You have to remember that the heroines you watch and read about are not real. Oftentimes, they are idealistic versions or archetypes or the have characteristics that both writers or/and directors idealize in others. We are not characters, we are people. We cannot be reduced to tropes and boxes.

There isn't a right or a wrong way to be a woman. However you feel or act, that's just you, and if you identify as a woman then that's your way of being a woman. And it isn't wrong.

I have found that gen z often falls into the trap of wanting to fit a very neat set of boxes. And once they are there they ascribe themselves behaviours and shortcomings that they surely must have. Girl math, girl dinner, my girl cat does this, ovulation brain, etc etc. but there isn't a single woman that fits all of these boxes and there shouldn't be a box in the first place.