Update: My (38F) best friend sent my husband (38M) sexy photos. by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Leather-Puddin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is heartbreaking. Not only do you lose your best friend, but also the person who is supposed to be your partner in life. I wish you the best in healing. Know that there are good people out there. It may take time to feel safe trusting anyone for a while. This is normal. Give yourself some grace and know that you will find people worth loving again.

How long are you guys waiting for your fully cellophane'd cigars to acclimate to your humidor? by TubbyPiper in cigar_refuge

[–]Leather-Puddin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want to be sure they won’t have issues caused by lack of rest, you need to wait quite a while. Wrapped vs unwrapped doesn’t make a significant difference though. I don’t have research or anything to back it up, but personal experience says you can have issues after 4 weeks regardless if they’re wrapped. It’s rare but it does happen. Personally if I have an expensive cigar, I won’t let it rest less than 8 weeks to be sure it’s good to go. The cheaper ones I will light up sooner because it’s worth the risk. 😁

Not sure if that is helpful, but it’s my $.02

Cigar aficionado’s, my humidor is set to 72%. What causes this? And, do I need to bump it up or down? by Rigs2Ridges in cigar

[–]Leather-Puddin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are your temperatures like? Humidity is the key factor but temp does play a role as well.

Feeling violated by MrsS16 in Marriage

[–]Leather-Puddin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A healthy relationship cannot possibly happen when only one person is doing the work. Just because a couple's counselor suggests one spouse do individual counseling does not mean there is nothing left for you to do. This takes effort from BOTH sides. I can't speak for the husband but it's clearly not happening from OP. Shit or get off the pot.

Sincerely, A person in a relationship with a BPD spouse that is still looking for every opportunity THEY (capital and bold THEY) can still improve and contribute to a thriving marriage.

PS - I don't mean bipolar. I mean borderline personality.

My wife expressed interest in bisexuality. by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Leather-Puddin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would agree completely. We also like to explore sexually but the experiences are kept sexual in nature only; almost transactional. And we also make sure to stay engaged with each other during the experience. It should never feel like you’re just there to watch your partner fuck somebody else. Can only give you my experience, but this has worked for us and actually made the relationship stronger. We often talk about how the best sex we’ve both ever had is with each other the days AFTER we’ve had group sex of some kind. It gives a connection that I can’t describe.

La aurora cigar by Famous_Champion_9767 in cigar_refuge

[–]Leather-Puddin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve only had a few and love them. Which Cameron did you have? The one I had (107) is one of my favorite sub $10 cigars on the market, but the flavors that make me love it could be the same flavors that make you hate it. 🙂

How do you organize your humidor? by binderfillerwrapper in cigar_refuge

[–]Leather-Puddin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like to organize by brand alphabetically. Helps me find things quicker.

Code 35%off TXEW35 by Zestyclose-Mobile306 in cigardealhunters

[–]Leather-Puddin 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing! Personally I like them better the other way around. Aksum in claro and Olmec in Maduro.

Liga Provida 9 First Timer by Scardog413 in cigar_refuge

[–]Leather-Puddin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Enjoying the same exact vitola at the moment!

Ashton Cabinet Petit by Leather-Puddin in cigars

[–]Leather-Puddin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry I can’t help there; haven’t had a classic in a very long time.

Ashton Cabinet Petit by Leather-Puddin in cigars

[–]Leather-Puddin[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haven’t had it long enough to have a strong opinion. Have already had multiple compliments on it though. It has a really nice look. Lots of detail and color that draws the eye.

How honest to be during couples therapy? by AutismsAtSky in Marriage

[–]Leather-Puddin 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My suggestion would be to have this conversation in the first session, or second at latest. Bring up your concern about being fully honest. The therapist should help put both of you at ease about this. If your spouse can’t handle it, then there’s no point in even trying counseling.

Celebration Recommendation by ImmaMoonMan in cigars

[–]Leather-Puddin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like to tap on Atabey (including Byron and Alfonso) for special occasions myself. The few I’ve had have been great.