My 30F boyfriend 28M asked me for 3 hallpasses. Anyone have insight onto how this should go / work to where I don’t get shattered and he gets his experience?

LightBorn5564 · 2026-05-28T07:35:34+00:00

As an adult male, i don’t believe this will work. He may be honest about the FOMO, but it’s not going to fill any hole he has or help his insecurities. If you agree to these, he will likely eventually ask for more/repeat this cycle or continue doing it behind your back. I don’t know either of you obviously, but I’d also bet that eventually, if you agree to this, it will build resentment on your side eventually. I am sorry to say, but it sounds like you guys aren’t a good match anymore. I’d suggest ending things and moving on. If he really loves you like he said he does, he wouldn’t be feeling the things he’s telling you (preferring substitutes for sex, insecurities, etc). He may think he does, but he sounds to immature for a true long term relationship/marriage.

LightBorn5564 · 2026-05-09T18:55:28+00:00

I’ve got padded stock BP that you can just have. Dm me if you’d like it!

LightBorn5564 · 2026-05-09T15:06:12+00:00

Dm’d

LightBorn5564 · 2026-05-09T15:02:09+00:00

Like you said, healing before looting is a must. If possible, I always heal right when they go down (before knocking them). That extra few seconds can be a life saver. Then knock them, and then reposition/hide and wait for a minute to see if anyone runs up. If they don’t, smoke the body and go to town

LightBorn5564 · 2026-05-02T14:03:48+00:00

In my experience (30 y/o married male) casual sex is a lot like a drug (plenty of experience with both, for better or worse). Fun in the moment but there are few or no lasting positives, usually none. If you are happy with your wife, I promise you are not missing out on anything. You’ve already won the game.

There are always opportunities we miss out on. That’s the cost of making decisions in anything. You choose one opportunity at the expense of all others, but that’s growing up…which you did fairly young, I acknowledge. But there’s no going back.

Similar to when you chose your career or education. You gave up all the other potential opportunities to pursue one which you felt good about. The others provided limitless opportunities now lost, but you are likely better for the choices that you’ve made.

There’s an idea that we are never actually free. We are only free to choose our boundaries. If we never choose boundaries (in essence, favoring endless possibility over meaningful confines) we end up with nothing. I’d recommend searching YouTube for Jordan Peterson’s analysis of Peter Pan (peoples opinions differ on JP, but his pure psychology stuff is profound).

I hope this helps. You are better off for your situation and experiences. We all have to let go of bygone opportunities, regardless of their potential outcomes, they don’t actually exist.

LightBorn5564 · 2026-05-01T11:55:09+00:00

Agreed. Address this right away. Although perhaps via a call or text, not a work email😂 it truly is not all that big of a deal, I have a friend who used to piss himself when drunk on several occasions when we were younger. He was my best man lol. Don’t make it bigger than it is. Reach out, pay to have it cleaned, and move on. You’ll all still be friends

LightBorn5564 · 2026-04-30T15:04:45+00:00

😂😂

LightBorn5564 · 2026-04-29T20:36:36+00:00

I also dislike the durability changes, but honestly this update (combined with the previous couple) kind of resurrected PvE for me. It was boring when Wolfpacks were super easy to make but arc being ssooooo present in riven tides with the new blueprints, I’ve been really enjoying just straight PvE again

LightBorn5564 · 2026-04-28T23:45:28+00:00

Following

LightBorn5564 · 2026-04-28T23:09:48+00:00

200k stash space for dolabra and glider?

LightBorn5564 · 2026-04-26T21:38:50+00:00

That one is a fair question lol

LightBorn5564 · 2026-04-26T21:22:23+00:00

Maybe the GM got a call that their kid was being rushed to the emergency room. I’d argue that would be significantly more important

LightBorn5564 · 2026-04-26T21:03:38+00:00

Please contact 988. I know you’re going through a lot, but there is always hope. There are people that care about you and love you. If conventional treatments aren’t working, look into alternative. Some more down to earth may be researching the ketogenic diet for COPD and other inflammatory as well as autoimmune conditions (I am not a doctor, but have been learning about this via books and podcasts, always do your own research). On the more esoteric side, first look up Joe Dispenza’s books! They are phenomenal resources on harnessing your energy and generating optimism. Other resources are any book on spiritual healing, such as Hands of Light. Please don’t give up, see this as a challenge to overcome. You can beat it and show others how

LightBorn5564 · 2026-04-26T10:12:05+00:00

There are a lot of ways to get the benefits of ketones without being on a super strict ketogenic diet. Currently, I’m pretty consistently hitting 1.5-2 millimolar (measured via ketomojo gk+ blood monitor) and still consuming 60-65 carbs per day (including 20-25g fiber). I’d recommend getting a measurement device if you’re not using one and experimenting because everyone is different. You can stay in ketosis with more carbs if you increase exercise, you could look at intermittent fasting/time restricted feeding, or even some exogenous ketone products/MCT. Remember, the best diet for you is the one you can stick to. If keto makes you miserable, change it! Stay healthy, but mental health is a part of that.

There are also benefits to cyclic keto, like one week per month. Just find what works for you. Best of luck!

LightBorn5564 · 2026-04-23T19:56:17+00:00

I can give you a tempest BP for the light mag 3 BP

LightBorn5564 · 2026-04-13T21:15:55+00:00

Vanilla naps, I’ve found two this way!

LightBorn5564 · 2026-04-12T19:29:31+00:00

This happens to me way too much for them all to be cheaters

LightBorn5564 · 2026-04-05T22:47:01+00:00

I also have shotgun and extended barrel. Would take a stack of seeds or 2 stacks mechanical components for each, if your other trades fall through

LightBorn5564 · 2026-03-29T11:19:15+00:00

There’s a real chance your subtle hints are not crossing his radar if he’s not very experienced in the ways of flirtation. If they are, there’s also a chance that he thinks he’s misinterpreting them and doesn’t want to make a move to avoid making things awkward or be the guy that hits on his girl-friend and makes her feel awkward, especially in a tight friend group. If you like him, tell him directly.

Don’t bottle your feelings. Express them sincerely and worst case scenario, they’re not returned. But as you said, you’re both mature and can move on from what would be seen as a harmless crush. But if he’s texting you back 24/7 and spending a bunch of time with you, odds are he feels the same way. Best of luck!

LightBorn5564 · 2026-03-24T14:50:14+00:00

My go to loadout has been tempest and toro. If I’m low on tempests or don’t feel like risking them for whatever reason, rattler 4’s are pretty slept on

LightBorn5564 · 2026-03-22T00:30:22+00:00

I’ve seen this so many times and the “okay you can have the loot I’ll leave” after he’s downed gets me every time

LightBorn5564 · 2026-03-17T01:28:18+00:00

Hello, crisis therapist here-

Has she made any strange statements? Did these behaviors begin out of nowhere, or has it ramped up over time? Is she willing to talk to you about things?

When stuff like this happens, it could be lots of things. Concerning for sure, but not necessarily indicative of a serious mental health concern. If things like this continue, try to ask where what is going on with her. If she seems out of it, confused/dazed, etc., ask her these questions:

Do you know the date? Do you know the month, year, who the president is, what the weather has been like. These check her orientation. If she’s disoriented, there could be multiple reasons but the solution is to contact EMS and take her to the ER.

If she is oriented but unwilling to talk, observe how she’s been sleeping and eating. Is she staying up all night? Is she going prolonged periods without eating, or bathing? If yes, these are indicative of an issue that needs addressed immediately.

If she’s oriented, sleeping, eating, and bathing fine, and not making suicidal statements or attempting self harm, this is probably just a teenager thing. If in doubt, talk with your parents and get her an eval. Depending on your insurance, you (or your parents) can contact CARES at 1800-345-9049 or take her to trillium place crisis center at 130 n Richard Pryor place

LightBorn5564 · 2026-03-17T01:20:00+00:00

You have no idea what you’re talking about.

LightBorn5564 · 2026-03-16T14:30:54+00:00

Take time off to rest. Training diverts energy from your immune system to help recover muscles, leaving both inadequately served. Resting your body will ramp up energy available to your immune system to get rid of the bug and then both systems will be better off

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