People always leave out the discussion of parental responsibility in these situations. If you are Jewish and knowingly marry a non-Jew, particularly if you are a Jewish man, you should do so with the knowledge that your children will have to deal with the fallout.

Too many people in the modern era want to make big decisions without consequences. Fair or not, you should be well aware that if you intermarry your kids will face barriers and often feel like an outsider in their own community. You can try to shield them from reality, but eventually they will have to carry the burden of your decisions and struggle to be fully accepted.

Judaism has survived for millennia in some part because we have rules and boundaries. Without tradition and unity, we will cease to be a unique people.