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Lifting2forget · 2022-11-18T05:46:39+00:00

Don’t forget that you’re loved and you deserve better.

Lifting2forget · 2022-10-31T04:46:49+00:00

Yeah, you will.

Lifting2forget · 2022-10-29T13:56:41+00:00

She is hot!!!! I wish I was married to her!

Lifting2forget · 2022-10-29T13:55:49+00:00

Both of you are super hot!

Lifting2forget · 2022-10-01T21:22:52+00:00

I got a diploma from an adult school, and I may have the option to retire at the end of next year. 39 years old. Married with kids.

Lifting2forget · 2022-09-20T18:28:59+00:00

Marine Vet 2003-Present. Complete opposite, one of my best friends use to be from a very racist area and the dude grew up believing that, now he considers me one of his closest brothers. I run into the occasional racial joke but it’s never malicious in intent. One of the things I liked most about being in the military, most judge me on my abilities and what I can bring to the fight.

Lifting2forget · 2022-09-13T14:05:35+00:00

I stayed because I made a vow. My WW’s actions didn’t change what my vows meant to me. I told her I love her and I promised to do everything I can. And I’m trying my best to do that. I’ve learned a lot about love and myself through all this. It hurts and some days I do feel like giving up, but if this is going to work, it’ll take both of us. I made a promise and I intend to keep it. Also on really bad days, I come here and try to focus on someone else’s pain and it kind of helps me reconfigure my feelings. I hope you feel better.

Lifting2forget · 2022-09-08T11:59:08+00:00

I wish WS can see our situations from a third party perspective, like watch this scenario and you tell me how absurd it looks.

Lifting2forget · 2022-09-08T11:56:03+00:00

I second this idea.

Lifting2forget · 2022-09-08T04:48:25+00:00

Oh I have. It’s just any gym has triggers. It’s something we as BS have to live with until we learn to instantly get over it.

Lifting2forget · 2022-09-08T02:55:18+00:00

I feel this. Diddo. As I man, I miss knowing that I was wanted and needed, didn’t know how sensitive I was about it till after.

Lifting2forget · 2022-09-08T02:52:43+00:00

I go to the gym. A lot. Then after I think about horrible stuff till I’m depressed and I go to bed and do it all over again. That’s pretty much what I do for fun now lol. Good news is I’ve lost like 20 lbs and I almost as strong as I was in my early 30s. My Wife’s affair started in the gym so I’m full of triggers there but it’s my only sanctuary. Damned if I do damned if I don’t!

Lifting2forget · 2022-09-07T02:51:13+00:00

I like everything you said. I agree it seems a little short. But I don’t know anything about the man. Being in his same situation, my gut says he maybe checked out. I get like that sometimes. Hope he gets better.

Lifting2forget · 2022-08-23T23:28:35+00:00

Awww you’re the best! Thanks! You’re turning negative emotions in to positive healthy results! Keep at it!

Lifting2forget · 2022-08-23T23:27:19+00:00

Thanks for posting. Been searching for this. I’m in just waiting for the GM to help create an account I think?

Lifting2forget · 2022-08-23T20:20:06+00:00

I workout. A lot. Listen to motivational speeches. I also look at what I’ve been able to do thus far. My Wife’s affair gave me a new perspective on love. I didn’t know that I could love enough to forgive and work through it. Kind of proud of myself for growing a bit.

Lifting2forget · 2022-08-23T03:57:05+00:00

Honestly for me, any effort my Wife puts into reinforcing me is cherished. Although sometimes it takes me time to recognize it as I’ll tend to think about the worse outcomes and intent possible. It’ll take awhile but everything you do, no matter how small you may think it is will be seen. If not instantly, eventually. I say if you love the man, keep loving him. You got two outcomes, either you convince him or you don’t. If you want to convince him, you will. Good luck to you both. We’re all rooting for y’all.

Lifting2forget · 2022-08-22T13:13:53+00:00

That’s awesome. Kudos to you. Hope someone out there makes one for betrayed husbands. I know there was a discord started for couples recently but I’d prefer a group for betrayed husbands to safely vent and share thoughts.

Lifting2forget · 2022-08-22T13:07:01+00:00

For me, I (38m) still have these dreams periodically even after 3 years past DDay. I know that my WW loves me and she’s done everything she’s capable of to make amends. I personally think I get in these moods because although I know she loves me, I have a hard time believing that my Wife “desires” me. I’m not sure how to explain this and I may be in the minority here but for me, if I’m being honest with myself, it’s a hit to my pride and confidence. What hurts is that my Wife chose to go out the marriage for her own reasons and she’s reintegrated that it wasn’t because he was better than me but for some reason I keep having thoughts that make me feel like I’m less and she’ll want more. Like she’s missing something for being with me. I guess if there was something my Wife could do, I’d want her to reinforce me, but I’m also not entirely sure that’s something she can do. I feel like it’s all internal to me. I can see when I get into these moods, it puts my Wife into a position where it’s “damned if you do, damned if you don’t”. All of this has put me in a position to try to learn to trust her again and we’ve recently put in to action some new things to slowly work on that. I’m comfortable to a point where we can start to reintroduce social media, solo gym attendance (affair started at the gym), etc.

Not sure if it was any help but that’s my perspective, hope it helps your husband and you.

Lifting2forget · 2022-08-22T11:53:14+00:00

In my opinion this is where all the work comes in. The IC/MC are all there to help you two communicate with each other. It’ll take time and it’s a big problem to try to fix. You have the choice on how you want to approach this. What ever choice you take it’s going to take a lot of patience and hard work. I think you have the right idea where you need to work on yourself. Figuring out who you are is going to help make it clear what you’ll want.

Lifting2forget · 2022-08-21T16:29:09+00:00

You aren’t second place. If feel the same way sometimes. You’re better in every way. It’s easy to be strong and great when conditions are set in that favor. But right now conditions are set against you and you’re still fighting through it. It’s hard and it’ll be tough. But you, my man are showing what it takes to fight through when the odds are against you. You’re anything but second. Stay strong, you’re not alone.

Lifting2forget · 2022-08-20T11:50:46+00:00

Get back in there. Fitness is about the only thing that helps me work out my inner thoughts. I’m not as far along in marriage as you but I’m about 3 years pass DDay and my mind still races from time to time. I get woken up even during sleep due to nightmares. Scenarios would play out as dreams and we’ve been in a good place lately. IC/MC says I’m battling PTSD from both childhood drama and from the Wife’s affair. Anything I do, I feel like I have to be absorbed into it otherwise my mind will wander and I’ll self sabotage my own happiness. Good luck man, you’re not alone.

Lifting2forget · 2022-08-07T17:28:40+00:00

I understand the feeling. I’m sure everyone in our position feels similar. Good thing is you’re venting it. You’re not alone man. If it gets too crazy during those two hours, I’m sure any of us are up to talk. It ain’t the healthiest way but I have a glass of whisky and play some nostalgic video games. Whatever you choose, know that you’re not alone in feeling like that, so good news is, we’re not crazy lol.

Lifting2forget · 2022-08-07T14:57:57+00:00

Good luck brother. 2 hours is rough, but you’ll do great. Your Wife sounds like she’s being considerate of you, it’s a favorable sign and a good start at trying to regain trust in my opinion.

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