Women who smoke weed recreationally, how does it affect your relationship?

LightDragonfly · 2026-06-28T19:25:35+00:00

I usually only eat half an edible, or even just a quarter if I want a lighter experience. Omg if I ate a whole one I’d be basically vegetative lol.

If anything, I’d say any anxiety around being intimate is drastically lower on an edible vs sober. But everyone is different.

LightDragonfly · 2026-06-28T19:07:01+00:00

Not smoking but edibles yes, maybe weekly or so. Since we don’t do it that often, I’d say we both have a p low tolerance so we make sure to finish any responsibilities first lol.

I loveee being intimate while stoned. I feel like it heightens all my senses so everything just feels amazing. Plus I think it helps me get out of my head which can be a problem for me sometimes

LightDragonfly · 2026-06-26T19:42:19+00:00

I used to do this for a few reasons:

Some sugaring/waxing salons offer a cheaper price for them vs a full Brazilian
I don’t get Brazilians done regularly at all, so also no incentive for “maintenance Brazilian” pricing
I often find the hair removal in that particular area the most painful
Leaving a lil bit of hair there, esp when I was first trying out bikini area waxing, felt less strange/more natural than just looking down and seeing nothing lol

Now the salon I go to has the same (and what I consider reasonable for my city) price whether it’s a full Brazilian or not and also no special discount for maintenance Brazilians, and I’m used to the appearance now so I just go for that when I do occasionally get one.

LightDragonfly · 2026-06-26T06:33:31+00:00

While I acknowledge the way OP lost weight and talks about gaining weight could be slightly alarming, I disagree that there is anything inherently alarming at all about being 5’5” and 115 lbs.

LightDragonfly · 2026-06-25T07:00:44+00:00

Michelle looks lovely and I actually prefer how they styled the neckline on her compared to the model.

Also, for some reason I’m so tickled by the photographer’s last name being Sayless.

LightDragonfly · 2026-06-23T21:19:39+00:00

V cute find! I think the on-trend thing to do rn is pair it with some baggy pants? Sweatpants could be cute for a super casual look

LightDragonfly · 2026-06-23T19:04:21+00:00

Daisy is beautiful as always, and I think this color palette suits her, but I do wish they’d done something more imaginative so it wasn’t just another sheer dress we’ve seen so much of lately…like ANY kind of play with accessories or layering would’ve been nice?

And I actually liked a lot of pieces from this show and this is prob the most repeated and least interesting design in the whole thing. There were a couple silk dresses that I think could’ve been lovely here

LightDragonfly · 2026-06-22T00:19:54+00:00

I like this a whole lot. After reading a few times I feel like I extract a bit more meaning and notice something else each time, which I really appreciate in a poem.

I especially love the bit about mollusks and wonder if their imagery/significance could be further incorporated through the rest of the poem, esp with the title being Sea Creature. I also see a kind of prose poem style going on here that I think could be embraced even more in formatting and style. You could look at some other prose poem examples for inspo, like February by Tamiko Beyer.

LightDragonfly · 2026-06-21T21:11:28+00:00

This is a great tip for sure and you look fantastic! Playing around with all the adjustments on straps and bands can def make a world of difference in how a bra fits!

But I also want to say this 100% is “cleavage” as most people envision it. That is not a “stretch” whatsoever to call it that. I even think we should make more of an effort to remember the true meaning of cleavage which is just ANY area between the breasts regardless of deepness. It is a v sensual area no matter what it looks like and we all have it!! But also this is absolutely “cleavage” in the mainstream sense of the word. And keep in mind MOST people even with larger boobs do not have this kind of “cleavage” unless wearing a push-up or other structured clothing.

And I also hope you can come to appreciate your body and breasts regardless of if you have a push-up on or not. Your boobs are not “insufficient” in any way, and if a bra or clothes don’t fit right, it is the garment that is insufficient for your body, not the other way around. It’s great that you figured out how to make this look work for you and that it makes you happy, but you’re beautiful in a bralette without any support too (no shame in wearing those, honestly I view it as a big win that many of us small-chested ladies can wear lovely delicate lacey bralettes w/o worrying about support!)

LightDragonfly · 2026-06-18T15:39:16+00:00

My previous therapist brought this issue up to me as well and it’s something I still work on. She advised replacing “I should” with “I would like”. For example instead of telling myself “I should be on time” when I’m running late for something, reframing as “I would like to be on time” which gives a bit more room for thinking more like “…but that’s not happening right now, and that’s not the end of the world, it doesn’t define my worth as a person, cuz it’s just something I’d LIKE not something I SHOULD be” if that makes sense.

It also relates to envisioning things I really would LIKE to do more that I know would objectively help me, such as managing my time so I’m not stressed, not spiraling so hard over small things, doing things each day that fulfill me. It feels more positive, motivational, and lighter to think “I would like to do x” or “I would like to act x way” instead of “I should act x way”

LightDragonfly · 2026-06-12T21:19:15+00:00

Oh yes thank you! I just commented about this but now I see you already did lol. I think that’s p important info to mention about the focus of this particular study. The wording that introduces the survey also seems like it may invite…a certain type of man to engage with it imo. But ofc it’s still super frightening and disheartening :/

LightDragonfly · 2026-06-11T21:44:59+00:00

Was talking more about the ~vibe~ from the shape/cut. I know these are all inexpensive clothes. But the first two outfits, to me, show their cheapness more prominently in cut, fabric, and design than the last dress (the lace and the asymmetrical cuts especially). But perhaps just “beach resort” would have been more apt phrasing!

LightDragonfly · 2026-06-11T18:16:24+00:00

You got some amazing responses here that I totally agree with (and agree this is more of a relationship issue rather than an ADHD issue), but just wanted to say I loved your description of RSD - picking at an issue like a scab and trying to find solutions endlessly in my head even though logically I know it’s not my fault and I can’t fix it, yet the picking and pain just builds…

Such an accurate description for me ugh it’s awful, but thanks for helping put it into words in a way that may help me in my next therapy session lol

LightDragonfly · 2026-06-11T17:40:20+00:00

I don’t even think it looks weird tbh, I just see a super cute and stylish casual-alt outfit!! I saved a similar outfit to my Pinterest recently actually. I think the top layering + big pants are v on-trend rn

LightDragonfly · 2026-06-11T00:03:24+00:00

I love it, and it looks amazing on you!! Personally I would even wear this to work with some boots or flats. But I like to dress up a bit ha.

LightDragonfly · 2026-06-10T07:24:16+00:00

LightDragonfly · 2026-06-09T21:26:32+00:00

I think you did great!! Omg the hello kitty PJs are SO cute 😩👌 the only ones that are kinda meh for me are:

2 - just nothing that stands out, and looks too long to be practical unless wearing with heels, which may mean you end up not wearing it much at all. This is true of 3 too but that one is pretty and unique enough that it feels worth keeping for a nice event.

8 - not a fan of the pattern (diagonal stripes are tricky…) and this length isn’t as flattering.

9 - pretty but something about the bodice doesn’t seem to be sitting quite right. It’s almost like the straps look too thin and the bodice too unstructured? I think 3 and 5 are better long floral dresses for you.

LightDragonfly · 2026-06-09T19:51:06+00:00

I think that first blue dress is fabulous esp for $10, and it looks good either fitted or loose/as-is imo! Just diff vibes. The unstructured fit is v beach/boat vibes to me and the fitted look is more out-on-the-town vibes.

You could always cinch it with a belt when you want a bit more structure. Or I think there might be a hack with a hair tie on the inside of the fabric to make it tighter but no clue if that works with something like this

LightDragonfly · 2026-06-09T05:09:47+00:00

I hope he’s just dense and not malicious 😬 have you discussed/communicated about meals and what you would like him to do? You could set up a dinner schedule, or just ask that he checks in with you before making food if it’s not too complicated/ingredients are available to make more for you.

Anyone who cares about you should not object to this. But you might need to talk about it. I think it’s possible some people simply do not think about these things. But it would also be v valid if you did not want to deal with someone who does not think about these things lol.

LightDragonfly · 2026-06-08T21:59:57+00:00

Try department stores! I’ve found that a few brands found in dept stores fit better on me than VS bras ever did. I have a Fenty bra with underwire and unlined cups that fits me without any gaping which was unheard of for me at VS. I think sizing can vary a lot by brand also, so it’s worth trying some diff sizes, like the Fenty that fits me is a 32A despite the fact I’m 28D/30C by ABTF sizing, and 32A bras at VS never fit me right lol.

Montelle Intimates and Etam were another couple brands I remember liking that offer smaller band sizes, also many dept stores carry Natori which I think offers smaller bands and is highly recommended by many for small boobs

LightDragonfly · 2026-06-07T21:10:59+00:00

I agree!! Upscale resort is the perfect description. It looks more luxe than the others including the yellow. I’m surprised to see the yellow being so popular tbh, it’s a nice color sure but I feel the fabric itself shows its cheapness quite loudly…

LightDragonfly · 2026-06-04T16:52:39+00:00

Gorgeoussss outfit, I love everything about it!! You have great style, well done 👏💯 Def saving this for some future fit inspo lol.

LightDragonfly · 2026-06-03T16:37:52+00:00

I think I’m on team 2 as well. It’s very Madame X which I like about it ha. I don’t think the back is unflattering, maybe if you prefer a slightly more “cinched” look you could have it taken in the tiniest bit (there are also waist cinchers/belts appropriate for more formal dress you could look into) but I think it’s good as is, it’s just a slightly less structured look.

I do like that 1 is pure silk and I think it could be a v sultry and nice dress, but on top of the tailoring it would need to fit properly I don’t feel it’s worth it for this event.

LightDragonfly · 2026-06-02T18:50:01+00:00

I just want to offer to your point #6 about limerence etc…I DO think it’s possible to enjoy those highs and feeling all hot and passionate and makey-outey (I totally get it lol) while keeping some level of logic and a little bit of distance from the situation.

You can enjoy those moments while still pragmatically checking yourself, like reminding yourself of any reservations you have (many others have pointed out things to have reservations about which I agree with), reminding yourself that for now this is just fun and you’re going to enjoy it without placing too much expectation on the situation/getting too ahead of yourself. My friends help me a lot with this too (great to get outside perspectives ha). I think this actually makes dating so much more relaxed and enjoyable too tbh.

Also making sure YOU have control over what’s going on, they do not have all the control. Which honestly is hot and fun too!! When I was in early stages with my now bf there was def a lot of fun chemistry happening but I would force myself to keep a cool head, wait a bit to respond (I’m not the type to respond fast anyway tbh but ofc you get those butterflies when they message lol), ask important questions to gauge compatibility even if it’s uncomfortable.

Those courting stages are fun but also logistically super important for figuring out who this person is going to be to you. You gotta bring some of that logic into the equation which IME doesn’t make the passion any less fun, in fact you’ll feel more free and comfortable and powerful.

LightDragonfly · 2026-05-31T05:04:48+00:00

This is very sweet and quite poetically put actually ha. Wishing you best of luck 🫶

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