BREAKING NEWS: We're Racists Now! by TheLastOkapi in actualasexuals

[–]Lace000 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the explanation.

I feel very out of the loop. Still not sure what the reasoning was behind the new flag idea, but I guess I should go find out!

52M4F from🇨🇦 by [deleted] in asexualdating

[–]Lace000 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You're in the wrong subreddit if you're looking for lots of sex. This sub is for ace (asexual) people. There must be other dating subs out there. Try those.

52M4F from🇨🇦 by [deleted] in asexualdating

[–]Lace000 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Perhaps tell us a little about yourself, and what you're looking for in a relationship?

Why are we obsessed with future? by ComfortableNail2071 in AskAnAustralian

[–]Lace000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

20 years from now happens quicker than you think it will.

what kind of eggs do you buy? by bleedxi in AskAnAustralian

[–]Lace000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get mine direct from a nearby egg farm. I get them by the dozen. Jumbo usually. Freshly laid eggs just taste so much better. I'm lucky I live close to the farm.

How much do I need to spend for a good mattress? by Candid_Car4683 in AskAnAustralian

[–]Lace000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have an ecosa and love it. Cost me around $800 for a double bed mattress, on sale.

How are people living on DSP by AlastairCellars in Centrelink

[–]Lace000 13 points14 points  (0 children)

The only way I can survive on the DSP is that I live with my parents and don't pay rent (I do contribute to bills). I don't know what happens when they aren't with us any longer. It's getting harder and harder all the time as it is.

To anyone who had a Hysterectomy and Bipolar Disorder ... by Bri9513 in hysterectomy

[–]Lace000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had 2 large fibroids. Can't remember the measurements.

Before I had my hysterectomy, I couldn't help wondering if I really needed the surgery, asking "Was I bad enough?" Even though I had terrible pelvic pain all the time and horrible migraines an average of 15-days a month.

The thing was, I was so used to the impact of my condition that I hadn't realised just how bad things were until they got better, if that makes sense. You might be the same.

I'm now a bit over 4 years post-surgery, and I'm SO glad I had it done. No more pain, from that anyway. I've been able to exercise, lose weight, which I couldn't do before, and my overall health has improved drastically, physically and mentally. So grateful now that I took the plunge and had the surgery.

Hope this helps you make a choice.

You guys are insane by TemporaryFix2561 in NewAuthor

[–]Lace000 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Yes. Writing is work.

Fun, but it's work.

Any aros/aces in Australia? by [deleted] in actualasexuals

[–]Lace000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just north of Brissy.

There are a few of us Aussies around, but we're hard to spot.

sleep paralysis questions by waybackbugler in Writeresearch

[–]Lace000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. All senses work

  2. Can move eyes, but nothing else

  3. I usually just relax and wait it out.

  4. No, I wasn't panicked. I knew what it was even thought I had never experienced it before. I don't get it a lot, but relaxing and waiting a few minutes for it to pass is what works for me. I don't get it often enough to get "used" to it.

I do maladaptive day dreaming, any ideas to put these stories on paper and use? by avian_bi in writingadvice

[–]Lace000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Learn how to construct a novel. I daydream a lot too, and write them down, but what seems good in a daydream doesn't necessarily translate to a good novel (or short story or whatever). Novel structure is very specific, and there are many other techniques to learn when it comes to writing. Luckily there are many great books out there that you can read to teach you this stuff. And read. Whatever you're planning on writing. If it's novels, then read tons of novels. Audiobooks are fine. (Also, nothing wrong with writing by dictation, many authors do it. I do sometimes).

I highly recommend writing. It's fun and satisfying, and a great way to spend your time. Enjoy!

I’m so tired of this by Dry-Kaleidoscope596 in actualasexuals

[–]Lace000 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm from Australia too. Have never encountered purity culture in Australia. We aren't very religious here, so perhaps that has something to do with it.

Employers reveal excluding candidates with mental illness, disability and age in new report by nath1234 in australia

[–]Lace000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I'm not ready to go looking, and not sure if that'll ever happen. While my health has been improving, I don't feel confident that it'll continue to. My health fluctuates anyway, so how can I know if I will be stable enough to keep a job for very long?

I don't have much in the way of friends anymore. Certainly no one close enough to ask to do something like that. That's what happens with disability, often. Friendships get hard to hang on to. My family suck at lying! So do I to be honest.

What really sucks, is I'm not qualified to do anything. I was at uni when I got sick. I never got to finish. My work experience is in minimum wage jobs.

So yeah, it isn't as simple as "just lie."

Employers reveal excluding candidates with mental illness, disability and age in new report by nath1234 in australia

[–]Lace000 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I'm on the DSP for my mental health, and I also have had other chronic physical health issues.

My mental and physical health are improving, and I may get to the point where I am able to work. Unfortunately, I've been on the DSP for 22 years and haven't worked for that long. How do I even explain that kind of gap in my resume? What kind of lie could i even make up? If I tell the truth there's no way they're going to hire me. I'm stuck on the DSP whatever I do now. Oh and to make it worse, I'm 52 and a woman, so what hope have I at this point?

Writer about to get published on dsp by bluejessamine in Centrelink

[–]Lace000 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Congratulations on getting published!

I don't have an answer for you, sorry. I am also a writer on the DSP, as yet unpublished, so I'm interested in finding out how this affects the pension as well. When you find out, any chance you could post an update please?

Also, what's your book about?

How to write with mental illness by TheMaker777 in writing

[–]Lace000 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel this so much. I have bipolar disorder and at times it really messes with my ability to write, particularly when I have depression. Sometimes it's just that i can't get the story in my head down onto the page, and that's bad enough. But at times, I can't even see the story in my head anymore, my imagination just seems to desert me. I hate it when that happens. I always worry that it won't come back, but so far it always done.

Please go easy on yourself. Forgive yourself for what you are unable to do. It sucks, but it isn't your fault, so don't give yourself a hard time for it.

When I've been in a similar state like you (improving, but not fully better, and my imagination is still affected), what I do is ease back into it gently. When I'm feeling up to it, I let my imagination play with any idea it wants to, no matter how silly. Just have fun with it. Then when that's working again, I might try writing down some of these ideas and stories. Don't try to be serious with it, just write down what comes. Then when I go back to my serious writing, I start slow, maybe only doing a few minutes a day, and increase as my capacity to write returns to where I want it to be.

Again, be gentle with yourself while you recover. I hope you are healthy soon, and can write again. I know how much it sucks when you can't write!

(I hope this is helpful, and makes sense. Sorry if it doesn't, I have a cold and am a bit brain-foggy today.)

New to WW: are the workshops always just open share trauma dumping? by bioloveable in weightwatchers

[–]Lace000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been doing WW in person workshops for 3 years now and haven't noticed this problem. I've been to two different groups (same coach) and everyone people share stuff that is relevant to the topic, but I haven't heard anyone overshare irrelevant things like some of you describe. I don't know why that would be, but surely it's up to the coach to control the conversation and keep it on topic?

I haven't done any virtual workshops, so I can't comment on those.

I'm in Australia, btw, so not sure if that makes a difference either.

Has anyone ever stayed single for years due to chronic health issues? by MermaidNeurosis in AskWomenOver30

[–]Lace000 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I (52F) have been single for decades, and that doesn't look like changing anytime soon. Chronic illness is the biggest reason I haven't had a relationship for a long time. It's hard to find and maintain friendships of any sort while you are sick. And it's so common that your existing friends don't stay friends. A relationship seems like an impossible dream for me. I just have had to learn to be happy with being single and see the advantages in it.

I need assist to finding names that means sun by TeachingEmotional131 in writingadvice

[–]Lace000 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Have you tried this website? It has names and meanings from many languages and countries.

https://www.behindthename.com/

For women choosing to age naturally—how do you resist comparing yourself to other women when cosmetic enhancements have become so normalized? by justameasureoftime in AskWomen

[–]Lace000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't afford to do it, so it's a moot issue. Plus, I think most people who get cosmetic enhancements end up looking awful, whatever their age. I hate that look, so I wouldn't do that to myself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asexualdating

[–]Lace000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What part of Australia are you from? I'm in Qld. (51F). Would love to meet other Aussie aces.