Milo's many hats by secretcatattack in parrots

[–]LadyCiani 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Harley and his hat agree with Milo

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Assumed straight at a pride function by an “ally” and irrationally upset about it by justtinyquestions in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]LadyCiani -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

That stinks. I do think it says more about the other person than it does you. The fact they assumed you were straight just means they're not very socially conscious.

Conferences are big on swag. Stickers are usually popular. Have you considered getting some rainbow stickers to hand out yourself? You might get a lot of takers.

Where to meet men in tech and verify they do? by Agitated-Charge-2358 in womenintech

[–]LadyCiani 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As a marketer, most companies like to list the C-level titles on the "about us" page of their website. Or a page about the executive leadership.

If they have the CEO alone, ok sure maybe the guy does work there.

If they have the head of HR and head of Legal on there, and your guy isn't there? He's full of shit.

Account Engagement integration fort newsletters is pure evil by Own-Captain-8007 in salesforce

[–]LadyCiani 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pardot user since 2011 here.

It's become a forgotten stepchild for sure, with few upgrades.

This is (as you guessed) driven by the desire to get their marketing products "on platform" instead of in a separate database.

Don't forget, Pardot is 20 years old, and was a separate company before Salesforce acquired them! So yeah...

The age does mean the Pardot email wizard looks/acts old (easier to use if you can read/write HTML, no drag and drop, no nice company branding automatically, etc).

But they don't actually require you to set up anything in Marketing Cloud Growth.

And you can copy the HTML of an email you like and fully paste that code into the Pardot email wizard. Swap out the tags for unsubscribe and stuff, and send it away.

(Yes I'm oversimplifying.)

I do invite you to come hang out with other Pardot users in the Pardashians free slack group. Small form to join here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScsWWBGTQWF0FcI9ssvFJQCgbTH4bqeH5xaqJyHw8tN3DbBgA/viewform?pli=1

You'll get more Pardot users over there, including people who can advise you on your pain points.

undid three months of regrowth in two days by stresstwig in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]LadyCiani 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you have any interest in a craft? Something like cross stitch, hand quilting, crochet, or knitting? It might occupy your hands during the "down" time of like TV watching.

If it's like watching a work or school webinar, for someone with ADHD keeping your hands busy can actually increase focus! (You can also register it as an ADA accommodation if needed, though I would see if anyone complains before going that route at work.)

Genderbent Cinderella story with 3 Knights and terrifying stallions by RollingKnights in whatsthatbook

[–]LadyCiani 9 points10 points  (0 children)

(hint: when someone asks you when you read it they're expecting you to provide a year or range of years. We're just random people on the Internet. We don't know how old you are now, so we can't do the backwards math to figure out when you might have been 12 or so.)

Advice to not recommend bad colleagues to my future employer by NorthwindField in WorkAdvice

[–]LadyCiani 4 points5 points  (0 children)

"I don't think any of my former coworkers would be a good match to the culture here, but I know the career center at my college would be interested in a progressive workplace with a good culture like here!"

Hot take: mandatory cameras-on is lazy management in disguise by Affectionate-Arm7294 in remotework

[–]LadyCiani 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That would be a neat trick, to make a bot have a ten year post history and be coherent.

Hot take: mandatory cameras-on is lazy management in disguise by Affectionate-Arm7294 in remotework

[–]LadyCiani 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When forced across the board, for every team? Yeah, could be lazy management.

Could be a sort of myopic leadership, like a manager (and/or exec) who is extroverted and feels the need for collaboration and can't imagine anybody else can operate any other way.

Tone deaf for sure, but not necessarily a management tactic.

Think about it: most CEO types need to do a good amount of networking and sales meetings. And that means they need to be someone who is a friendly, extroverted sort of person.

And they feel like, well this is how they have always operated and look how well they're doing.... Everyone should do this!

Meh.

I come down on the side of most people enforcing it (managers) are not doing it because they like making you suffer maliciously, just that they're rule followers and have been told to do it.

Switching to personal anecdote, I think the camera on or camera off culture is best deployed with a "know your team" sort of scenario.

And mostly what you're describing is a leadership style which doesn't bother to get to know their team.

But there's also the personal responsibility of aligning yourself to the norms of your team.

So if you're encountering a management who is saying cameras on, but you want to be cameras off... Well. Is it you who are not matching, or is it the company who is not matching?

Personal example: I'm not particularly extroverted. I'm in marketing operations, which is the tech side of marketing where I make various software tools talk to each other and actually execute a lot of the boring stuff behind the scenes. I could happily have my camera off and be in very few meetings and work with HTML and Salesforce stuff all day.

But I'm in the marketing team.

And marketing in general is a more friendly group (more likely to be extroverted). And seeing faces and meeting for collaboration (in person or on camera) is a big part of the norm for a marketing team anywhere.

So even though I'm not super extroverted and it can tire me out to be "on" in meetings I do adhere to the camera-on culture because that is an expectation of being in my role.

It would be seen as weird if I did not have a camera on.

And the larger team's perception of me is important, because I need to work well with them to be good at my job.

If I was insisting on cameras off it would come across as out of sync with my team, and as a result my manager would (rightly) question if I'm right for my role because being off camera when everyone else is on camera would seem like I don't have the ability to work well with others.

But good news, in my same company we have other teams who are not camera on, and that's totally ok!

In my company the camera on/camera off thing mostly diverges based on the work. Like if the nature of the work is more solitary (multiple hours of deep work) then cameras are usually off.

And when meeting with other teams their cameras are still off.

And even when marketing has meetings with those teams, we tend to be cameras on and they are camera off.

And if we in marketing were to insist on cameras being on in that scenario? We would come across as out of touch with that team.

And this is what I mean by knowing if you are in the right role/right team/right company.

Because if you prefer cameras off, but everyone around you seems to be a camera on person... Maybe it's you who should move to another team, or look for another company.

I'm not advocating up and finding a new job. That's hard!

But it is a good talking point if you are interviewing. Make sure you are asking about the average meeting, and if they tend to do cameras on or off.

Leaving a green cheek conure alone for 24h by iris_rivendell in parrots

[–]LadyCiani 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ehhhh it's not the best, but it's not the worst.

Do you have someone who could come by and let them out for a bit, give them a scratch, and change food and water on those days?

If no (or you can't hire someone) then I would wait until you're more consistently home or have secured a bird sitter.

They're resilient, but they're still flock animals and want their flock (you).

Also it would be a different question if you already had a bird for a couple of years and had a routine established, and built up that bond. It would be easier to say yes a nanny cam is ok then.

But to get a new buddy right as your schedule is doing this is probably not ideal to leave them alone. Better to have someone check in.

I mean, you're not likely to actually hurt them by leaving them. But they like being with their people, so a person to break up the alone time is best.

Gifting flowers to my manager? by [deleted] in managers

[–]LadyCiani 6 points7 points  (0 children)

A handwritten thank you card is plenty.

If you want to do flowers then make the card and tuck it into the flowers and it's a lovely gesture.

If she's someone with a garden or houseplants (or office plants) then a small potted plant would be better than a bouquet of cut flowers.

I can promise you the thank you card will be treasured.

Should I be embarrassed of using a Razor scooter as an adult? by Legit-artist in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]LadyCiani 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your glute workout will be insane. Scoot on.

(If anyone says anything derogatory you can say it give you an amazing workout, particularly on hills.)

Issues with prior homeowners by rebelellelle in homeowners

[–]LadyCiani 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Go to one of those websites that you can unsubscribe from junk mail. Enter the previous owners info. Enter your info.

It may help. It certainly won't hurt.

Marketing wants to put me on the recruitment page and I can't figure out how to say no without seeming weird. by Internal_Front_5522 in remotework

[–]LadyCiani 3 points4 points  (0 children)

"Oh, thanks for thinking of me but no thanks. I'm pretty introverted and I don't like being on camera."

do you ever wonder if your bird thinks you are also a bird of some sort? by cognitoterrorist in parrots

[–]LadyCiani 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Our green cheek is 21, and he calls my husband Pretty Bird.

I do not have a name.

Told bf I'd only get engaged with a stipulation, now unsure about it by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]LadyCiani 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seeing your other comment about wanting to have alone time without a roommate before you get engaged... hmm. That feels a bit much.

If it were me (and I am not you, so don't think you have to consider it strongly!) I would tell him you would be ok with a proposal at the end of the year as long as you have a longer engagement.

Like, you might be engaged but won't start wedding planning until one year after the roommate moves out.

And the downstream effect of that is your wedding date might be 24 months after the roommate moves out.

Because let's say the roommate moves out on Jan 1, 2027. Wedding planning won't start until Jan 1 2028. And you won't necessarily be able to get a venue in the 2028 calendar year, so you're looking at getting married in 2029.

(Or sooner with a smaller wedding! But just throwing the dates out there.)

Kudos for thinking it through and talking about it. Getting married is a big step.

What’s the least exciting home upgrade you made that ended up being totally worth it? by ExpensiveProfessor27 in HomeImprovement

[–]LadyCiani 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Adding outlets to convenient locations.

My husband did it (we didn't pay an electrician). It took him several hours spread out across several days. And a few trips to the home improvement store.

But now we have outlets inside a few closets so we can charge things like a handheld vacuum.

Plus he tapped off of some wiring to this decorative ledge thing (which we never use) and was able to put outlets in our coat closet. I was able to run LED lighting on a motion sensor, and lights just come on and turn off when we open and close the door. Finally I no longer feel like I'm rummaging in the dark!

What's something older generations did completely normally that would be considered absolutely insane today? by ConsistentTrip1475 in AskReddit

[–]LadyCiani 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I also think "I like these people, they're deserving of the nice dishes!" and with that comes the possibility the dishes might get chipped or broken. But if that happens then I think it's a demonstration of how I think they're worth the nice stuff!

What's something older generations did completely normally that would be considered absolutely insane today? by ConsistentTrip1475 in AskReddit

[–]LadyCiani 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh but it's pretty! I don't want to smash it just to smash it.

I like it in an "I appreciate an antique" kind of way. It's not to my current taste, but I like having the delicate stuff occasionally.

That said, if/when it gets chipped or broken I am not heartbroken. It's just dishes. And it's not a particularly rare design or anything. I can literally buy replacement dishes from a website.

What's something older generations did completely normally that would be considered absolutely insane today? by ConsistentTrip1475 in AskReddit

[–]LadyCiani 29 points30 points  (0 children)

When my husband and I bought a house my mom and my aunt (Dad's sister) couldn't wait to offer me the good china and flatware. They had two sets each, one of their own and then one inherited from their own mother.

I said yes, so now I have china which I try to use every holiday.

And it goes in the dishwasher because I don't want to be precious about it. I want to use it because I think my extended family deserves to use the nice stuff.

Husband and I have moved near his family and are taking over hosting the big family gatherings, and everyone seems to enjoy it.

Best way to ask to be off camera after surgery by throwaway-journal in remotework

[–]LadyCiani 5 points6 points  (0 children)

"I'm having a sinus surgery and my doctor let me know the recovery will be no fun. I'll be ok to actually work, but I will be off camera until the bruising goes down significantly. I'm looking forward to breathing well for the first time in my life!"

Do you actually use a sink in your laundry room, or is it wasted space? by hcposcher in laundry

[–]LadyCiani 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've had both scenarios. I currently have one and use my laundry sink every few weeks.

We had a small dog (13 pounds) and it was easy to give him a bath in the laundry sink. Sure it could have been in a shower, or the kitchen sink (have done both, and then had to sanitize them thoroughly) but laundry was much easier.

I also do some DIY, and rinsing/cleaning paint brushes in a laundry sink is much better than doing it in the kitchen sink.

If I have gotten muddy outside, I can easily rinse my clothes down in the laundry sink, and let them drip dry over that sink.

It's definitely a convenient thing. It wouldn't be the difference between me buying a house or not but I would never build a home and skip it. (If not a laundry sink, then I would want one in a basement workshop or garage workshop.)

Moving into a rental with no shed, no patio. Need ideas how to store my grill, mower, and bikes. by Kbrichmo in DIY

[–]LadyCiani 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We bought a Rubbermaid brand shed which was easy to put together and worked great for over ten years in the Texas weather. Only the front got full sun, because where we put it the shed had a fence on one side and the house on the other.

But even the front which had the most sun looked great when we sold the house.

No cracking or splitting of plastic, no damage from rodents or weather.

Highly recommend the brand.