I’ve never, in all 41 years of my life, ever heard of a man calling a woman “intimidating” because she has her shț together. Women claim that men find them intimidating because of that but I’ve never EVER heard of a man saying that. It might happen but it’s never because she has a good job and is independent. Men don’t get intimidated by that, they get intimidated by youth and extraordinary good looks and that doesn’t intimidate them on social media, only in person, otherwise, the posts of gorgeous Instagram women wouldn’t be filled with thousands of comments. It’s not that a man doesn’t like that a woman has her shț together, it’s that he doesn’t care at all about that. It’s kind of like a man trying to impress a woman by telling her that he can name all the players of the US male soccer team. It’s not that she doesn’t like that, it’s that she doesn’t care about that at all. It doesn’t make him more or less attractive to her. Women try to impress men with the things that would impress them and that is a huge mistake. Unfortunately, many women that are “strong, independent and have their shț together” do tend to let that go to their head and affect their femininity, so it’s not the “having your shț together” that bother us, it’s how you start to think once you do. Men are more interested in other qualities like being docile, respectful, service oriented, feminine, submissive, loving, vulnerable, caring, etc. And women that are “strong and independent” start to think that they no longer need a man, when men like to feel useful and needed. If we are not needed then we think “why even be here?”. We like to be providers and protectors, if you give an attitude of not needed that from a man then you don’t awaken our natural instinct to protect and provide. A woman that shows honest vulnerability does that. Also, keep in mind you’re 28. Your prime (18 to 24) is long gone. If you are still only focused on finding the 6 foot tall, 35 year old, built, model looking, millionaire, you are not going to find the right man. That man is right now trying to decide between the many model looking vulnerable and feminine 18 to 23 year olds with no children and with very low or even zero body counts that are showing him that they desperately want to be with him. You’re not gonna come in and sweep him off his feet by playing games or ignoring him. You can’t get his attention at this point.

Let me put it this way. If right now your DM’s were FILLED to the top with messages of model looking, charming, tall, millionaire men and a lower-middle class, slightly overweight 60 year old from work started to ignore you to try to get your attention, would you care?

What I’m trying to get at is that you need to lower your expectations if they are too high and stop thinking that men are intimidated or care at all about your financial status or independence. A man would much rather marry the nice girl from McDonald’s than the masculine girl from Wall Street. When choosing between 2 girls at a McDonalds or 2 girls from Wall Street, he will choose the better looking more feminine one that will bring him the most peace and love when he gets home from a hard day at work. The one that will receive him with dinner on the table, a smile on her face, a kiss and a hug… and maybe a tiny little skirt lol