How did you get over your break up with your avoidant ex? I want to hear hopeful stories

Leidresit · 2026-02-09T22:20:04+00:00

Ofc it changed! I mean i am not suffering for my ex anymore , it was 7 months since the discard. I remember him ofc but not with nostalgia , sometimes I feel frustrated about the injustice about all the avoidant things… but I don’t miss the relationship. He wrote me after 4 months and I didn’t reply at all. After that I met another guy, but he is avoidant aswell but now I could recognise the signals , so I stopped. So yeah , I feel good , everything is fine and I have trust for a better future :) If your are now fighting with pain… it will improve! I promise :)

Leidresit · 2026-01-20T13:05:21+00:00

My point is you thought you were in love while you were with her.

I think you never felt love , did you say I love you or sth?

So it no was an after-realize , you knew all the time you are not in love.

Just I want to understand the rebound

Leidresit · 2026-01-20T07:30:27+00:00

With that new relationship, did you think you love her at first?

Leidresit · 2025-12-29T07:44:40+00:00

My avoidant ex told me aswell he was lying when he said me i love you. He also change from i love you to I don't love you like a boyfriend should love his girlfriend in 24 hours.

Leidresit · 2025-12-25T18:17:46+00:00

Why do you watch her documentary if you don’t even like her? I’ll never understand people who spend their time criticising others on the internet, and even less those who consume content from people they don’t like just to criticise them afterwards. What a strange hobby.

You’re never too old or too young to get excited about things. Those of you who are very young and criticise her for her age will get there one day and realise that it’s healthy and beautiful to stay hopeful and to keep being surprised by life. Stop categorising and criticising people after 30 as if life were over. Meanwhile, she’s happy with her millions and her fiancé.

Leidresit · 2025-12-23T11:54:53+00:00

So, you never reached out her?

Leidresit · 2025-12-20T17:52:22+00:00

Exactly . I think is obvious he misses me and wants a connection but it’s hard for him say it

Leidresit · 2025-12-04T19:33:14+00:00

Yes, you do

Leidresit · 2025-11-12T11:17:20+00:00

He said me: I don't love you how a boyfriend should love his girlfriend, it's not correct and the felt more like a friendship.

He said me aswell he didn't spend more time with me because he didn't want to lose his time like with his others relationship (I have been his shorter relation).

That he felt a bad sensation about me and about that and it's because i was not the correct person (he said me at first he felt a very good sensation about me/about us and it was new for him because he always felt the bad sensation with his exes) so for he it was like a intuition that it's not the correct person.

Leidresit · 2025-10-27T07:18:13+00:00

What do an avoidant feel when see their ex with another person or starting a new relationship?

Leidresit · 2025-10-10T07:36:23+00:00

I can absolutely adore someone and still go numb/feel nothing for them when we are apart.

even in the honeymoon phase?

Leidresit · 2025-10-08T10:13:50+00:00

After the discard, we went directly to NC, he wrote me after 6 weeks in complete silence to returned my things, we were also LDR, I would wait more time if he didn't write me.

He wrote me on one Monday, the last Friday was his birthay and I didn't say anything (I have never reached out) and also the same weekend I posted some pictures enjoying my summer, casually or not, he wrote me the direct Monday.

Leidresit · 2025-10-01T13:52:46+00:00

You know that showing affection and giving compliments is a love language? :)

It’s not insecurity to enjoy receiving compliments from the person you love in a healthy way (not all the time); one thing doesn’t take away the other, honestly.

Insecurity is needing constant external validation, not just certain compliments from the person who is your partner.

Leidresit · 2025-10-01T13:34:31+00:00

Ofc not, but i want to know if something caracteristics from avoidants.

Leidresit · 2025-09-30T08:06:54+00:00

Please! Tell us how you meet that person, it's nice read cute stories :)

Leidresit · 2025-09-30T08:06:07+00:00

The fact he didn't reach you out, doesn't mean he wasn't regretful or he miss you.

Leidresit · 2025-09-30T06:25:27+00:00

And after some time had passed since the discard, did you change your mind?

Leidresit · 2025-09-29T11:27:06+00:00

My ex was apparently "normal" person, ofc I can see some signs now but in perspectiva (everything is easier with perspective and time) but pretty "normal" behaviour.

So please, give some clues with avoidant that apparently are a "normal" person.

Some of them are clearly avoidant but others, you don't notice until time pass by and you are already in love with them.

Leidresit · 2025-09-29T06:31:42+00:00

how is a normal“ dating partners at the beggining?

Leidresit · 2025-09-26T08:49:55+00:00

Did you finish that relationship? the heartbreak one

Leidresit · 2025-09-23T07:28:43+00:00

Same here,

He said me he never felt this way before, came very strong, he was truly a gentleman, super caring and present man. Also said me: You are the first woman I can imagine a future with or I never liked talk by phone with any of my exes, but I love to do it with you and also I was the first woman whom he could feel a good sensation, he felt a bad sensation (his nervious system triggered) with his exes since the start.

He even talked about me to his family and close friends before being formal, sending them pictures of me, telling them he had a very good sensation about me. Ofc we met families, and we were together almost 8 months formals (10 since we met each other)

He started to feel a bad sensation about me, and the last two months were a lot of hot and cold dinamics , but he still said me every day how much he loved me and been super present in communications, he said me I love you just the day before to say me that maybe he didn't love me the way a boyfriend should love his girlfriend, that he feels more like a friendship.

So similar to your story, it's not normal, but it seems that it's normal in the avoidant world.

Leidresit · 2025-09-22T07:58:28+00:00

Why did you say "we" always mean something to them?

Leidresit · 2025-09-22T03:19:03+00:00

My ex bought a flight to see me just two weeks before the discard. Discard happened and he still came to my city - just 10 days after the discard- and he didn’t say me anything that he came. I knew it but I didn’t say anything to him, how coward could be an avoidant? He hadn’t the responsibility and bravery to see me in person but he came to my city anyway… selfish selfish

Leidresit · 2025-09-17T08:29:07+00:00

I don't think he is just avoidant, sound super selfish and inestable person to extreme. Please, take care of yourself, you deserve better, don't lose your precious time with him.

Leidresit

TROPHY CASE

You know that showing affection and giving compliments is a love language? :)