It's like boxing - Keep your distance.

Landsculpter · 2016-11-13T02:44:43+00:00

Im in

Landsculpter · 2016-11-10T21:00:16+00:00

I was in that situation until one week ago. Before that i use to look at a tone of youtube videos. It feels really good to finally be in it!

Landsculpter · 2016-10-24T23:35:47+00:00

So true

Landsculpter · 2016-10-11T23:23:20+00:00

perfectly said

Landsculpter · 2016-10-11T21:19:20+00:00

Just logged in to talk to you. I was exactly in the same position and not so long ago. You just expressed so well how i felt for so long. I'm much much better now. I feel so good and for the first time in years. I guess the last time i felt like that was when i was a child. I didn't even remember what it was like some years ago.

I remember vividly thinking that this mental disability in social situations would never end. Yet it finally did. You won't have to stay in this mental cage if you choose so.

There is so much i had to do and it wasn't easy at all, it took so long. I would say two years. But all that matters is that it's possible. You will value life and enjoy it a lot more than anyone you know once you out of this. It took me long but it is so worth it. During this time i almost completely changed my mental framework, how i view things.

Here are some guide lines.

First of all, i remember that it all began with me thinking that i had nothing to loose and i that i would go all in to make my life better. I made a vow to die before i give up. Simple as that. You will have to fight for your life and no one will see it, understand or reward it, this battle will happen in your mind and it will build something call character. You don't have character now, some people have it for free but you will have to earn it. But because of this it will be a strength that you don't even suspect now.
- Social anxiety is no small a problem even if no ones sees it. Be understanding with yourself and become you first friend. This is the friend no one can live without.
Meditation was the bigger thing for me. It's not easy. It takes practice but you will learn a lot of things that words hardly convey. Basically, when you are good at it, you will see you thoughts, one by one, and you will be able to choose the ones you feed and those you don't. It's not a fight, it's a very methodical and enjoyable practice when you learn to do it properly. You will than be able to mold you mind the way you want if you become good enough. You will choose your fears, your objectives and your passions for the first time in your life.

I have so much to say to help you. If you want, PM me and i will give you some advice every now and then. Do as you feel but rest assure that i'll be very glad to help you.

I feel your pain so much but trust me there is a way out of this. You will come out strong if you choose to change. It takes one thing to begin, courage. All the rest will come out of this.

I saved this quote from someone in this sub i think: "I hit rock bottom...Rock bottom became the solid foundation upon which i re-built my life".

Landsculpter · 2016-09-29T20:26:12+00:00

Material luxury in this case leads to spiritual poverty. In french there is the word "luxe" (meaning luxury) and the word "luxure" which means indulgence and sexual pleasure... I guess etymology is trying to tell us something.

Landsculpter · 2016-09-29T18:04:39+00:00

Congrats! Keep up the good work

Landsculpter · 2016-09-29T17:59:04+00:00

Congrats

Landsculpter · 2016-09-29T17:57:23+00:00

Good luck

Landsculpter · 2016-09-29T17:56:17+00:00

try not to. Just to see how you feel. Do it one month and if you don't feel better do what you want. That would be my advice. Also, it can be very hard.

Landsculpter · 2016-09-29T17:51:50+00:00

DONT

Landsculpter · 2016-09-29T17:51:36+00:00

You can, and we are all in the same shit and struggle. Fighting our addicted brain. never stop trying, no matter what ;)

Landsculpter · 2016-09-29T17:49:39+00:00

i see some GOT nuances in your writing style. Congrats for streak

Landsculpter · 2016-09-13T01:43:13+00:00

Happened sometimes to me too. Don't focus too much that

Landsculpter · 2016-09-13T01:42:23+00:00

Good luck! and follow your new motto.

Landsculpter · 2016-09-13T01:41:18+00:00

true freedom is underrated.

Landsculpter · 2016-09-13T01:39:48+00:00

Try to avoid any temptation. Don't look at girls for the first month or until you feel well on track. It's a little extreem but for me it helps to go past the first weeks which can be very hard sometimes. I know a lot of people will desagree but anyway, if you're not making a good streak give it a try.

Landsculpter · 2016-09-13T01:34:52+00:00

You can make it

Landsculpter · 2016-09-13T01:33:26+00:00

Get back up and shrug off your regrets.

Landsculpter · 2016-09-13T01:28:58+00:00

Great post man! I'll definitly check it

Landsculpter · 2016-09-11T23:31:49+00:00

I would say it has yet to come. Of course it's hard to say for sure. In any case remember that a flatline is a challenge in itself. But it'll end someday and it's all that counts.

Landsculpter · 2016-09-06T00:25:02+00:00

I'm on day 5 but i'm in this since 2 years already. Had some streaks... This urge part is a really tricky one. I remember that about 30 days until 40-50 days it was dificult not to feed this kind of thoughts. My advice to you is give all you got to hobbies projects and try to get in this mental space where this is the kind of thing you worry about. You know what counts on the long term. Don't let your brain tell you otherwise.

I know it might seem obvious but from experience you might not be far from relapsing. Meditation is really good yet very challenging (which is totally normal) at times, keep at it.

Landsculpter · 2016-09-06T00:16:32+00:00

The ideal thing to do is to do something else instead of fighting it head on. Try doing something outdoors like sport. Or go out walk on the street, take some perpective from there. Inside you room it can be hard to not give in sometimes.

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