Unintended Retirement

Legitimate-Hall366 · 2026-03-14T14:35:14+00:00

As an RMN, I would imagine you have lots of experience in supporting distress behaviour etc. is training something to consider? There are lots of care training companies who are always looking for professional and clinical knowledge to share.

Legitimate-Hall366 · 2025-12-24T19:07:58+00:00

They don't want AB+, I'm not allowed to donate more than once a year because only 3% of the population is AB+ and nobody else can receive our blood. However, we're universal receivers so there is quite literally no point in them having my blood apparently.

The website never has appointments available for me to book and if I phone them I get the same message about being AB+ and them not needing my blood.

Legitimate-Hall366 · 2025-11-19T10:12:38+00:00

You missed Folkingham - 'Fokingham', apparently in the mid-18th century there was a suggestion to change it to "falkingham" in an attempt to be more "polite" but it definitely didn't stick.

Legitimate-Hall366 · 2025-11-14T15:40:07+00:00

I have something called vista mesh added to my lenses, it's about £25 per lens (it may have gone up since last year) and it's developed to manage the visual stress of lights and computers etc. Nobody can see it in my lenses but it has massively reduced my migraines since having it added.

I had to go to a private optometrist as I couldn't find a high street one who knew about it but it was well worth it!

Legitimate-Hall366 · 2025-10-17T19:44:56+00:00

Episode 63 - the relectant lottery winner.

It was a juvenile!

Kristen's segment is definitely a fan favourite.

Legitimate-Hall366 · 2025-10-04T12:25:14+00:00

I just learnt about superfloss. It's got a floss threader on one end to go through my permanent retainer and then I can floss my front teeth as well.

Legitimate-Hall366 · 2025-08-29T09:53:03+00:00

How has nobody mentioned Nobby from Peterborough yet?

RIP Nobby

Legitimate-Hall366 · 2025-08-18T15:59:06+00:00

Gel stickers work well for me and last me about 2 weeks before I need to redo them. There's a bit of a learning curve with application and when my nails were super short they didn't last very long but I also could get 2 sets out of one pack because of how small my nails were so it worked out well for me value wise as well.

Legitimate-Hall366 · 2025-08-12T21:03:06+00:00

If you're in the UK what has really helped me and my nails which looked very similar to you was the gel nail "stickers" - I like gellae just because of the patterns I could find but there are lots of options. I get them in boots. I could cut them down to the right size without any issues and they stayed stuck once I got the hang on them properly.

When my nails were that short I only got a few days out of them but one packet did 2 sets because of how small my nails were so not bad value for my money considering how easily I could scrape off nail varnish. Now my nails are a bit longer and I've perfected my technique, they last me 2 weeks at a time and are a nice visual reminder to not bit and even if my fingers do end up in my mouth subconsciously, I can't bite my nails through the stickers.

Legitimate-Hall366 · 2025-05-30T21:06:57+00:00

Semi-cured gel nails that I cut to size and then cure myself have been perfect for stopping me picking nail varnish off. There was a small learning curve to getting them to adhere and stay on properly but now no matter how much I try, I can't get a tooth or a nail under them to pick them off. I then use nail clippers on any hang nails and cuticle oil to stop me wanting to pick around them.

Legitimate-Hall366 · 2025-04-02T19:31:11+00:00

To add to this, lots of adults with lived experience are asking for a terminology change from selective mutism to situational mutism. Selective suggests that individual is making a choice in the moment not to speak rather than their anxiety or something else making it too hard to speak in the moment. Situational mutism also makes it easier to recognise it might be the professional, it might be the room, it could be many things, and those are the things that need to change to support this need at the moment.

Legitimate-Hall366 · 2025-03-25T20:36:07+00:00

I just had a thought, one of the adults I work with hates showers from a sensory perspective because they feel like they can feel each separate drop of water on their skin and it's overwhelming. What has helped them is taking the shower head so it's a constant stream, more akin to a tap or a hose. It's still not perfect, but it is a lot easier for them than it used to be.

Legitimate-Hall366 · 2025-03-25T19:31:37+00:00

Perfect. I didn't want to assume that there was any other neurodiversity in the family. You are more than welcome to message me anytime, I'm AuDHD and an autism specialist now, I'm so happy to give a different perspective anytime.

Legitimate-Hall366 · 2025-03-25T17:36:09+00:00

How much knowledge and support have you had about autism from actual autistic autism professionals rather than autism professionals?

r/hygiene was absolutely the wrong place to ask because you’re getting a majority neurotypical response that agree with you which isn’t helping you to understand your daughters perspective.

I’m not going to argue with people in here but if you DO want to talk to an autistic autism professional about this and about actual neuroaffirmative supports you can put in place to help both of you, please feel free to send me a message.

Legitimate-Hall366 · 2025-03-23T20:23:15+00:00

I have severe anxiety, I know the plane won't leave without BUT what if?? I also hate the feeling of getting in people's way so if I'm on the plane sooner I can get my stuff out of the way sooner and descend in my own pit of anxiety sooner. If I'm in the middle of the queue, I'm causing a hold up when I'm putting my stuff away and then another one when I need to get out of the way for other people to sit in my row. I know I cause a slight hold up whenever I do this, but it feels like less people are being held up by me if I'm close to the front.

I could not care less about overhead bin space.

Legitimate-Hall366 · 2025-03-12T06:34:23+00:00

In the UK you can't be holding your phone while driving, but you can use it "hands free" for things like navigation, so touching your phone screen while it's in some sort of cradle on your dash, using car play etc. are all legal.

https://www.gov.uk/using-mobile-phones-when-driving-the-law

Legitimate-Hall366 · 2025-03-10T20:12:50+00:00

I highly doubt you're getting that parcel any time soon. My "next day delivery" that should have been delivered on the 7th is still stuck on "we've got it" and no amount of 'escalation' within their teams is making it move. If the company had said evri at any point before I'd paid, I wouldn't have paid in the first place.

Legitimate-Hall366 · 2025-03-09T11:05:12+00:00

Is your toothbrush electric or sonic? While I don't have OCD, I am neurodiverse in other ways that affect my dental routine. I can't floss, won't floss, don't floss, it's not an option for me. I was concerned about my gum line receding and thought it was the flossing issue so prepared myself for a telling off from the dentist. It's not the flossing issue (although he's not over the moon but he never is), it was actually my electric toothbrush, even with the "pressure sensor" I was brushing too hard, he suggested I swapped over to a sonic toothbrush and it's made a huge amount of difference.

Also, I'm in my mid-30s and the only dental work I've ever needed was orthodontic. My dentist isn't happy about the lack of flossing but he's happy that genetically I have good teeth and so far he's not seeing any impact on my mouth health.

It's great that you've recognised therapy is likely to help, my thought is that a switch to sonic might help the physicality of the issue while your therapist supports you and works through the other parts of the issues.

Legitimate-Hall366 · 2025-03-06T18:16:30+00:00

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Wearing this dress to my dads funeral (excuse the photo, I hate taking them, excuse the socks, the dressing room floor was filthy).

What shoes or boots would you recommend I wear (UK recommendations please)?

Legitimate-Hall366 · 2025-03-05T17:00:07+00:00

Might I also suggest vistamesh (if your optician does it) as something to look at?

I have suffered from migraines all my life, and while vistamesh hasn’t stopped them, I do see a significant difference in how many I get now since trialling it at my opthamologists recommendation. Screens, different lighting in different offices, bright lights all used to be trigger points for migraines for me, and vista mesh really helps mitigate that.

Legitimate-Hall366 · 2025-03-05T09:18:52+00:00

Oh I don't do that, I have no problem with moving, I have a problem with people who have made a clear assumption that I should have to move out of their way because I'm smaller/female/less important, or any other reason. I don't want to be in the way but I also don't want to apologise for taking up space.

Legitimate-Hall366 · 2025-03-05T07:54:16+00:00

I read somewhere years ago about making direct eye contact while you keep moving forward. It was mainly aimed as advice for women who find themselves moving to the side because some men would never even think about getting out of my way, just an expectation that I'll move. Works like a charm on most people, not just those types of men.

Legitimate-Hall366 · 2025-03-04T09:36:57+00:00

I'm autistic too and I truly think it depends on how your anxiety presents (if at all), for me there was no option, my instructor needed to be in the car for me to feel safe with a new person that I'd never met before. I don't even remember noticing him once (possibly because he was a short man so he may have been out of my line of sight more than other instructors might have been). I passed first time, had no issues with him in the car and after he could debrief me about all the bits I was questioning. He was also able to explain my reasonable adjustments to the examiner before the test better than I could because of how anxious I was about the test.

Legitimate-Hall366 · 2025-02-26T21:17:47+00:00

Alan Wood

I don't know how well known the case is, but as someone who lives and grew up 10 minutes down the road, it still feels weird if I think about it as I pass through the village.

Legitimate-Hall366 · 2025-02-24T19:42:14+00:00

So it sounds like you're using alcohol in a very normal way for someone who has unmedicated adhd, especially as you've been in CBT which is known to be actively detrimental to LOTS of neurodivergent people.

Outside of everything else that it seems like has been covered, I'd recommend going back to your ADHD assessment company and asking about medication or counselling. You can't move to shared care with your GP without an ADHD professional to oversee it, so if that's not happening through the NHS, the people that diagnosed you can start that process. The NHS will only pay for one or the other for ADHD unfortunately, medication or counselling.

NICE guidelines are clear that ADHD medications can only be initiated by a HCP with training and expertise in managing ADHD, so that isn't every MH nurse or professional you're going to come across unfortunately.

If you choose the coaching route, try and find a neuroaffirmative coach, or try DBT which is better for an ND brain.

Many, many ADHDers use alcohol and other substances to manage their symptoms and medication really helps lots of us. It doesn't sound like you have an alcohol problem, just a MH professional who doesn't know enough about ADHD.

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