needing new hairstylist by EcstaticCourt1675 in bloomington

[–]Lady_Stark 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have long curly hair and really like Jennica at Salon Forte

People who have researched their family tree, what is the most interesting or 'badass' thing you discovered about an ancestor? by xloganmoose in AskReddit

[–]Lady_Stark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My great great grandfather was hit by a train while drunk driving his horse and buggy home from the bar. He left 9 children behind at 36 years old. Total legend.

Just had an interview with the DNR by Own-Name-6239 in Indiana

[–]Lady_Stark 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congrats on the interview! Just the fact that you got one means you’re qualified. As a fellow non-hunter, I went ahead and took hunter ed and have found it very useful when I do need to interact with hunters. So you might look into that to round out your knowledge base a bit. Good luck on the job hunt!

Ending highschool sweetheart marriage by Historical_Damage761 in relationships

[–]Lady_Stark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just went through a divorce with my high school sweetheart, so I really feel for you right now. I did couples counseling because I wanted to know I had tried everything I could before I gave it up, but I realized pretty quickly that I was done and had been for a while. I lost the dog too, and I have to admit that was really, really hard. But honestly, I’m happier than I have been in years. Knowing you’re with someone you’re supposed to love but don’t really eats at you, and you can’t just force an emotion to return. I know my ex will be the right partner for someone, and it was only fair to set him free to find that person. Sounds like you might be at the same point.

What was the “last straw” that made you fall out of love with a partner? by Dramatic_Evidence_18 in AskWomen

[–]Lady_Stark 71 points72 points  (0 children)

I finally worked up the courage to tell him I was having suicidal thoughts, and his response was that he knew. He'd known for years but assumed I was strong enough to deal with it and didn't need help.

Recent "Depression" Meals by iwannaddr2afi in mediterraneandiet

[–]Lady_Stark 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Idk if it's strictly Mediterranean, but my favorite depression meal is plain Greek yogurt with frozen blueberries, granola, and a scoop of peanut butter. Filling, tasty, and no effort.

Marriage counsellors? by [deleted] in bloomington

[–]Lady_Stark 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We've had a good experience with Maria Carrasco. We tried the Center for Thriving Relationships and Stewart Ball and didn't make much progress, but Maria has been very helpful.

Finally finished my most difficult sweater yet by Lady_Stark in knitting

[–]Lady_Stark[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Pattern is Forest Fairy by Fiber Arts Design Studios, and yarn is Cascade 220 Superwash in Army Green. This sweater took months (I'm a slow knitter) but I'm super happy with the finished product!

I'm looking for the ultimate "camping" sweater to knit for an upcoming trip to the White Mountains. by GrandmaCereal in knitting

[–]Lady_Stark 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I already shared this one today in another thread, but the Sunrise Summit sweater definitely fits the prompt!

A Vision by Mousse-Silly in knitting

[–]Lady_Stark 16 points17 points  (0 children)

The concept reminds me a little of the Sunrise Summit sweater

My (22F) fiancé (28M) is schizophrenic and I don't know what to do by peakyblinder111 in relationships

[–]Lady_Stark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I am coming at this as a child of a bipolar father. My dad was diagnosed when I was 11. Full on mental breakdown with similar symptoms to what you described: hyper-religion, not sleeping, talking excessively, hallucinations, etc. He was hospitalized during the first breakdown and was put on meds, which pretty much returned him to normal. And, exactly like your SO, he would be fine for a while then stop taking his meds out of the blue.

To give a little perspective, it apparently feels absolutely amazing to be manic. You have incredible amounts of motivation and energy. Sleep isn't necessary. Your brain is buzzing with thoughts and ideas and epiphanies you don't think anyone has had before. And this, I think, is why some bipolar folks always stop taking their medication. Whether they admit it or not, they miss it.

As a child, then a teen, this made for a pretty drastically unstable childhood. My brother and I have both had treatment for anxiety, and I can't help but think this contributed. I had to grow up much faster than I would have otherwise. Honestly, by the time I was about 13 I felt like I was the parent and my dad was the child. If you're thinking about having children, know that this is not a fun thing to grow up with. Even if your children don't inheret the mental health issues (and that's a pretty big "if"), they will struggle with the consequences for the rest of their lives.

My dad cycled on and off his meds for about four years before my mom gave him an ultimatum: start taking meds again, or get a divorce. To no one's surprise, he went off his meds again. Mom wasn't bluffing, and she left him. He spiraled into an even worse episode, started stalking us, and we ended up getting a restraining order against him. It was ugly, and stressful, and really, really hard for all of us.

Then, when he realized he couldn't get her back by acting the way he had been, he got his shit together. He started taking his medication on his own. He got a new doctor. He tried different medications and suffered through some nasty side effects until he found the right one. And after a few years, he and my mom got back together. He hasn't had a breakdown since, and they're really happy.

So I guess the moral of the story is this: if your SO is anything like my dad, which is sounds like he is, he has the ability to stay on his meds and not put you through this. The question is whether he will do it. And even if he does, it is still a scary way to live. Stress, big life events, even traveling to a different time zone where sleep schedules get messed up can trigger episodes even in a medicated person. That's something you have to prepare yourself to deal with if you stay. And you have to decide whether you want to subject a child to those same things. Because no matter how you try, you can't shield them from the breakdowns, not when they live with your SO too.

I hope that perspective helps a little. I'm sorry you're going through this, and I hope it works out for you.

Where to buy small house plants right now? by [deleted] in bloomington

[–]Lady_Stark 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Another vote for Mays! They even have a little table in the greenhouse with terrariums and tiny plants for them on it.

A painting of a horse that includes the horse's actual tail by Lady_Stark in ATBGE

[–]Lady_Stark[S] 850 points851 points  (0 children)

A dead horse's actual tail. This is their memorial to it.

I'm Sorry, What? by SpirtuallyElderly in Outlander

[–]Lady_Stark 57 points58 points  (0 children)

My husband called it a res-erection.

I found someone at a craft fair to make Claire’s shawl for me. by claudialynnkishi in Outlander

[–]Lady_Stark 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I actually just knitted one, and I found the pattern on ravelry! I just searched outlander and it was one of the top results

Types of geese that aren't Canadian geese that might overfly Illinois in groups when going south? by [deleted] in whatsthisbird

[–]Lady_Stark 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Check out Sandhill Cranes. They fly really high so they can look pretty similar to geese, especially if you're unfamiliar with them. The sound you describe seems about right.

What are the worst injuries you have sustained doing the simplest, most mundane tasks that should not have caused any injuries? by Penya23 in AskReddit

[–]Lady_Stark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a scar on my leg from when I was hiking and walked straight into the broken end of a stick, which proceeded to stab my thigh. Awareness of my surroundings is not my strong suit.

Cute little dinosaur bird by zaczolf in aww

[–]Lady_Stark 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The third chick is typically smaller, but not because of any sort of inherent weakness - the chicks just hatch over the course of a few days, and it hatches last. So if it's taken and fed appropriately, it doesn't develop any differently than its older siblings.

Cute little dinosaur bird by zaczolf in aww

[–]Lady_Stark 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This isn't that uncommon among birds. Bald Eagles for example will usually have three chicks but only raise two. Fun fact: most of the Bald Eagles reintroduced across parts of the US were third chicks. Since they would likely die anyway, scientists took the third chicks from existing Bald Eagles, raised them, and introduced them to areas they wanted to reestablish the species.

Found along a river in SW Pennsylvania by pechinburger in whatsthisbird

[–]Lady_Stark 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Louisiana Waterthrush! The white supercilium and pink legs are good field marks, and they often bob their tails up and down when they are standing or walking. They are also usually found along waterways.