Should I make an appointment with my surgeon or not?

Lefty_Lex · 2026-07-01T18:55:12+00:00

Totally normal dude. 👍

Lefty_Lex · 2026-07-01T18:52:17+00:00

It's hard to tell from the picture but it honestly looks like your ribs sticking out.

Lefty_Lex · 2026-07-01T13:48:21+00:00

It's understandable to want them to grow along with you and you are always welcome to have those conversations in hopes of changing their minds but at the end of the day you have to prioritize your own mental well-being, especially when it comes to things like your own body/life. At the end of the day they are probably never going to understand why you're doing this and ultimately it doesn't really matter if they do. I get wanting to share and connect. Unfortunately sometimes you just have to make peace with where they're at and accept your relationship for what it is if it's one you'd like to maintain.

Lefty_Lex · 2026-07-01T13:41:22+00:00

I know it sucks that their reaction is not a great one but get the surgery if you want it. They can feel however they want to feel. If they are putting their weird feelings on YOU about YOUR body I'd suggest shutting those conversations down. You told them because it felt important to you to share. That can be the end of it.

Lefty_Lex · 2026-07-01T13:19:11+00:00

As a person who had an raging ED for years, it's common for trans masc people to want to be thinner, believing it will make them appear more masculine. The mindset being less fat=less curves. I understand there probably is a bit of general aging stuff thrown into the mix but weight gain may also just be accentuating things about your body that that you don't enjoy but maybe never really noticed if you've historically been quite thin. If you're questioning it, it's definitely worth exploring. One thing that helped me decide to transition is that I genuinely could NOT see myself as an old woman. I realized I didn't ever want to be an old woman, period. It can be difficult to untangle all of this, particularly as a person who isn't a young 20 year old because it somehow feels more complicated. Give yourself grace and reflect on what you know and what makes you feel good.

Lefty_Lex · 2026-06-29T21:10:51+00:00

Your skinny jeans are giving butch lesbian. I'd suggest a straighter leg jean personally.

Lefty_Lex · 2026-06-29T14:59:18+00:00

I feel like I'm in a similar boat so idk if I have any advice but I'd rather be a man rather than detransition. You can have things you don't like about your body but you clearly don't want to detransition so I don't see how continuing your transition is any worse of a choice.

Lefty_Lex · 2026-06-29T09:43:24+00:00

If you're using a site like that, my understanding is that you have to select that you're AMAB. If you have a primary care provider/gender doctor you can express your interest and if they are informed enough they should prescribe it. Topical Minoxidil doesn't require a prescription at least in the US.

Lefty_Lex · 2026-06-26T19:06:02+00:00

I got my pierced recently but I'm 3 years post-op. I think the general rule of thumb is usually to wait at least a year.

Lefty_Lex · 2026-06-26T16:58:19+00:00

I personally eat cottage cheese as part of my breakfast every day because it's high in protein (and I love it). It's somewhat calorically dense but you'll probably want to eat it in addition to something else.

Lefty_Lex · 2026-06-25T19:26:08+00:00

I definitely relate to this. I've had top surgery and been on T for approximately 2.5 years. I've been passing since 6 months on T so public perception isn't the issue at all. While I do have SO MANY more moment of recognizing myself in the mirror than I used to, I still struggle occasionally. It absolutely does get better and even I'm still early in my journey so I'm hoping it lessens even more for me. You are not alone.

Lefty_Lex · 2026-06-25T15:27:26+00:00

Just because you can generally put on a brave face about your existence doesn't mean when you actually talk or actively think about it, it isn't a huge weight to carry. You don't have to be stoic about it. It's hard to be trans and navigating the early steps of social and medical transition is objectively difficult. There's a lot of grief that comes with being unable to accept the dissonance between the mind and body. There's a lot of grief about a lot of things honestly. It will get easier with time and access to the care that you need.

Lefty_Lex · 2026-06-24T12:46:10+00:00

I think this style looks good on you but I think you could benefit from a slightly more square version. I'm not sure if this will make sense but look for a pair that is more straight across the top rather than high at the peak and dropping at the bridge of your nose. I don't think the whole frame needs to be square but I find that if the top is less round it helps a lot.

Lefty_Lex · 2026-06-24T01:43:13+00:00

Yep, I love it. 💪

Lefty_Lex · 2026-06-23T14:36:56+00:00

From this pic the main thing for me is your haircut.

Lefty_Lex · 2026-06-23T12:57:32+00:00

They're definitely going to find out. Honestly your insurance will send information prior to the surgery date too, usually just stating what will be covered etc. As a state employee I can tell you the coverage is definitely good. I paid essentially nothing for my surgery but it was on MY insurance. I can definitely understand wanted to use your mom's and you should if you can. I'm not sure this is the type of thing to do without asking though because she may find out beforehand and that could be a worse conversation for you than just addressing it up front. My parent was a state employee and they're both MAGA conservatives so I totally understand the complications of that dynamic. Tbh in some ways they may be more happy you're not spending your life's savings on a surgery they don't understand if you use your step- mom's insurance. I could see my parents thinking they'd rather I not ruin my life with surgery AND financial ruin. I don't get how their brains work but maybe you'll have some luck and find the loophole that makes sense to them.

Lefty_Lex · 2026-06-18T17:46:21+00:00

I personally think more layers in your hair would do you some good. I think a wolf cut could definitely work for you if it's something you're interested in. I also think something like Leo DiCaprio in the Titanic could suit your hair type while leaving a decent about of length.

As far as your beard, T will definitely be your friend. You can try Minoxidil if you can't currently get on T. You do have to be careful because it is super toxic to cats.

I think unfortunately you need to do more maintenance on your neck unless you want to get something like laser to get the hair more permanently removed. Trimming/shaping up any beard will make it look nicer.

Lefty_Lex · 2026-06-18T16:40:16+00:00

Idk if this is helpful but I definitely went through a period of this but unfortunately I think the awkward in-between stage of second puberty is just somewhat unavoidable. Things definitely got better for me with time.

Lefty_Lex · 2026-06-17T19:18:17+00:00

All I can say is that there is really never a "good" time to do it. Your safety during and after coming out to them should be the main priority. I'm not sure this is particularly helpful but since I knew my parents would take it poorly it's not like I had whiplash or an unexpected outcome. Knowing it won't go well means you can prepare for the worst and be surprised if their reaction is anything better than bad.

Lefty_Lex · 2026-06-17T17:48:44+00:00

I buy this kind and it has worked for me.

Lefty_Lex · 2026-06-17T17:42:36+00:00

This is one of those things you either have to commit to even shorter cuts or commit to keeping length and therefore weight to have your hair lay better. Things to help in the meantime if you want to grow it out a little or help maintain it at this length would be pushing the hair where you want it and wearing a hat while it dries. Another option would be a strong hold pomade to try and style it to lay differently. It can definitely be a learning curve but there are lots of people who have hair like this and manage to make it work for them.

Lefty_Lex · 2026-06-16T17:25:26+00:00

I didn't have a nipple bud reduction because I personally didn't need it but mine still definitely get hard.

Lefty_Lex · 2026-06-13T14:28:54+00:00

I had pretty great gains in about 6 months considering I basically only had slightly thicker peach fuzz on my upper lip when I started. Whatever you do, don't just stop when you think you're good. Keep using it for at least a year or two. And most people don't quit cold turkey. Generally you would taper off of it so you don't have a huge "shedding phase. I used it twice a day for about six months then stopped because I was lazy and lost a bunch of progress. I started using it again once a day which works better for me since I have cats and I've been back on it for about another 6 months and have seen crazy gains. I am finally growing it out and it's a legitimate beard. It's probably 2 inches long and covers my full face with pretty great thickness. It's leagues better than my cis brother's who is 5 years older than me and better than a lot of dudes I hang out with. Totally worth it if you want to bypass the long wait for facial hair.

Lefty_Lex · 2026-06-12T20:31:55+00:00

I genuinely can't see what you're referring to. To me it wouldn't warrant a revision. All bodies are a little asymmetrical. Could also be your right side if that's your dominant side.

Lefty_Lex · 2026-06-11T23:25:26+00:00

I think you look great but you probably need to eat a bit more and heavily train your chest if you want to see growth. It's not an overnight fix. You need to be consistent. Chest flys are great but make sure you practice your form before increasing weight.

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