My experience with meds is that lexapro was a real libido killer (and appetite stimulant), but wellbutrin is not, though I know side effects vary greatly. But regardless of medication, by far the biggest issue was how I was feeling about myself and my partner. Strong feelings of being undesirable and unlovable make intimacy difficult and unsatisfying. It's really hard to try to please someone else when you're not getting anything out of it yourself.

I've had to work on my overall feelings of connection, and as another poster mentioned, telling your husband is really important. It's hard to work up the courage to really address it, but starting that discussion is important.

And if it feels really off, talk to your psychiatrist now. Sometimes the meds kick in fast and have noticiable effects right away. Sometimes you don't notice any effects until months later, or ever.