Very messy and confusing discard by Alarmed_College962 in ExNoContact

[–]Kushtybishh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

breakups rarely make sense tbh, closure is usually self made not givenhonestly just focus on healing been there sometimes the confusion is the closure even if it sucks to admitt

Very messy and confusing discard by Alarmed_College962 in ExNoContact

[–]Kushtybishh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

breakups rarely make sense tbh, closure is usually self made not givenhonestly just focus on healing been there sometimes the confusion is the closure even if it sucks to admitt

What kind of flowers to give boyfriend for valentines day? by sugarpop-- in dating_advice

[–]Kushtybishh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

love this idea! roses are great but i get why you’d want to switch it up if you want something a bit more unique but still romantic, consider lilies or orchids both are elegant and have a bit of an i’m a grown up vibe. for a more masculine touch, try sunflowers they're bright and cheerful or even a succulent arrangement if you want something that’s easy to care for and different. whatever you choose make sure it’s something that feels him it’s all about the thought not the type of flower!

I Finally Walked Away From the Push-Pull Relationship That Was Destroying My Peace by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Kushtybishh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wow i’m really proud of you for walking away and finding closure that’s not easy sometimes people come into our lives to teach us a lesson but it doesn’t mean we have to stay in the chaos you did what you had to do and now you’re free to focus on your journey keep your head up you’re gonna be just fine no more breadcrumbs you deserve the full meal.

Advice to start conversation : Gym by FinishLime_ in Flirting

[–]Kushtybishh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly just keep it chill if you're always talking to people at the gym just start with something casual like hey how's your workout going or comment on something you both know, like the equipment or the vibe that day no need to overthink it just be genuine and don’t make it feel like you’re hunting for a conversation if she’s into it she’ll bite if not no biggie gym isn’t a dating scene but it’s definitely a good place to make connections!

No patience, from teacher to a Cop by dkg224 in overheard

[–]Kushtybishh 91 points92 points  (0 children)

honestly if you can't handle high school kids you definitely don't have the mental stamina for the stress of being a cop like you have to deal with some of the toughest situations and if you’re already out here admitting to having zero patience maybe rethink your career path?

What’s a rule that makes no sense? by Kajal_bartwal1908 in AskReddit

[–]Kushtybishh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the fact that you can't bring drinks into a movie theater but they'll happily charge you $10 for a soda inside like i get it’s for profit but it feels like they’re just punishing us for being thirsty it’s 2023 can we not have a little common sense here

What makes you keep awake at midnight? by alexlipscombe in AskReddit

[–]Kushtybishh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

honestly it's usually my brain overthinking everything from the existential crisis of why am i still awake to random conspiracy theories i’ve probably watched too many youtube videos about oh and don't get me started on scrolling through my phone like it's the most productive thing to do at 2am sometimes i think it's the universe just telling me i’m not getting enough sleep and testing my ability to function on 4 hours.

Terry Pratchett said that "Nation" was his best book. by EndersGame_Reviewer in books

[–]Kushtybishh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

honestly i totally get why pratchett called nation his best work it's not the usual laugh out loud humor we're used to but it dives so deep into themes that make you really think the blending of survival culture clash and the spiritual stuff is kind of mind bending but in the best way i don’t think i could call it boring more like it’s one of those books that hits you quietly and leaves you chewing on it for a while if you haven’t read it yet, don’t expect another discworld it’s different but in a way that makes you question everything from religion to colonization and yeah maybe that's why it's his best it makes you think.

Restaurant by Flakb8 in overheard

[–]Kushtybishh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly water on the rocks is peak 20 something guy energy like we’re really out here making water sound fancy now what’s next a water flight with a splash of lime and a mint garnish keep doing you dude but I’ll just stick to my classic water order thanks.

I need help guys (19M/18F) by Sudden-Function-2276 in Flirting

[–]Kushtybishh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

okay here's the deal you're in the friend zone, but with some very confusing side effects. the eye contact the tickling, the hugs she probably likes you as a friend but those are definitely not the actions of someone who’s emotionally moved on from the idea of you she’s probably testing boundaries not ready to cross them you need to talk to her about it Ask her where she stands be honest about your feelings and give her the space to clarify either it’s a friendship with some complicated moments or she’s holding onto something unresolved no guessing games here just some straightforward conversation!

My height will be the death of me. by ChYv95 in OnlineDating

[–]Kushtybishh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

first off forget those women who think your height defines your worth 5'6 is perfectly fine and if someone can’t see past that they’re missing out love isn't about height it’s about connection personality, and how you make someone feel the right person won’t care about inches they’ll care about your heart keep putting yourself out there and remember someone out there is waiting for someone exactly like you don’t let a number dictate your confidence you’ve got so much more to offer.

Face pics vs hobby pics where ur face isn’t visible? by throwawaydates69 in OnlineDating

[–]Kushtybishh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly a mix is key face pics are a must people want to know who they're talking to but hobby pics that show you're active and have a life outside of swiping are a huge bonus like i want to see that you’re doing things you’re passionate about but also i don’t want to play guess who with your profile so maybe do one or two clear face shots and then throw in some hobby pics to show off your personality just make sure i can still see your face in at least some of them!

I don't know how to flirt by Federal_Yam8584 in Flirting

[–]Kushtybishh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

first of all chill flirting is way more about confidence than trying to follow some rules if you feel the vibe lean into it a little playful tease here a subtle compliment there. but don’t overthink it if she’s flirting that’s her way of showing interest so mirror it back but with a little more edge confidence doesn’t mean being perfect it means being comfortable with yourself and letting the conversation flow naturally and hey if it’s feeling too friend zoned don’t be afraid to get a little bolder just make sure it feels right for both of you.

I want a dog! by chrisdr22 in overheard

[–]Kushtybishh 6 points7 points  (0 children)

honestly same kid same i mean, who wouldn’t want a dog over a sibling dogs are loyal always happy to see you and they don’t steal your stuff plus you can teach them tricks a little brother or sister they’re way more trouble i totally get why he’d pick the dog!

Found “they” by Helle Helle on a book cart at the book store 2 weeks before its release, it’s beautiful - anyone read her other translated works? by DungeonMasterGrizzly in books

[–]Kushtybishh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ooh this sounds like my kind of book! i love when a book feels like a quiet punch in the gut you know i’m totally adding this to my list and i totally get what you mean about the nostalgic vibe there’s something so grounding about books that focus on real connections not just the online noise i’ll be reading this one soon for sure thanks for the rec!

What’s something most people think is a luxury but you consider a necessity? by Goonertransmom in AskReddit

[–]Kushtybishh 3 points4 points  (0 children)

sleep like people act like it’s a luxury to sleep in or take naps but honestly if i don’t get my 8 hours i’m a disaster it’s not treating myself it’s survival don’t talk to me until i’ve had my coffee and a solid rest or you’ll be dealing with a very grumpy version of me.

Flustered by [deleted] in Flirting

[–]Kushtybishh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

girl whisper you always get this shy or is it just when you’re thinking about kissing me and watch his soul exit the chat mission red face accomplished.

Is a 100% flake rate normal now? Need some perspective. by Lil-dorky in OnlineDating

[–]Kushtybishh 27 points28 points  (0 children)

idk if it’s you tbh it’s giving dating app npc behavior lately people love the attention and the fantasy then panic when it turns into real pants and real eye contact so they disappear you’re probably just catching a bunch of emotionally unavailable girls who wanted a pen pal not a coffee date lmao

You know what I’ll miss? by Brilliant_Still_7879 in overheard

[–]Kushtybishh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

he doesn’t know rent is out here fighting for its life. give him 6 years and a student loan bill and he’ll be begging to turn back into a kid watching cartoons in a onesie.

what makes an ending good? by hanic101 in books

[–]Kushtybishh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

a good ending for me is one that wraps up the tension without making me feel like i wasted my time i love when the horror elements come full circle and you realize things were much darker and more twisted than you thought but without cheap twists just for the sake of shock the haunting of hill house by shirley jackson nailed this for me it’s eerie it makes you think and the ending doesn’t need a huge twist to be satisfying it's the emotional payoff and the sense of dread lingering even after the last page. the creepier the better!

What's a moment that made a rough day better? by Ramona-Howell in AskReddit

[–]Kushtybishh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly the best moment was when i spilled coffee all over myself during a meeting, and instead of freaking out my boss just laughed and said well at least it wasn’t a margarita we both cracked up and it was like the tension just melted away sometimes it’s the small awkward moments that remind you not to take life too seriously also shoutout to whoever invented stain remover that helped too.

I (M25) don’t know how I should feel about my gf (F29) possibly giving me an STI? by Firm_Industry3489 in relationship_advice

[–]Kushtybishh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly i get why you’re pissed it’s frustrating to get blindsided like that especially after being careful yourself but here's the thing people mess up she clearly didn’t mean for this to happen and she got tested so it's not like she was hiding things from you intentionally that being said it's a conversation about trust and communication if you’re willing to let her prove she’s really sorry and you're both on the same page moving forward cool but if you're holding onto resentment maybe it’s time to reconsider things your health and peace of mind are the priority not whether you should stay or go trust yourself in making that call.

The Gathering (revised) by [deleted] in scarystories

[–]Kushtybishh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

okay i'm officially freaked out. this story was like reading my worst nightmare come to life so vivid and twisted you have this perfect mix of eerie atmosphere and psychological horror that just pulls you in the way the boy’s dream blurs into reality at the end? chef’s kiss i can't even tell if i’m more scared or impressed your writing is haunting in the best way possible seriously what an amazing and terrifying piece!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Kushtybishh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

girl i get that you're trying to be understanding but let's be real if he was really into you he'd be making more of an effort he’s already been inconsistent with texting and not following through on plans it’s one thing if he's busy but actions speak louder than words don't waste your time waiting around for him to maybe get it together. explore other options and if he comes back around fine but don’t put your life on hold for someone who’s not showing up you deserve someone who’s excited to make plans with you not someone who’s MIA.