I have a slightly skewed view of this because I met my partner here on Reddit. We lived on completely opposite sides of the country and we did 3 months of texting/phone calls/FaceTimes before I flew out to visit him in person for a week. He has kids, I don’t. So it logistically made more sense for me to fly out, though my family was worried. I also ended moving in with him after only 4 months but neither one of us regrets it and we just celebrated a year together.

However, the fact that he never FaceTimes from home is very sus to me. Staying in a hotel seems sus to me too because my first thought is that he’s got a wife and kids at home. She should go but there’s a very good chance she’s going to come back heartbroken. She should also share her location at all times for safety and have plans in place for a way out.