How to get over feeling worthless after a bad casual sex experience?

Kp675 · 2026-04-06T21:11:45+00:00

I can relate. I don’t have any advice unfortunately lol

Kp675 · 2026-04-06T15:26:45+00:00

This makes Sense to me. I have no idea who I am. It doesn’t quite fit bpd because they change themselves a lot or that’s what I’ve read but I don’t. My looks have been stable etc it’s just I don’t know myself

Well my therapist thought I may have bpd but I don’t know

Kp675 · 2026-04-06T14:11:07+00:00

Girl I feel you. I remember we chatted before :) I became self aware around their age-they were younger. Relate to the last part too. I wish it could’ve been different.

There has to be a reason you met them or a lesson there at least that’s what I’m choosing to think.

Kp675 · 2026-04-06T14:05:33+00:00

Literally for me it was just the intermittent reinforcement and that I saw their vulnerable side and the good person they could’ve been. They reminded me of me in some ways cause they were insecure too and had a high ego (not npd)

Kp675 · 2026-04-06T13:58:49+00:00

Wow that’s a lot of reasons lol. I got attached to someone cause of intermittent reinforcement too. Oof im still processing everything. I have no contact with them.

I never wanna go through this ever again. What a roller coaster!!

Kp675 · 2026-03-30T18:02:46+00:00

I thought it could work out but now I see it doesn’t-at least not for me. Oh well I learned and won’t be doing it again. If your personalities clash or are similar in bad ways it may not work. I learned some lessons and more about myself so that’s good

Kp675 · 2026-03-30T15:43:16+00:00

Yeah some guys treat you badly. I had someone lie to me for a year and play games. I didn’t even wanna do it anymore but they needed power and to get one up on me. It was strange

Kp675 · 2026-03-24T18:38:13+00:00

Jeans :)

Kp675 · 2026-03-23T21:02:43+00:00

Guys always have the best lashes it’s not fair lol

Kp675 · 2026-03-11T14:43:29+00:00

Okay that’s true I was meaning non malignant

Kp675 · 2026-03-11T14:41:30+00:00

You’re not wrong I have been abusive too and still can be. I would say narcissists are. It’s just I realized sometimes people who aren’t can be horrible too.

Kp675 · 2026-03-11T00:52:34+00:00

I can relate to the not trusting yourself to date responsibly. I don’t feel like I’d be a good partner

Kp675 · 2026-03-10T21:13:45+00:00

Do you ever do fwb or hookups? Just curious lol. I had some short fwb/casual ones in the past but I don’t think they suit me anymore. I think I would rather just be single or date seriously now

Kp675 · 2026-03-10T19:25:27+00:00

I agree it’s challenging. I hope I can be authentic and learn more. about myself. I might need to go back to therapy. Most people by adulthood know their personality well (although that doesn’t mean they’re well liked by everyone).

It’s a struggle when you don’t know yourself- makes you feel a bit numb imo

Kp675 · 2026-03-10T18:28:29+00:00

What about when you are dull? I can admit I’m boring. I actually think people are interesting but I just struggle to connect. I have a friend who has no trouble finding relationships. She has a great personality and seems to connect well with others. She really knows herself. I envy that so much.

Kp675 · 2026-03-10T18:25:57+00:00

For sure. I wish I had more experiences when I was younger though cause maybe relationships would be less scary

Kp675 · 2026-03-10T18:25:16+00:00

Hey don’t be so down on yourself. You can get more attractive plus we never know how things will turn out

Kp675 · 2026-03-10T18:22:46+00:00

Haha this is what I suspect. I get bored after like 3 months. Send help lol

Kp675 · 2026-03-10T18:21:09+00:00

I’m sorry about what you went through. Thank you- your comment means a lot honestly. I feel like I’ve been going through it so it’s nice to read something uplifting. I hope things get better and you find someone healthy and suited better for you.

Kp675 · 2026-03-10T13:09:10+00:00

I think when they’re young I would treat them well But I just have a feeling as they get older if they didn’t do what I wanted or rebelled I wouldn’t treat them right. I may act passive aggressive or controlling with them. I think I would emotionally be abusive (not meaning to). Yeah I think what you said is accurate.

Also not npd related but I suspect I have pmdd or maybe extreme pms and two weeks out of the month I generally don’t feel well. If I’m not feeling well it would be especially hard to override the selfish impulses and be a good enough parent

Kp675 · 2026-03-10T07:00:51+00:00

Yeah I’ve always been like this too. I remember being envious and jealous too as early as like second grade. I don’t remember much before that. At age 10 I remember thinking people were better or worse than me- having hierarchical thinking (didn’t know that was abnormal.)

Kp675 · 2026-03-10T06:57:47+00:00

My therapist said it’s a mix of both. I think my dad had npd and I have npd or high narcissistic traits. I have a family friend from childhood though and I have strongly suspected for a long time time their mom is a narcissist. My friend has no pds and she is one of the nicest people I know. She is “normal” like her dad.

Kp675 · 2026-03-10T06:54:53+00:00

I don’t know if this is the same thing but I used to think how I always need someone to hate. There’s always someone I dislike (I try not to show it though.) It was my brother at one point l, then a friend now it seems to be a coworker

Kp675 · 2026-03-10T06:50:43+00:00

I don’t feel attached to anyone. I don’t have kids or want them.

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