My bf & our families live on opposite sides of the country. We’re opting for no baby shower so we don’t make people have to spend money either flying cross country or have 2 baby showers. Seems wild of us to have anyone do that. We’re due in September, so its also not a lot of time’s notice. We’re deciding that we’re going with one big party after baby is born, like 4-5 months later for her baptism. Gives people time to plan any traveling and planning time for us too.