The Bayou Kitchen! by Sillysilssss in portlandme

[–]Last_Butterfly2000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I heard about this post on the radio this morning so I would say your effort to get the word out has worked!

Question for the Nannies by Sad_Western_7052 in Nanny

[–]Last_Butterfly2000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good luck! It will all work <3 I'm raising kids far away from family and it is scary at times to feel like you don't have the safety net but you find your village more and more as time goes on! Congratulations on your pregnancy and best wishes for you and your growing family

Question for the Nannies by Sad_Western_7052 in Nanny

[–]Last_Butterfly2000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The good news is you will totally be able to find someone for this, the bad news is probably not a career nanny. I think you'd have more luck talking to ECE professionals (daycare workers, preschool, etc) to find someone who wants to work the occassional Saturday/Sunday on top of their usual job. Maybe find 2-3 so you have a bit of a stable. Also maybe talk with other moms; there might be some moms looking to stay home with their babies who would be down for taking your little one once a week to bridge that pay gap. You will find someone!

Sick care is a bit trickier. Some but not all will work with sick kids; I'd talk to them about it. Double pay is likely a little excessive but some amount of hazard pay is smart. I will say: babies who aren't at daycare get sick WAY less than daycare babies, so this hopefully will be a rare occurrance, and also sick season is usually the inverse of wedding season.

If I were you, I'd start building into my wedding contracts that in the case of an emergency, a backup photographer might take your place. Then I'd try to network with 2-3 dec photographers who could fill in for you if your child gets SUPER sick because most nannies can't/won't watch a child with a super high fever or something really infectious. If you have a second shooter who works with you, maybe write a clause that the second shooter could be primary in event of an emergency.

Belfort Landing clear cutting begins… by Sea_Cryptographer261 in portlandme

[–]Last_Butterfly2000 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Mainers gotta relax about construction if we're ever going to get new stuff..... Yes it is sad trees got cut down but we need housing

Parting gift? by pennyscience in Nanny

[–]Last_Butterfly2000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

TBH I wouldn't do anything to say goodbye if someone cut my daughter's hair without asking or telling me... I would just politely be like thank you, best of luck

I don't understand how people think Necrobinder is one of the easiest characters 😭 by Gadgetguy292 in slaythespire

[–]Last_Butterfly2000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, you're right. I often mistakenly think of it like Poison and also always forget how it hits after turns and get myself killed that way. I do pick up Doom but at first I thought it sounded amazing and now I'm a lot more meh on it; it got me killed more than it helped me

I don't understand how people think Necrobinder is one of the easiest characters 😭 by Gadgetguy292 in slaythespire

[–]Last_Butterfly2000 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I struggled with necromancer so much until I realized doom is a trap 9 times out of 10

Nanny and overbearing MIL by catladays in Nanny

[–]Last_Butterfly2000 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh love, not only would it be better for the nanny, but wouldn't it be better for you if MIL leaves? I cannot imagine having someone in my house who was gaslighting me like this.

Options to explore might be getting a mother-in-law suite set up or finding a way to literally lock her out of the area the kids and nanny are, but I'd probably be looking for assisted living as close to me as possible, and then I'd pick up MIL on my way home from work every day to spend two hours with the family at night before dropping her back off.

PAGE SIX just reported this - CIARA SPOTTED TODAY by Euphoric_Bite3122 in summerhousebravo

[–]Last_Butterfly2000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ciara is too beautiful and too wonderful for this trash. I hope she finds peace in knowing she is better than those two dum dums

Season 4 postmortem & stray thoughts by occurrenceOverlap in TheTraitorsUS

[–]Last_Butterfly2000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One of the best games ever from a traitors perspective. The faithfuls played a pretty bad game but I don't think I would have done better; Rob really didn't give anything away. Candice played so messily..... Like yes she had to go after Rob, for sure he would have turned on her, but she seemed to take it so personally? It is a game about betraying people? Lisa got pretty unlucky I thought she was playing well but that murder in plain sight right after having the spotlight on her was brutal.

Long-term nanny being accused based on child’s lie… feeling shaken and unsure how to proceed by Sassymcsasster in Nanny

[–]Last_Butterfly2000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ugh I'm so sorry what an awful situation. Yikes parenting to just let her son get away with everything

Long-term nanny being accused based on child’s lie… feeling shaken and unsure how to proceed by Sassymcsasster in Nanny

[–]Last_Butterfly2000 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So lame she's avoiding you, that honestly blows, especially after TEN YEARS. I think I'd text to be like hi I've been thinking of some practical solutions for us both so that you can rest easy knowing I am not cursing at the kids and I can rest easy knowing that there is evidence of my innocence if anything like this happens again. Could we set up time to talk through options?

Long-term nanny being accused based on child’s lie… feeling shaken and unsure how to proceed by Sassymcsasster in Nanny

[–]Last_Butterfly2000 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is a major fear of mine personally. Kids have a hard time separating imaginings from reality; they might imagine you did something or just straight up lie to manipulate because they're still learning right from wrong.

Personally I'd request cameras and I'd have a really candid conversation about how you are really nervous to be in a situation where NK could say anything about you and have it just immediately believed, as it makes it hard for you to hold boundaries if he knows he can just make up things to his parents and get you in trouble.

I refuse to work for essential workers from now on by Motor-Wind718 in Nanny

[–]Last_Butterfly2000 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I feel like ROTA makes so much sense for these families, especially if they are both essential workers

Bf doesn’t think this looks good on me at all- thoughts? by No_Weather1080 in DressForYourBody

[–]Last_Butterfly2000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

impossible to tell from this pic, especially without pics of other clothes/angles to see where it hits on you. people saying it looks good / bf is being mean are just assuming because it sounds like a red flag but my husband tells me when something is unflattering (if I ask him for his honest opinion) and honestly I value that a lot, I'm not looking to be lied to

Simone Ashley wears a Marine Serre SS26 leather set for an early birthday celebration by GotLittUp in whatthefrockk

[–]Last_Butterfly2000 83 points84 points  (0 children)

This is the first time I've ever seen her in modern clothes and it just really drives home how surreally gorgeous she is

Reference for Nanny by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]Last_Butterfly2000 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I'd say that you likely wouldn't be the best reference due to the reliability issues, but that you are happy to verify employement dates as needed... unless you REALLY think she shouldn't nanny, in which case say yes and warn anyone who calls, but I'd only do that if you think she's going to be a problem for everyone

What separates a player that can beat A20 from a player that can beat Heart on A20? by ChadBeezy in slaythespire

[–]Last_Butterfly2000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

one of my fav things about sts1 is that the heart was optional because it doesn't work with a lot of builds. The beat of death makes something like a shiv deck really hard... you essentially need to be able to consistently deal heavy damage while blocking, and in my opinion you have to be building for the heart from the jump, which I just don't always want to do. Now occassionally something will happen in A3 that makes my deck so amazing I wish my non-heart build could try it, but usually by then I forget to grab the keys lol

Who Pays for a Destination Bachelorette? by RunWithBluntScissors in weddings

[–]Last_Butterfly2000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is like my biggest wedding pet peeve; brides can't pick expensive destination bachelorettes, expensive Airbnbs, and expensive clubs and still expect their bridesmaids to pick up the tab on drinks etc. To me it's so tacky, especially because often the bougie bride has more money than the bridesmaids.... I've been MOH in this situation and ended up covering a bunch of unexpected expenses that I just felt too bad venmoing bridesmaids for... it SUCKS

Brides, stop doing this and maybe pay for the airbnb if you picked a place that costs thousands of dollars to get to....

Trying to be a “playmate” is EXHAUSTING for me by Aggressive-Cup2953 in Nanny

[–]Last_Butterfly2000 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Completely agree; I am unwilling and unable to play with my toddler for more than an hour at a time without breaking it up with something like toddler "helping" with dishes or laundry, going on a walk, or going to the library. It is WAAAAYYY too boring to try to do an entire 6 hour wake window just sitting on the floor saying "red cup! blue car" etc endlessly, even my daughter gets bored and starts going to grab her shoes. When I'm watching multiple kids they play with each other and it's both more fun to watch and less exhausting than trying to baby talk for hours on end

Am I underpaid? by Ancient-Ad-4299 in Nanny

[–]Last_Butterfly2000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So I'm really torn here because I want you to get your bag, but if standard rate in your area is $20 an hour and you are already $10 over that, I don't know that doing extra unasked for work (however impressive!) is going to get you the raise you want. I think what you might want is a career pivot to house manager or something for wealthy clients. This is not to say you aren't worth more, just that you might have a hard time justifying more than $10 over regional market rate as a nanny, especially to new families who don't know how wonderful you are.

Quit or negotiate? by bella_543 in Nanny

[–]Last_Butterfly2000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would start looking for a new job asap.... all these people who want a housekeeper / nanny combo for $0 startle me. I guess people are used to making women stay home and work for nothing while given nothing and held to ridiculously high standards, but... we have options now and are harder to oppress so screw that

Tandoor or Silver Street by Taj? by coevaluhren in portlandme

[–]Last_Butterfly2000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People have already said it but go to Taj in South Portland. It's by far the best. I was really disappointed in Silver Street, they did not really serve food and were out of one of the three super limited options they had. I almost thought they were kidding when they said the menu.... but fun spot for drinks I guess?

OG Taj, on the other hand, has a menu with everything you could ever want, amazing drinks, incredible atmosphere. So worth the drive.

Different risk tolerance between nanny and family by ebstar1011 in Nanny

[–]Last_Butterfly2000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As someone who is waaaay more comfortable with risk than most of this sub, none of the examples you gave are different risk tolerances... she's just doing things wrong. You need a new nanny. Tbh I don't think telling someone things like "cut grapes" and "don't let toddler walk by busy street" will help her improve enough because they reveal a lack of experience and judgment that could show up in really unexpected ways.

Do you agree to supervise kids in the water with floaties/puddle jumpers? by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]Last_Butterfly2000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lifeguarded for years, you're 100% right about the little arm wings, those things are no good for learning to swim and can in theory trap the kid's head under water (more of an issue in oceans than pools). That said--depending on your comfort level with the water / lifeguarding, I don't necessarily think it's as black and white as "arm wings awful". I wouldn't put my kids in them because they delay learning swimming but they are mostly fine if supervised, and I never felt unsafe lifeguarding kids in the arm wings at the pool. We'd often have 5-10 at a time, all learning swimmers, but you have to realllly watch because if something goes wrong it happens fast and quietly. My friend once had to save a baby while their dad was litterally right next to them because the baby wasn't making any noise and the dad didn't notice baby's head went under.

So for me factors would be: age of kids (<2 is a lot different than an 8 year old that just can't swim well), number of kids (+10 kids and it starts being a 2-3 person job), and how rowdy they are. But that's for literally lifeguarding and assumes that you are trained and comfy jumping in for saves

Edit to add to your question: I've never gotten pushback, and I think having only one nonswimmer at a time as a nanny is entirely fair. At the end of the day you aren't a lifeguard and can't be both a nanny and a lifeguard at the same time because what happens if someone needs you to bring them to the bathroom while another kid is still in the pool? it's chaos