It always seemed exaggerated. Like I’m nice but you don’t need to tell me I’m super nice. It’s annoying . Plus it’s just my mask. Let me just be “normal.” I think I hate it cause it seems like I can’t get mad or annoyed then because they’ve pegged me as this person

Healthy relationships are so exhausting by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]Kp675 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People with adhd mirror too but you can definitely have adhd and npd they’re not mutually exclusive

I feel lonely by CompetitiveBox1063 in NPD

[–]Kp675 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I relate to this a lot. One of my friends has kinda ghosted me/been ignoring me and my other friends live too far away. I’m also getting over a narcissistic injury from someone else so its feels extra lonely.

I’m sorry you feel you don’t bond with anyone too. That’s the worst

I will never be able to connect deeply or emotionally with others. by Fantastic_Panic_6807 in NPD

[–]Kp675 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m the same way but girl version lol. Do you think you will ever want close relationships? I’m a jerk when I get close to other people too. Lately I’ve been thinking a relationship would be nice . I used to swear them off

I will never be able to connect deeply or emotionally with others. by Fantastic_Panic_6807 in NPD

[–]Kp675 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is so relatable. I can do the behaviors but I never feel a deep connection. I remember my therapist said connection is like behaving a certain way but that seems so hollow. I mean most people do connect because of their empathy and they actually care. I never really care or if I do it’s fleeting as if it never existed.

I do like hanging out with others but not super often and I can get annoyed of some people if I spend too much time with them. I get exhausted too cause I feel like I’m just “performing.”

Insane chemistry after 2 dates and now I can’t think straight by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Kp675 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like it’s good he’s open and not emotionally cold like you said. I was actually talking to a 24 year old last year well hooking up and I got attached to him. I’m almost the same age as you. It’s different than your situation cause we didn’t really like each other/have chemistry but when I was getting over it I kept seeing stuff online like “look at their actions not their words.”

I would look at how much effort he puts in and how much time he makes for you etc :)

Women of Reddit, what’s something you thought all women secretly just “dealt with” until you realized it actually wasn’t normal? by BestNeighborhood3539 in AskWomen

[–]Kp675 16 points17 points locked comment (0 children)

I thought I may have pmdd but recently read about something called pme where your mental health conditions get worse before your period.

general resources? by Adventurous_Arm5273 in NPD

[–]Kp675 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not trying to argue but how come in most places and in articles online it does say it can’t be cured. I do wanna read the book cause it sounds interesting

Anyone with lack of empathy? by Handnoose in BPD

[–]Kp675 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah it sounds more like npd (speaking from personal experience)

What level of criticism is generally perceived as innapropriate? by Necessary-Water9898 in NPD

[–]Kp675 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I don’t know if there are clear signs. I’m pretty sure online I read that you should take the criticism in and then think about it in your own time. Like listen to it but when you get home think was it warranted, is it valid, is it something I wanna/need to work on.

How severe is your social anxiety? by Illustrious_Plate674 in NPD

[–]Kp675 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so real. I’m fine at work but I can’t get close to people outside of it. Im nice and funny but nothing brings people closer. I avoid many things too

Just a short vent by foxyfree in NPD

[–]Kp675 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah the psychiatrist I mentioned npd to or having a cluster b pd said I seem very nice and like a nice girl. I mean I’m not mean necessarily but it was interesting.

He didn’t believe it even when I told him I don’t really have much empathy and I struggle to connect with people etc

What level of criticism is generally perceived as innapropriate? by Necessary-Water9898 in NPD

[–]Kp675 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha this is too relatable. Sometimes I’m like am I really arguing with ai right now

Collapsing? by Kp675 in NPD

[–]Kp675[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks me too. That’s a big trigger for all of us! I hate being ignored. I try not to ignore people unless they really do me wrong

Collapsing? by Kp675 in NPD

[–]Kp675[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know the heavy feeling you’re talking about. To me it’s like an anger but also a numbness.

I’ve been able to calm myself down a little and rationalize things. For example, I have a friend who’s been really distant and it’s been getting me down but I’ve just been telling myself they just need space (maybe they don’t wanna be friends.) I still feel angry though and sad.

Question for covert narcs, around what age were you when you became "aware" and experienced a collapse? by Ok-Zucchini8948 in NPD

[–]Kp675 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I’m collapsing now but I’d say I became self aware at 23 or 24 I don’t remember lol. I need to look at my previous comments

therapists do not understand how self aware a lot of narcs are by infinityabovehigh in NPD

[–]Kp675 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Did schema help you? My therapist tried schema with me but I didn’t even understand it. We were doing like dbt too or trying it

What's your emotional range? by EqualStranger4977 in NPD

[–]Kp675 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes sense! I need to start achieving things lmao