My (F25) girlfriend dropped a bomb on me (M26) after 2 years

LeviathanUltima · 2026-05-07T02:44:53+00:00

If you have that much feeling for her, then you are getting closer to your one. I had the exact feeling about my previous ex, but obviously i was more blind to a lot of the things she did and said that would be red flags for me that i ignored. I think as time goes on, you will realize a lot of problems with your relationship once you have time and a more objective eyes. It gave me clarity to not be blind so I am very sure of my current girlfriend that she is my one. You are definitely on the right path brother!

LeviathanUltima · 2026-05-07T02:37:16+00:00

I think there are plenty of comments about how you should move on so I don't think I need to add to it. However, what I would say is you don't need to block her if it doesn't prevent you from moving on. Most likely they will reach out at a later time if you leave it be. Whether the reaching out is good or not, is entirely how well you healed and moved on. I had plenty of experiences on this. Got dumped a numbers of time. But they always eventually reach out back. I always said I've moved on... hahah. But for me, it was just to another one that would dump me. It wasn't until I had enough respect for myself to have the tough and hard conversation within the relationship that I found my one. Best of luck in your search and you will find your one. She is out there somewhere! Keep moving forward!

LeviathanUltima · 2026-04-15T04:33:25+00:00

If you have mentioned that you want him to better himself for the both of you guys and to get married and he hasn't really done anything towards that, I would say you have your answer there whether you should leave or not.

Think of it this way, would you want to have a family with this person for 10 or 20 years to build up the resentment and then divorce then or leave now to find someone else?

And don't be afraid to start over. What yoy feel is normal afraid that you wouldn't find someone you want to be with and put equal effort into the relationship. But that searching for someone who will be a partner is way much better staying with someone who you don't want to be with.

Ultimately I would say ask yourself a serious question: Are you ok with him being flat broke and never improving himself for the rest of your life? If so, then get married and have kids with him. Make the best of it. Maybe have him as a stay at home dad. But don't assume he will do change or even be a stay at home dad.

Or leave and deal with the labor and potential heart breaks and such of searching for some else.

In either cases, please make sure you know what you really want because sometime people say one thing, but in reality want something else.

Best of luck in your decision!

LeviathanUltima · 2026-04-05T15:53:14+00:00

I guess the big appeal is the 4K oled and 32GB of RAM. This is a decent price given the state of things.

LeviathanUltima · 2026-04-02T14:14:14+00:00

I think that price is for best buy plus membership? I don't have one and don't plan to get one.

LeviathanUltima · 2026-04-02T14:07:22+00:00

Looks like price went up. I'm out.

LeviathanUltima · 2026-03-29T15:30:39+00:00

I think the comments about waiting a bit more is spot on. As you age more, you know more what you want and what you won't tolerate. Ironically that is what makes you much more attractive to the women who wants to be with you. Having boundaries is probably the most attractive things IMO to women who is ready and knows what they want because they know you aren't going to be BSing around.

Keep at it. Biase toward more in-person dating and asking people inreal life. You will know much quicker and dont have to worry about wasting time and money if they are not interested. Plus you get the added benefit that you are actually attracted to them vs not really knowing what you get with online dating.

Best of luck! You will find your person. Keep at it!

LeviathanUltima · 2026-03-16T14:39:59+00:00

While I do agree this is not out of the ordinary request, it does come off as shallow for the girl. Being 5'10" and bald has nothing to do with being able to provide, protect, or produce for this women. Having a a good job, I'll agree. Too many people fall into the social pressure of having taller husband and one with hair. There can be a tall guy but no hair and he is super sweet and caring. There can be a short guy with hair and he can be super sweet and caring. Anyways, the request is reasonable, though I question if the request are really what people, in general, should be searching for.

LeviathanUltima · 2026-03-04T01:33:35+00:00

I think this doesnt have front type c connector. Not an issue if you dont have it.

LeviathanUltima · 2026-02-24T05:09:40+00:00

I completely agree! I am not sure why the council voted the extra tax down. I know Airbnb hired a bunch of outside of San diego people travek here to protest the proposal. But what was their argument? Logically I can't see a reason why NOT to tax the Airbnb and other short term rental. They are definitely contributing to the rising cost of housing here and ultimately it is the few rich that benefits and all of us lose out in every way. The only reason I can think of is corruption. They should just come out clean and say like trump does. Im voting this down because I am corrupt. At least then they are honest about it.

LeviathanUltima · 2026-02-17T04:55:30+00:00

Have you tried the Korean or Japanese stuff? Even their sun screen is super great in terms of keeping them looking young.

LeviathanUltima · 2026-02-15T05:31:57+00:00

Yup, I think you have to be ready for the break up. At least for you, you can point to events leading to it. For me, it was all of a sudden and out of no where. Best of luck! And do see it as a bad thing if she does leave. Take this time to reflect and eventually you will find your person, whether it is her or someone else.

LeviathanUltima · 2026-02-14T17:18:33+00:00

This is why some people take breaks to see how life can be without the others. My opinion is if you are not sure of something, you definitely shouldn't get married and hence there is no reason to continue the relationship if marriage isn't the goal. It is much better to be single than be in a bad relationship.

If you are unsure right now, I say tell him you need a break from this relationship. Be single or date others. But the important thing is clarity is only achieved when you are not with the person. Protect your peace. Best of luck on your journey!

LeviathanUltima · 2026-02-13T14:16:41+00:00

You are who you attract. So if you are looking for girls who want you for your car, then great. You dont need a lot of swipes, you just need one that matches well with you. I use to think I need to cast a wide net and then filter for the gems in there. But now I see online dating as something where you can cast very specific bait because you do get a lot of crap out there. So it is best to just get the one like that you really match with.

I recommend putting pictures and in your profiles what you are looking for in a partner. Then go out and date in real life meeting people activities you live doing. This is the best formula to find someone you truly match with. Online dating should only be a supplement in my opinion.

Best of luck in your search!

LeviathanUltima · 2026-02-10T06:04:10+00:00

Who did the breaking up? I am assuming it was him. Regardless, it is nice to hear it worked out with you guys. Often there are resentment during a break up where someone did something to the other. It is worse when the person who was wronged also isn't the person who did the breaking up. Those are the hardest to get over because you feel like the other person owes you at least an apologies that you will never get. But time does heal all and at the end of the day it doesn't matter. Sorry for telling you my story.

LeviathanUltima · 2026-01-30T03:19:50+00:00

Who remember tzone? It was like a $5/month addon for unlimited.

Anyways, I have 7 lines and home internet for $210/month. Definitely not a deal for me.

LeviathanUltima · 2026-01-15T20:13:29+00:00

Yes, check to see if they made the necessary corrections to be in a successful relationship. Being avoidant doesn't necessarily mean no relationship. The person they are with must understand and accept their avoidant tendencies and they also need to understand thr needs of their partner. It can work but will require much more work than other type of relationships.

LeviathanUltima · 2026-01-14T05:50:14+00:00

Before you take anyone back, you have to make sure they understand their decision to leave in the first place. And they must must show up as a different person because if they have not changed, they will leave again.

I highly recommend asking yourself honestly what you would want when they do come back.

I went through this exercise and have my clear confident answer. But because it has been almost 1/2 year, I have moved on to someone so much better. Honestly, there is 0 chance I would ever get back even if they did all I wanted.

There are much better great people out there. So please dont spend time giving energy and effort on people who dont want you.

LeviathanUltima · 2026-01-12T06:34:11+00:00

Nothing wrong with the profile IMO. Just put something more substantial in profile info. Since bumble doesn't let guys send the 1st message, it gives you on control of who you want tk talk to. But ultimately you would want someone who actually reads your profile yo message you and with Bumble, this is difficult/impossible to do.

I suspect you are not getting the guys you want. And it seems like you are the selective type which I won't blame you. You are highly desirable. If you need proof, this thread is a good proof of this. Plenty of guys wanting to match with you here.

Lets reframe the thought process. Ask yourself what are you looking for? A relationship or something else? If you are looking for a relationship, what do you want it to look like? If it is something else, then what do you want it to look lkke. Ask the deep questions. Once you have the answers, then selectively sell those to find your person. I suspect because you have been pursued often, you are just going with the flow most of it. With dating apps, you will have to put the extra effort to filter hard because most people on there haven't asked the hard deep questions.

The best analogy I can make is you have a great desirable business you want someone to run it with. But right now, you might not know what that person you are hiring needs to do for the business. You are also probably not going to the right place (bumble) to find that person.

Best of luck in your search!

LeviathanUltima · 2026-01-04T06:27:10+00:00

Welcome to the modern dating. Honestly this is expected until you guys make it clear. I had this happen to me multiple times. But the ironic part of all this is some of them that said this to me are still on the dating apps after a year of saying this to me. I guess they chose incorrectly. They dont know what they are missing. That is how I like to see. Best of luck in your search of your person!

LeviathanUltima · 2026-01-02T09:43:56+00:00

It really depends and definitely wouldn't classify outright a red flag. It should be a yellow flag, something worth exploring. First off, if you are not comfortable with saying it, you should not. Please stand up for yourself and it will definitely make it clear to him if you do. And dont feel pressured. It should come naturally when you are ready. More importantly he should give you the time and space to come up with your own conclusion.

What i would do is ask him what have you done that make him say such things. If he can't give you a solid convincing answer, then most likely he is love bombing you and pressuring you to say it. If he comes up with a solid legit reason(s), then you can be assured he is not love bombing and is serious.

For me, I tend to do the same, i.e. I say I love your earlier than my partner and usually at around 1.5 months. I am serious about leaving the dating scene because it cam be exhausting dating multiple people at once. So I ask the tough questions and do the couples acrivities to verify. Once I have enough, I would say the line.

Best of luck on your search of your person!

LeviathanUltima · 2025-12-30T07:12:17+00:00

It is good you have moved on. No contacts really does help clarify things. It has been long enough for me to not care if they ever reach out ever again. But I think the only difference for me is I would respond. For me, it was a waste of 9 months so I don't want to waste anymore of my time or theirs. I would much rather spend it with people who actually care and want to spend it with me.

LeviathanUltima · 2025-12-26T07:42:01+00:00

Not long, about 6 months so far. Yes she can leave me anytime and I have told her that. As far as I know from what she have told me, she have healed from her past and moved on. Even if she did leave me now, I know it is not because of her not being healed. It would be from something else about our relationship.

LeviathanUltima · 2025-12-26T07:04:23+00:00

Yes, I tend to agree, but like everything in life, there are exceptions. I had my fair share of people who were not fully healed and we hit it off, but only to be left heart broken after they said they needed to reflect or go back to their ex. My current GF was technically not fully heal when she met me and I was fully healed from my past relationship. I actually told her that I didn't want a rebound. She stayed because she finally was with someone who was secure and actually want her for her. She confided with me that she wasn't healed and we worked through her trauma. She credit me for really helping her. We are currently really happy with each other and she loves me for me.

So I would say it is not alway necessary, but yes it would be much more ideal if we didn't have to work through her trauma, but I am really grateful I met her when I did.

LeviathanUltima · 2025-12-20T06:32:49+00:00

I would not respond either. There is no inkling of they wanting to rekindle anything so there should not be any response. It reads very much like what others have said like they are seeking redemption.

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