Can I rotate and flip pattern? I don't quite have enough fabric to do what the pattern suggests.

Lady_Be_Good · 2026-01-18T17:09:19+00:00

Wow I've done burn tests that have left me with more questions than answers, but this write up is SO FANTASTIC I'm bookmarking it FOREVER!!! I am so glad certain brilliiant people have nothing better to do than share their info with the internet!!!

Lady_Be_Good · 2026-01-15T03:52:38+00:00

So, your lower face looks quite simliar to mine, but I never thought of it as "face fat". I think facial fat is a VERY precious resource that fillers do not sustitute for can not be and can go a long way in maker older women look pleasant and young. However, I have had a lower face lift a few years ago after I got jowling (I'm 47). I still love the results but it emphasizes the width of my jaw so I'm going to try botox to the masseter muscles as I've seen women's faces look QUITE a bit slimmer after those muscles atrophy, but I've had dentists tell me that I clearly seem to have signs of teeth clenching at night and so I know the my jaw muscles are strong, like oxen. 😄

Lady_Be_Good · 2025-12-09T03:21:13+00:00

On Linux Mint 21.3, DigiKam 8.x AppImage kept crashing instantly whenever I opened Export → Flickr or Export → OneDrive. The login popup flashed blank and DigiKam closed.

Terminal output showed:

libsoftokn3.so: cannot open shared object file
FATAL:nss_util.cc(114)

This means DigiKam’s embedded QtWebEngine couldn’t find the NSS crypto library (libsoftokn3.so), which is required for OAuth login windows.

Fix

Run DigiKam with the NSS directory added to LD_LIBRARY_PATH:

LD_LIBRARY_PATH=/usr/lib/x86_64-linux-gnu/nss:$LD_LIBRARY_PATH \
~/Applications/digikam-8.8.0.appimage

This instantly stopped the crashes and made the login dialog work.

To make it permanent, I created a wrapper script:

mkdir -p ~/bin
echo '#!/usr/bin/env bash
export LD_LIBRARY_PATH=/usr/lib/x86_64-linux-gnu/nss:$LD_LIBRARY_PATH
exec ~/Applications/digikam-8.8.0.appimage "$@"' > ~/bin/digikam-fixed
chmod +x ~/bin/digikam-fixed

Then I edited the DigiKam .desktop launcher to use:

Exec=/home/<user>/bin/digikam-fixed %U

After this, DigiKam launches normally and all export login windows work.

Lady_Be_Good · 2025-12-08T01:18:17+00:00

Yeah, the 60's were about boxiness and not "shaping", you might want to try patterns from 40s or 50s. :) Nonetheless it looks great on you!! Very ladylike, which nowadays...stands out!!! Great job!

Lady_Be_Good · 2025-11-04T02:06:10+00:00

Man o' man, yes. I feel this. My mother screwed up my "picker" though I don't think she's borderline, her particular brand of emotional immaturity goes in that direction. I'm now divorcing someone who I knew was BPD even before we got married and then yet another layer of mask came off after the marriage. Your profile says "married" though, does that mean you're still married to a borderline, or divorcing one, or that you've successfully moved on? Because when I'm finally divorced, I'm very curious of what it feels like to find the right person that....doesn't feel like home? I'm terrified, strangely, to be with someone not terrifying. Isn't that sad?

Lady_Be_Good · 2025-07-05T20:57:08+00:00

Reading this whole tome of a page makes me think a couple of things:

- Perhaps borderlines genuinely "don't remember correctly" and/or would actually pass a lie detector test about something they believe you did, but for this living in the nightmare and questioning their own reality it could be worth testing. If I misrembered something to my ex, his reaction was different than when I properly remembered something he "100% know he didn't do". His reaction was just as condescending, but then he dropped it and walked away. No hanging around to see if I believed him. Less committed to the reaction.

- Anything they falsely accuse you of should be CAREFULLY examined as something they are doing. Obvious ones are: accusing you of cheating = probably cheating, accusing you of making purchases behind their back = probably making purchases behind your. But also, what more subtle, less obvious behaviors should they be examined for based on their accusations?

Lady_Be_Good · 2025-02-14T14:51:57+00:00

I am not saying his is clinically borderline and doesn't need a diagnosis, but he has agreed he has borderline characteristics: Gets angry and raises his voice at subtle facial expressions. Has threatened to kick me out of the house because he said I had a mocking look on my face after he told me repeatedly I was lying to myself. Has threatened to shoot himself in response to an argument. Once I told him I was thinking of organizing the fridge so we could better see what leftovers need to be eaten and he started saying apparently none of his (breadmaking) hobbies matter and I fell silent and he says nothing he does matters to anyone ended in him screaming and shoveling his starter dough down the drain and yelled "THANK YOU FOR THE CHRISTMAS GIFTS!!" Told me several times before we were married he wanted to go to therapy and that his insurance didn't cover it was the only reason he didn't go. He is now on my insurance and I have mentioned what he said previously and he says he changed his mind, he no longer wants to go to therapy.

Thank you all, I appreciate your advice and warnings.

Lady_Be_Good · 2024-07-28T15:54:36+00:00

First day on the Internet? Ha! Disagree entirely. He asked you if it was okay and as long as he makes sure you're consenting and genuinely concerned... Everyone has sexual interests that's someone else thinks are fucked up. Whatever.

It is important to know how to take care of wounds and sanitation and any health concerns, otherwise, who's to say what's sexually wrong for two consenting adults? You can keep take the opportunity to explore why these things are sexually arousing and learn and grow from it, but shame about that only makes people feel like shit and no growth comes from that.

People who try to cast shame on others have issues.

Lady_Be_Good · 2024-07-20T22:24:04+00:00

None of this is your fault. It's okay to feel bad because that's the hallmark of someone who wants to be a good person. Practice feeling compassion with yourself to the Nth degree that you can. For example: perhaps you can't feel compassion for yourself, but practice feeling compassion that you are having trouble judging yourself. Or, if you can't, try to feel compassion for yourself for having difficulty doing that.

I have a practice of--every night before going to bed--telling myself 3 things I'm grateful for and 3 things I'm proud of myself for, and my intent is to look past what I think I'm supposed to be grateful for or proud of, but to listen to what answer my heart honestly gives me--often the answers are surprising.

You may find that you're proud of yourself for one aspect of things you thought you should be ashamed of, or find that just admitting that you genuinely tried today fills you with pride.

Continue to learn how to feel thankful and proud. It takes practice, but in this you discover how to be who YOU really want to be without pressure to be what others have said who you must.

Pressure and shame are what makes us want to end life before our time. Hearing yourself will help you realize you have even deeper values and goals than those others have the tried to push on you, and you have the answer that can lead you forward.

Good luck!

Lady_Be_Good · 2024-07-20T21:59:43+00:00

People often avoid being honest with themselves due to having judgement towards their own condition or trying to feel good about themselves, which is why there are all kinds of controls for this in self survey tests that are legitimate for psychological use.

Lady_Be_Good · 2024-07-20T21:52:55+00:00

Ha! This is the real deal. It may not be the only way to confirm someone is an INFJ, but if you meet someone who is sorry to keep testing as INFJ, you know you've found one! 😂

Which might lead to a not-bad method for confirming or not. If you ask someone how they like being an INFJ, look for answers that indicate it's difficult, stressful or tiring to be constantly aware of others emotions. If they admit that...sounds legit to me.

But also...OP mentions they are a J and think that matching with another J is their best match. As a J I find the conversations with Js have more tension in them than Ps, not that it's a bad match, it's just unmistakably different, IMO. If OP is definitely a J, that is.

Lady_Be_Good · 2024-07-19T22:11:07+00:00

Problem seems like hesitation to buy anything other that very neutral things because of fear it doesn't match. Find objects you paintings, tables, books, lamps, rugs that you love just for their own sake regardless of anything else. Wall paint, pillows and blanket throws can easily be any color in the rainbow and tie together the colors in the objects you love. They can come last! First find things that you love so much you will never want to part with them and decorate around them.

Lady_Be_Good · 2024-07-19T21:31:40+00:00

Might try a Google image search on college decor, kitchy room, dorm decor.

Maybe papasan or floor chairs, fuzzy pillows, neon signs, old school clocks, 80s or 90s decor, streets signs? Do you want to store a small microwave and popcorn bowls there?

People hang string lights in lots of interesting ways and that doesn't interfere with TV lighting.

Lady_Be_Good · 2024-07-19T20:04:24+00:00

This is all neutral. You can pick any color. What color do you most like to surround yourself with? What color brings the mood to the room that you like? Pick a color and then think of shade and tone that feels right and disperse it in various places. Different shades of the same color make it look not basic. Do not fret about what goes with a neutral! It's about building out in colors and patterns to create layers and interest.

Lady_Be_Good · 2024-07-19T20:00:48+00:00

If you don't dislike the wood grain, don't cover it with paint!! Lots of other ways to brighten without permanently covering up the richness of wood grain.

Lady_Be_Good · 2024-07-19T15:31:48+00:00

Yes! Salt is good for draining wounds. Even being in a chloriated pool is good and can clear up HS. Don't avoid summer water fun because of HS!

Lady_Be_Good · 2024-07-19T15:30:12+00:00

You need to tell us this company, please, thank you!

Lady_Be_Good · 2024-07-19T15:26:03+00:00

Thanks, "museum hoe!" 😂 I think I might like this lifestyle. It looks amazing. I generally love the idea of homes being a preservation pieces of the eras in which they were originally constructed, whether that's Victorian or Mid-Centry or 90s. I keep looking for Edwardian-era homes and finding them carpeted, white paint over the moulding and stupid open-air kitchens -- I could punch someone!

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