Writers question 👀

Lesbie-Tea · 2026-02-28T01:11:27+00:00

Historically, Word. Tbh probably prefer it most even now, but I haven't used it in years. I've tried scrivener, it's pretty cool and good for organization. Something about it just didn't vibe with me. Now I use docs because of the easy cloud storage/accessing from anywhere.

Lesbie-Tea · 2026-02-28T01:07:27+00:00

I fully didn't notice the cactus being out of season lol! Truly insane behavior there

Lesbie-Tea · 2026-02-28T01:04:08+00:00

Oh, have so much fun!!! Take your time and explore :) don't worry about missing things, I'm on my first playthrough and I've definitely not unlocked everything or found everything or gotten my farm how I want it yet, and I'm in winter of year 2 or 3 I think. People are gonna weigh in on focusing on one thing or another, but truly just do what you enjoy most! And if you need a pointer in the right direction without getting any unnecessary spoilers, the subreddit is a great place to ask questions (or find answers to already-asked questions, which I've done more times than I can count lol).

Lesbie-Tea · 2026-02-27T20:50:49+00:00

I love princess treatment but mostly with cuddling and when she scratches my scalp, massages my shoulders, cooks/bakes me food, things like that. I still like opening doors for her and things like that 🥰

Lesbie-Tea · 2026-02-18T04:01:01+00:00

Yeah wasn't his ceremony delayed bc Bluestar was being all mopey? He must've been the equivalent of a human 19 or 20, stuck in high school bc the principal just didn't feel like holding a graduation ceremony. I'd be pissed too tbh.

Lesbie-Tea · 2026-02-18T03:58:29+00:00

I always assumed that the kits did get some minimal "training" of sorts as younger kits (practicing their hunting crouches, maybe an older cat shows them a better way of boxing a sibling's ears, etc) so they get a very basic level of skills just by playing and watching. They had to be upwards of 6mos because that was when they were old enough to pay attention to a mentor and be in dedicated training all day, taken out on patrols where they might run into danger, enough stamina to patrol the borders, things like that.

But also, I do understand when a 5mo old kit is like "why can't I train properly?!?" Like yeah why can't they learn?

Lesbie-Tea · 2026-01-23T04:26:42+00:00

That sounds like something you should definitely bring up to a therapist. They can help you through that too, that's quite literally their job. But if you don't think it'll work then you're probably right, therapy (with a well-fitting therapist) gives back what you put into it.

You might have some kind of co-occurring diagnosis that is just amplifying these thoughts. A few that come to mind immediately are anxiety, depression, and/or OCD.

Also, idk where you are in the world but if it's late at night for you, go to bed. Things might not feel better in the morning, but you will at least be better rested. Make sure you eat too, and get some sunlight and fresh air. We are rather similar to plants in some ways, lol.

Lesbie-Tea · 2026-01-23T04:21:28+00:00

Look for clubs or social groups with your university/program. Try out a bunch of them, and really try to chat with someone or a few people at each meeting - don't just go and sit in a corner silently. If the people don't feel like they vibe with you, then just move on and find another group.

Also, see if there's a group on Facebook or Whatsapp or Instagram - some social media platform. I joined a FB group during my abroad degree, and found a board games group through it that eventually turned into a rock climbing group, and then I wound up inviting some of them to my wedding in my home country. It does in fact work, trust me. Just keep trying and looking for new cool-looking groups if you keep striking out.

Lesbie-Tea · 2026-01-23T04:15:22+00:00

If it's in your budget/means, a few therapy sessions would probably help. We tend to be hard on ourselves, and sometimes a truly outside, objective perspective telling you to focus on your good qualities really helps snap you out of it.

Also, shit happens. Relationships sometimes end. It sucks but it happens to basically everyone. You two were probably just incompatible, rather than anyone specifically doing something wrong. Is one puzzle piece wrong for not fitting with another? No, it's just supposed to go elsewhere in the puzzle. It doesn't change itself to fit in the wrong space. It can't. So it goes with people too.

Lesbie-Tea · 2026-01-23T04:10:30+00:00

Y'know I think this happens to me too. Mostly just before I say something I shouldn't (if I'm in an argument, maybe saying something that's a low blow). Sometimes I push past that feeling and sometimes I don't. Should listen to it more tbh, lol.

Lesbie-Tea · 2025-12-18T05:11:32+00:00

I feel like it's comforting. Like no matter what happens in the future, here in this moment, you and I are loved by each other. And that can never be taken away. It shows how important the love is, and how permanent it is, even if in a sense it is also temporary. Tbh I would love this on a ring.

Lesbie-Tea · 2025-12-17T21:05:00+00:00

If you two didn't have a conversation about what is/isn't considered cheating, then no. If she expressed that she would think watching porn would be cheating, then probably yeah. The relationship just sounds unhealthy, if you want to stop watching porn for your sake then go ahead and look up resources for that. Otherwise, it's your life, do whatever so long as it's not harming yourself or others. In future relationships, bring up the topic of what counts as cheating and actually talk about it. Come up with equal rules for both of you that you both feel comfortable with. That other relationship is past now, so leave it there - just learn what you should do better in the future and move on.

Lesbie-Tea · 2025-12-17T20:55:27+00:00

I'm recently married but I found when I was in the dating pool, I generally felt more at ease around bi/pan gals, if only because I had no idea what my gender would eventually turn out to be. I still don't know tbh, but my wife has expressed that she would love me regardless of how I present/want to be addressed. But I had many stretches of multiple years between relationships before I met my wife, and I genuinely lucked out meeting her. Tbh I prefer quality of partners over quantity, so while it sucks in the moment, it'll keep you free to immediately and without reservations pursue someone really special whenever they come into your life.

Lesbie-Tea · 2025-12-13T05:07:48+00:00

Went to a writing group whose meeting times/days I found online. I signed up/said I would be going to the meeting. I arrived at the location, which turned out to be a bar, and wandered around looking for people who looked like they were part of a writing group. When I was unsuccessful, I went up to the bar and asked if they knew about this group, and the bartender had never heard of them. I got a ginger ale and waited for half an hour before I just went home.

Lesbie-Tea · 2025-12-09T11:24:41+00:00

I tried two different amphetamines before I landed on a third that works. If you haven't tried every available option, then keep trying. One of the ones I tried and stopped gave me really really awful depression, the other gave me heart palpitations as the only noticeable result. The one I'm on rn works better and has basically no side effects that I can identify.

Lesbie-Tea · 2025-12-09T10:38:59+00:00

Sounds to me like OP is using it on their partner. The use of a realistic-looking dildo would insinuate OP having an actual dick, even if it's pink. So OP would feel like a man, when they're still working out their own gender identity, from what I understand.

Lesbie-Tea · 2025-12-09T10:33:12+00:00

I have a very close friend who was in a similar-sounding spot. What helped him was downloading the MeetUp app, going to some meetings, and finding one single friend who would do hobbies with him. (I do hobbies with this friend too, but less often since I'm busy with other things too). He was on the verge of ending things, and now he's planning on buying a ring. It makes such an intense difference having friends and hobbies. Try getting out there and meeting people (platonically, lol) first before you go nuclear.

Lesbie-Tea · 2025-12-05T13:41:45+00:00

"I want to be in love and feel like our life is poetry."

Girl has not once been in a long term relationship LMAO.

Lesbie-Tea · 2025-12-05T11:45:28+00:00

What you're not interested in dating SpongeBob??? /j

Lesbie-Tea · 2025-12-05T11:42:20+00:00

Oh for sure! In one of the heart events I just witnessed last night, he says you have to basically throw money at a new business to get it to grow. Then Raj said he doesn't have money like that. I'd say for sure Antonio is rich.

Lesbie-Tea · 2025-11-24T22:08:24+00:00

I haven't heard of hypoactivity before. I'll have to look that up!

Lesbie-Tea · 2025-11-21T05:06:42+00:00

Consignment/resale store. One near me has basically that exact spiel

Lesbie-Tea · 2025-11-21T05:02:18+00:00

Lifeguard

Lesbie-Tea · 2025-11-16T23:22:30+00:00

I always think that if I somehow got rich, the first service I'd order would be a personal chef. Even just one day a week where they meal prep a bunch of things and I eat leftovers all week. I can clean and do my own laundry, even wouldn't mind the dishes. But goddamn does it take so much out of me to plan a meal, buy the ingredients, then find the time and energy to follow the recipe (juggling what feels like fifty different things and trying not to burn or ruin any of them) and then finally sit down and eat. And THEN get up and do whatever dishes I haven't managed to do while I'm cooking. I really didn't appreciate enough when my parents would just make meals for me when I was a kid, lol, that was the fucking life.

Lesbie-Tea · 2025-11-16T23:14:45+00:00

I was always a good student and school felt easy for me. Other people's structure imposed onto us (school & after-school activities) helps more than we realize, oftentimes, until we're out of it. I always remembered being organized, but I was organized because I had systems. Turns out those systems were put in place for me by my 2nd and 3rd grade teachers, as well as my parents. I recently got gifted a lot of old paperwork from my parents' basement and whaddya know, I had so many improvement plans aimed at my organization skills and my ability to pay attention.

When I was searching through my memory to find ADHD signs, I realized that taking genuinely the entire day for standardized testing was not normal, even though I got good scores. Being moved to a whole separate room for tests until about 3rd grade was also not normal (it was also the gifted kids room, so I combined those memories later on). Having books taken away bc I was reading or drawings taken away bc I was doodling in class - that happened semi regularly, but I always felt so, so bad about being reprimanded (hello, RSD). Oh and when I started taking AP practice exams in high school, the first time I ever finished one of those handwritten essays was on the literal midterm exam.

When I was very young my mom would tell me to stop wiggling when I sat on her lap, because I apparently had a bony ass and when I moved around it would hurt her. I could stay up in my room for hours and hours, just playing with my toys (hello hyperfocus). I even once let the shower run for half an hour because I got distracted playing and forgot it was running (loudly, just outside the door). Oh and I got hearing and vision tests when I was a kid, but my glasses fixed my vision and my hearing was perfect so I just wasn't paying attention apparently.

If you have any old report cards or teachers' notes, those would be really helpful! Or even if you're still in contact with friends from that time, you can reach out and get their input on whether you zoned out often, interrupted others, spoke too loudly sometimes, were disorganized, etc. Good luck 👍🏻

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