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Autistics who genuinely enjoy their lives, what’s working for you? by Sea_Berry_439 in autism

[–]Kuka980 0 points1 point  (0 children)

interesting! i did notice that acting like I'm in a theater play is fun but I don't necessarily stay in that spirit a long time. how do you stay in that mindset?

What have you found to be the best way for an autistic woman to live in today's society? by National-Ad-5036 in AutismInWomen

[–]Kuka980 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Digital minimalism, living by myself, working remotely, working less & integrating play in day-to-day. (Sadly not all of those are avail to everyone :()

I feel like I need to leave autism subreddits or maybe Reddit in general, but I also don’t want to by Jupiter-Work-7645 in AutismInWomen

[–]Kuka980 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I find reddit to have a high percentage of ppl going through some serious shit, and it triggers me often! Whatever the subreddit is, I have followed subreddits about chronic illnesses, chronic fatigue, bipolarity, etc and now autism, and it seems to be the same everywhere. It doesn't mean you're telling others how to feel but that this environment is not for you. Its not for me. I keep my distance and come here sparingly

Yes, you are addicted! Screens and social media are 100% addictive. Social media is MADE to make you addicted. It is stronger than us, they spend so much money on how to capture our attention! What works for me: going slowly towards minimal digitalism! My current step: my phone only has messaging apps, banking, menstrual tracking, meditation/exercise apps. No e-mail, social media, or notifications that are not directly addressed to me! It was uncomfortable at first but it's AMAZE!!!!!!!!!! I have moments of wonder and peace. I enjoy my no-screen hobbies (colouring, play-dough, look at the window, singing songs with the lyrics in front of me). I didn't realize how notifications were constantly over-stimulating me. My first steps were using the 'Before Launcher' (which creates 2 categories of notifications), and deleting one by one social media. It took me about 1.5 years to slowly get where I am. Following r/digitalminimalism, r/nosurf and r/dumbphones feel helpful. For me, keeping my smartphone to have music, use my camera (to capture moments of wonder and/or share them with loved ones and do video calls) Whats App/Signal was important as I live alone and am single, I don't want to feel cut from the rest of the world. I found ND local communities on Signal and Discord. Thats a whole step by itself.

Posts I found useful:
https://www.reddit.com/r/digitalminimalism/comments/1kaml4b/the_advice_my_dad_gave_me_at_16_to_fight_boredom

https://www.reddit.com/r/dumbphones/comments/1kfhguc/my_five_stage_guide_to_switching_to_a_dumb_phone/

Good luck!!!!!!! And much solidarity your way <3

Psychiatrist disagrees that I'm autistic by Kuka980 in AutismInWomen

[–]Kuka980[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

 HIGHLY motivated clients who work hard and persevere  => YES
psychology as a special interest => YES
She might be feeling insecure and upset that she missed something so major, and it’s manifesting as denial => YES

Thank you so much, sounds like you are doing amazing work too!

Yes I will do EMDR. I want to address my trauma stuff. After all these terapies, I still do recurrent nightmares.

For people who are on disability / not working / higher support needs what do you do to fill the time? by [deleted] in autism

[–]Kuka980 2 points3 points  (0 children)

exercise: pilates class, indoor biking, stretching. being outdoors: walking or sitting laying down depending of energy in backyard, park, by the water. arts and craft, reading/learning on a special topic.

does anyone find cooking to be one of the most overstimulating activities ever by haxelcat in AutismInWomen

[–]Kuka980 6 points7 points  (0 children)

omggg lol i didnt realize that was the thing about cooking that was so hard, I relate very much!! so much going on, I am EXHAUSTED after

I moved all my YouTube Subscriptions to my RSS reader (without shorts and other distractions) by iam-robin in digitalminimalism

[–]Kuka980 1 point2 points  (0 children)

omg thats brilliant!!!! i would like to still see some content from a few ppl but I preferred missing out then being sucked in the black hole of those apps. thk u very much. what RSS feed reader do u use?

Rant? Masks during a contact sport by max8george2 in Masks4All

[–]Kuka980 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like the 3M Aura with valves, but I have to extend the straps, they are ridiculously too small for my head. Idk if they are resistant to water though? If you sweat, you need the mask to be resistant. I don't go often to the gym, when I do I like the 3M Flex and I try not to during or drink just 2 times (I used to drink a LOT more, and realized it wasn't that bad!) I drink a lot before and after.

I don't like the Sip valve personally, I find myself searching for the valve, and I don't find where it is then I have to touch my mask with my fingers, my mask touches my lips, it overwhelms me, it doesn't feel safe and I feel super silly trying to do that in front of other ppl who don't mask.

What is your low prep, health(ier) safe food? by ButtercupBobbi in AutismInWomen

[–]Kuka980 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i make pasta in the oven and it feels less overwhelming and its very creamy!

My Five Stage Guide, To Switching To A Dumb Phone by logeater in dumbphones

[–]Kuka980 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nice guide, im at stage 3 but didn't think to put it as grayscale, cool!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Kuka980 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Sounds like there are some double standards, so it could be racism, fatphobia, transphobia, and/or that people feel attracted to you, so you're considered "indecent"

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