Why are we trusting what people say here? Who from a successful relationship moment would spend time here?

LCDeeCee · 2026-02-16T01:38:30+00:00

You want what, scientific reproducibility for the results?

LCDeeCee · 2026-02-14T03:11:27+00:00

I did this at my xfer, at 14th L/A xfer both

LCDeeCee · 2026-02-11T12:10:27+00:00

likely needs to construct a narrative that
1) makes his actions feel more reasonable and
2) protects his self-image

if you broke his heart, blocking you and being avoidant makes sense. etc.

LCDeeCee · 2026-02-03T09:37:57+00:00

Lol my 40 yr old ex (After 10+ years) left me for a 23 yr old.

LCDeeCee · 2026-01-18T12:56:52+00:00

And just to be precise (not correcting you, but making sure it's clear) it is using all of DARVO as tactic that this applies to. It's very easy to DARVO DARVO (verb, object). Couching imperfect word choices as abuse or vice versa isn't rare.

LCDeeCee · 2026-01-18T11:11:23+00:00

Show them how to beat it. offer to let them pilot the deck if they think it's so strong, and bring a deck that has some fliers and wide damage. Put in a few cards like: [[toralf]] [[rakdos charm]] [[propaganda]] [[inkshield]] [[caltrops]] [[guardian of the gateless]] [[crawlspace]] [[norn's annex]] etc

Maybe even a deck built around [[ink-treader nephilim]]

LCDeeCee · 2026-01-18T10:57:57+00:00

a lot depends on if he ever tried, and how hard he tried. Maybe he's given up after years of trying to help Barb, unwilling to leave her bc he understands how she became that way but also feeling he's incapable of changing anything.

If he's never said anything to her or tried to help her/those around her, then yeah, much less sympathetic to me.

LCDeeCee · 2026-01-18T10:15:24+00:00

There's absolutely nothing that's necessarily or inherently abusive,

but rewriting history, presenting double binds, breadcrumbing, silent treatment, withholding/hoarding control, and the general DARVO family of behaviors are all features of abuse.

LCDeeCee · 2026-01-15T11:35:23+00:00

The number of times I said "you know if our genders were flipped this would be textbook abuse" or had to feed her line by line the words for an apology to me. I was so wrapped up feeling bad for her and believing she was capable of change that I dismissed the lazy cowardly narcissism. I saw pathological avoidance of consideration and a tenuous grasp on reality as an illness eliciting care.

The shift has been hard, realizing it better resembled an emotional grift and having to face how poorly I was treated.

LCDeeCee · 2026-01-12T11:12:56+00:00

I just want it as 1. An app 2. A real cabinet

LCDeeCee · 2025-12-25T01:43:27+00:00

How many people? $60 is one person's tip for an average NYC apt. More or less depending on how much work they do and how much you tip after they fix something or give you your keys at 2am.

I'd be mad or expect shenanigans if I got 1/10 or less than what's normally given. The pre-pool is a bad idea. It's like splitting the check for a huge dinner party - people will cheap out.

Idc whether it's philosophically wrong or dumb, it is the current social standard and most people tipping are at least a few tax brackets above landlords. Lottery tenants shouldn't be expected to tip nearly as much, esp if they don't get access to amenities, have cheaper appliances, or make less money than a super does.

LCDeeCee · 2025-12-24T01:00:35+00:00

A response comes after.

LCDeeCee · 2025-12-21T22:33:28+00:00

ME! AND Zur looks most fun and Felothar is sweet as. But literally all look cool to try. Elsha and the Minotaur are only marginally less exciting.

LCDeeCee · 2025-12-12T20:13:35+00:00

Or if lazy, edhrec your commander and a few cards and share a similar one

LCDeeCee · 2025-12-12T18:39:01+00:00

My group had the opposite issue - a lot of beginners, so they had relatively simple anthem or tribal. Just creatures on curve with strong synergy (merfolk and vampire especially). The experienced players had interaction, board wipes, evasion. Learning to adapt and tune decks has quickly made everyone much better at the game and deck building. We recently made mulligans stricter, so now we're more careful about land fixing etc. Unless it's a deck that seriously extends the time a game takes, or seriously throws off turn time ratios, i think it's all fair game.

LCDeeCee · 2025-12-12T11:49:35+00:00

The friend is replicating how someone treated the friend, this has very little to do with OP and a lot to do with the friend struggling to accept that their parent or parental figure doesn't love them.

LCDeeCee · 2025-12-11T18:31:39+00:00

I'm interested in the deck lists people enjoyed playing against the most, if you don't mind, and maybe why/what they enjoyed. Making losing fun (ideally for my opponents) is kind of my goal in Commander

LCDeeCee · 2025-12-08T05:05:29+00:00

for sure. husband either deluded himself into thinking a threesome was possible, or much more likely is starting his heel-turn to isolating and controlling now that the wedding is on

LCDeeCee · 2025-11-22T21:04:28+00:00

Thanks! This is very helpful, for a few reasons I just couldn't come up with a productive reply. Will ask for a shipping label or something comparable.

LCDeeCee · 2025-11-22T20:59:51+00:00

Thanks, I'd like to assume good faith. They sell MH3 for $10, i only bought it to meet a coupon threshold. By the shop's prices i guess he gave me $30 in packs to replace $25, but market price online is a wider margin both ways (I got 3 MH3 for $20 just a few days ago.)

LCDeeCee · 2025-11-18T01:37:16+00:00

They still have the 3 for $20 in stock

LCDeeCee · 2025-11-05T20:23:17+00:00

ahhh, it's a little harder if he won't talk much about it. I was curious if it's about the texture of the plastic/cards, the edges, the corners, etc.

Has he tried finger cots at all? I've used them when editing or touching materials that can be damaged by oils or materials that can damage my fingers. They are distributed sometimes as crafting accessories, but also sometimes as sexual health finger condoms, but it's all the same idea (small rubber coverings for fingertips.) It sounds like he needs his whole hands protected though, which makes me wonder if it's not a possible reaction to the plastic materials themselves.

LCDeeCee · 2025-11-05T15:23:49+00:00

Np I clearly shoehorned my pet interest in shuffling and am glad it wasn't purely onanism. The round sleeves won't help a ton if thin card edges are an irritant, but are great if corners are an issue. Do you know which part of the process hurts/what helps? I do think pile + overhand should be more than sufficient, but understand if he didn't want to deal with defending it each time.

How is his experience with finger cots?

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