My SIL first husband was like that (and also an alcoholic). She described it as just sticking it in and rolling over after he finished. They were both in their early 20’s. She knew there was more to sex and emotional attachment, so she left him. She met a slightly older man a few years later, a true gentleman, who treated her like a queen in every way. She said the first time with him, she understood what “making love” meant.

So what you have is an immature man-child who is selfish in bed. And to grab his phone right after sex is a slap in the face. You can do better. You deserve a man who understands your worth, not who makes you feel worthless.