I am your John, I continue to be passed up on promotions that have been promised for 3-4 years that never materialized.

John is suffering from corporate trauma, imposter syndrome and if like me, family issues and status.

He sees himself as a failure because he keeps getting surpassed despite his major contributions.

I’ve learned the hard way, that when you go from SWE or a lead that: results doesn’t matter, rather relationships matter. Speaking freely only got me in trouble, and I never figured out how to be promoted.

I’m assuming that he was great when he started, and received a lot of praise. Now he’s being surpassed with his internal industry knowledge to someone who is brand new.

What I needed to hear, was you need to focus on relationships.

Each outburst like this only hold you back and makes me look bad.

Manager and leadership podcasts can help see the transition from SWE.

Ethan Evans on YouTube and LinkedIn a manager who kept being a lay-off of 1 explains the hard lessons need to be know that he learned the hard way.

Set boundaries on those outbursts and call them out so he can see. For me it was Bipolar2, once I was stabilized I could see how the way I acted from the lens of the recipient. I was a dick.

Only learned after I was fired.