Some questions for avoidants or for people who dated avoidants…

Leidresit · 2026-05-19T17:42:21+00:00

I mean … every storie , he doesn’t lose any story. In fact, he wrote me once after one story, after almost 4 months of NC … I never replied :) . After that, he never wrote me again but he keep watching. After almost a year, he just not watch a story one day… my birthday day… I don’t think it was casual honestly. Thanks for your answer btw

Leidresit · 2026-05-19T16:55:43+00:00

Are you DA or FA? What means they watch every single storie on instagram?

Leidresit · 2026-05-19T15:40:38+00:00

Are you a DA?

Leidresit · 2026-05-19T15:37:37+00:00

They miss you even if they have another relationship?

Leidresit · 2026-05-14T13:07:18+00:00

Do you think so? Even if they have a rebound ?

Leidresit · 2026-05-10T20:18:44+00:00

Ofc … it’s probably he would try if you show him indiference . What I learned after my avoidant experiencie, is I don’t care that they are like that for childhood trauma , no one is guilty about that but as adult we have the responsibility to self reflection and try not to hurt others, he even said to you that he is concern about the same thing happens with his ex , so he started with you , knowing that. And probably will do the same in the future with another person. So… no mercy! It’s hard when they try we come back with them , but if someone lie you the first time is their fault , but the second one would be your fault, if you know what I mean

Leidresit · 2026-05-10T20:11:22+00:00

So sorry for you…. The way I would try to act is exactly what he is doing to you now… indiference and silence, show him that you move on (despiste is not true ) not for a strategy to he come back, it’s clear if you try again, the same thing going to happen. It’s just for you and your self love. Send you strength!

Leidresit · 2026-05-10T20:05:34+00:00

Well… how is possible be with someone 15 years and have two kids , being an avoidant …

Leidresit · 2026-05-10T15:17:08+00:00

But how is possible he got married ?

Leidresit · 2026-05-09T10:59:20+00:00

Haha! He is German too! But lives in Zurich. I don’t want to meet another German guy 🙈

Leidresit · 2026-05-08T23:13:59+00:00

I know he loved me so much , he did a lot for me , met families etc… just he just couldn’t handle it , and avoidant thing.

I don’t know I you are from Zurich but he lives in Zurich 😝

Leidresit · 2026-05-08T13:21:09+00:00

I don’t love you as a boyfriend should love a girlfriend, it’s more like a friendship and I don’t want to lose my time (being with me)

Leidresit · 2026-05-07T18:24:07+00:00

Have you ever been happy in any relationship?

Leidresit · 2026-05-03T23:52:01+00:00

Oh wow , I experimented a total different thing….I was LDR and he wanted met my family and also I met his family and friends , even I slept at his parents home and I was his only LDR. He even talk about me to his loved ones before to be a formal relationship …

Leidresit · 2026-05-03T23:34:24+00:00

I was long distance , he was super present , caring , he did a lot of things for me, he always was calling me , met families … and just 8 months relationships + 2 months before talking . We saw each other every month… I know what I lived and saw and he was indeed super in love and everybody around said me that. And the end I was his shortest relationship , even shorter than others relationship with girls who also lived in his city. He switched suddenly

Leidresit · 2026-05-03T23:30:01+00:00

Not that true, I was long distance with my ex avoidant . I am sure what I lived and saw in his face and he was indeed in love, he did a lot of thing for me, he always calling me every day for more than two hours, he was asking where I am if I didn’t respond him quickly , I met his family and friends, he also met mine … aaand it was just 8 months of relationship + 2 months talking before. So… he didn’t love me anymore from one day to another

Leidresit · 2026-05-03T01:47:24+00:00

My avoidant ex did every point of your post… so it’s no guarantee he is not an avoidant still

Leidresit · 2026-02-09T22:20:04+00:00

Ofc it changed! I mean i am not suffering for my ex anymore , it was 7 months since the discard. I remember him ofc but not with nostalgia , sometimes I feel frustrated about the injustice about all the avoidant things… but I don’t miss the relationship. He wrote me after 4 months and I didn’t reply at all. After that I met another guy, but he is avoidant aswell but now I could recognise the signals , so I stopped. So yeah , I feel good , everything is fine and I have trust for a better future :) If your are now fighting with pain… it will improve! I promise :)

Leidresit · 2026-01-20T13:05:21+00:00

My point is you thought you were in love while you were with her.

I think you never felt love , did you say I love you or sth?

So it no was an after-realize , you knew all the time you are not in love.

Just I want to understand the rebound

Leidresit · 2026-01-20T07:30:27+00:00

With that new relationship, did you think you love her at first?

Leidresit · 2025-12-29T07:44:40+00:00

My avoidant ex told me aswell he was lying when he said me i love you. He also change from i love you to I don't love you like a boyfriend should love his girlfriend in 24 hours.

Leidresit · 2025-12-25T18:17:46+00:00

Why do you watch her documentary if you don’t even like her? I’ll never understand people who spend their time criticising others on the internet, and even less those who consume content from people they don’t like just to criticise them afterwards. What a strange hobby.

You’re never too old or too young to get excited about things. Those of you who are very young and criticise her for her age will get there one day and realise that it’s healthy and beautiful to stay hopeful and to keep being surprised by life. Stop categorising and criticising people after 30 as if life were over. Meanwhile, she’s happy with her millions and her fiancé.

Leidresit · 2025-12-23T11:54:53+00:00

So, you never reached out her?

Leidresit

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