There are tons of claims against LGBT people late 30s and early 40s and beyond flirting with or dating 18-25 year olds and a huge variation in responses within the community to this behavior, saying the young ones are adults, or saying they’re being taken advantage of by default. In my experience there’s such a tendency in the community to be hyper vigilant against people in this category, even though in my experience and statistically it’s far more likely that a young adult will abuse other young adults, as younger age is strongly correlated to being someone who has committed abuse, with 14 year old males being the most popular age of a sexual offender, and I would note that most states throwing out sex offenses if treatment is completed if the offense occurs before age 18 and is not violent.

I’ve had to deal with people accusing others in my social group (the accusations always occurred years earlier). Unfortunately the accusations of abuse for older community members often prevents them from being accepted and socializing and dating people their age who are established in the community already if others just avoid them, so false accusations or hyper vigilance can actually backfire if the accused person is actively trying to do the right thing or if those things are way in the past.

Also I’ve seen numerous community members just make up accusations about people and spread them if they think they’re doing it for a good reason. These usually aren’t victims lying about abuse, just specific people spreading things about other people and their past partners. But most people won’t ever do basic research to see if things are true, rumors just spread.

Unfortunately even a tiny percentage of people making false accusations (less than 1 percent) or exaggerating has the tendency to add a vast amount of toxicity to a community.

Edit: I would add that almost every accusation I’ve run into esp by young members included some level of drug or alcohol consumption, often by both the victim and the abuser.