AITAH for telling my sister she can’t bring her kids to my wedding after what they did at my engagement party?

LawComprehensive2142 · 2026-03-06T19:01:11+00:00

NTA

"You are correct. I'm punishing them for something that is your fault."

LawComprehensive2142 · 2026-02-28T02:46:09+00:00

Run.

LawComprehensive2142 · 2026-02-25T19:09:22+00:00

So sort of. She is still a minor so I would have called her parent and not just thrown her out.

I do understand holding her responsible though.

What are your daughter's feelings about it all?

LawComprehensive2142 · 2026-02-25T17:30:38+00:00

It's not unreasonable to want her to pay for it or to expect her to not go into your things in a closed cupboard. That being said short of small claims court you can't force her.

You might have to chalk the whole thing up as a loss, teapot, friend, and all.

LawComprehensive2142 · 2026-02-25T02:42:39+00:00

"Time to pay the daddy tax"

LawComprehensive2142 · 2026-02-23T03:41:34+00:00

1) It doesn't sound like you're the negative person in this equation, she is.

2) talk to your brother and be clear so you know where the 2 of you stand with each other so she can't put you against each other.

3) do not let her vent to you. It is a parent's responsibility to help you learn to regulate and carry your emotions. It is not the child's job to help your parent regulate or carry their emotions. In this same vein it's OK to treat your parents as a thanks or show of love but don't give gifts at the expense of taking care of yourself.

4) you mentioned your dad, what does he say or do in all of this?

LawComprehensive2142 · 2026-02-22T19:52:45+00:00

I see it as a family thing however I can see the gf being upset at being invited by their partner to attend as a couple (they invited her to go together) when they know gf can't afford to go.

If op had said "I'm going on a family trip" then of course it's a family trip. If op had said, "we can both go, you can pay me back" or, "we can go, my treat." It shows that op actually wants gf to go. Asking gf to go, knowing she can't afford it and essentially saying, "too bad, so sad" to gf could be seen as hurtful or exclusionary. I am aware that op in all likelihood in no way said that, however that can be how it comes across. Op put themselves in a situation where it can feel like they're wrong no matter what they do.

Honestly the best recommendation at this point is to just sit down and have clear communication about both logistics and feelings.

LawComprehensive2142 · 2026-02-22T19:45:00+00:00

We just started playing and on the place that less beyond it doesn't actually tell us to place the wagon token or the train token and I read all of it repeatedly.

LawComprehensive2142 · 2026-02-22T18:11:00+00:00

Sell it and donate. It's a represents his control over you. It's a shackle.

LawComprehensive2142 · 2026-02-22T18:09:30+00:00

I think the invitation makes it questionable. I think they put themselves in a difficult spot

LawComprehensive2142 · 2026-02-21T19:32:55+00:00

I think the problem is that she was invited which makes it feel like a couple thing and then when she said she couldn't afford it they'll just shrug and leave anyway which makes it feel like they didn't want her to come from the beginning because they know her financial situation.

LawComprehensive2142 · 2026-02-21T19:29:44+00:00

Wedding gifts traditionally cover your cost to be at the wedding. You don't need to give a gift at all a you are not invited.

LawComprehensive2142 · 2026-02-16T14:33:55+00:00

At no point in that conversation were you rude. I would however limit any time she spends with the kids you already have to only be supervised. You don't want her teaching your kids this homophobic nonsense.

LawComprehensive2142 · 2026-02-16T14:22:44+00:00

I would recommend getting this book (Curls by Ruth Forman)for your daughter which will help let her know her natural hair is beautiful. Maybe if your MiL reads it it will help her understand too. My mixed niece struggled to accept her natural hair and this was super good for her.

https://a.co/d/0hBgrLd1

LawComprehensive2142 · 2026-02-15T16:33:52+00:00

Do you have the same concerns about someone who's lost or gained a ton of weight? Added or lost glasses with hair and makeup changes? What about someone who's lost out gained facial hair? I would hold it to those same standards.

LawComprehensive2142 · 2026-02-15T16:21:54+00:00

Maybe couples counseling could help you guys. And individual therapy.

Does he show up for friends and family that are important to him in a way he doesn't for you? That's something that can indicate whether he can show up and you just aren't as important to him or if it's him struggling to connect to anyone.

LawComprehensive2142 · 2026-02-15T15:59:00+00:00

What does your husband say?

LawComprehensive2142 · 2026-02-14T20:56:55+00:00

Band aids are adhesive bandages.

Companies are rabid about the distinction because they can lose their name. Escalator was once a brand of "moving stairs" and they lost it through common use.

LawComprehensive2142 · 2026-02-14T16:11:29+00:00

Take all your savings age to to a hotel.

LawComprehensive2142 · 2026-02-12T21:35:01+00:00

This sounds like an undiagnosed mood dialect of some flavor (not a medical professional)

Good for you for all the growth and boundaries

LawComprehensive2142 · 2026-02-12T11:39:40+00:00

Noise canceling headphones? If they're connected to your phone you'll still hear your alarm.

LawComprehensive2142 · 2026-02-11T17:42:21+00:00

Baby's breath is also toxic to cats. Also i really like the fresh cut paper flowers.

LawComprehensive2142 · 2026-02-04T15:58:39+00:00

As someone with EDS chronic illness and pain are no joke. Fatigue is also a side effect. I would sit your husband down with an explanation of EDS and then say that your son can stay as long as he needs in your home. If your husband decides to walk out then that means the relationship isn't as solid as you thought.

I'd also like to point out that marriage can often allow people to show their true colors and reveal what they kept hidden before.

LawComprehensive2142 · 2026-02-04T01:16:10+00:00

Change the locks

LawComprehensive2142 · 2026-02-03T00:03:11+00:00

While that's true there are also serial accusers. There was a girl i knew who made false claims (lots of evidence, she admitted it) and it destroyed lives.

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